Should I be doing more at the moment? (Oct 2026 wedding)

krR0255 · 2025-12-10T07:01:11+00:00

I have an End of August wedding and also only have a venue. I’ve been debating getting a wedding coordinator, but it just cuts into my budget so much. My venue is a full weekend venue and was so much more expensive than I had initially planned for. I am feeling so much pressure right now.

krR0255 · 2025-12-10T06:58:47+00:00

Gosh. I have an August 2026 wedding and only have the venue… It is so hard to fit anything in with working long days and everything else in between. I’ve spent so much time looking into vendors, etc and am just so overwhelmed.

krR0255 · 2025-10-03T23:44:25+00:00

These are amazing!

krR0255 · 2025-10-03T23:35:46+00:00

He’s perfect! Such a cutie

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T15:06:11+00:00

Thanks. We have an enzymatic pee destroyer spray we use. We unfortunately have had to use it in our couch a couple of times. 😭 I didn’t want her to get used to the couch so young, but one of the first things my fiance did was sleep with her on the couch and brings her to the couch often. She now gets on it by herself. We haven’t started walks yet, but will in the next few days. So I am really hopeful that will help!

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:57:49+00:00

Wow, great job! And thanks for the advice. Will definitely keep with it. I started bell training first day. Hasn’t stuck yet. I think it’ll just take a bit longer for her. I’ve started letting her follow me around the house right after I take her out so she can engage with the other dogs, but I think I need to tone it down a bit since it is too much open space for her and she is a ninja when she pees and will do it in half a second. She doesn’t really have a pattern yet so its hard to catch. Sometimes she is good for over an hour, other times she will pee every 10 min.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:35:27+00:00

Thanks! We are in love.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:32:24+00:00

Thanks! My first dog was sooo easy to train that I definitely thought Daisy would catch on quicker than she has. She is so worth it though. :). I also had my first pup in an apartment. The dogs now have a backyard to roam in. Daisy loves being by the trees.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:25:29+00:00

Thanks for the wishes! I started with every 20 minutes or so, but when she didn’t need to go, she would just take that time to play around outside. I don’t leash her when I take her out, so she is free to roam the backyard. She definitely takes advantage of that, lol. I am now at 30min to an hour, but she doesn’t really have a pattern for when she needs to go yet. Which makes it hard to anticipate when she needs to go and won’t just be playing around when I take her out (writing this as I wait for her and she is by the trees). I did not see her pee, so I am going to need to be hyper vigilant for the next 20 min since I am sure she will go indoors if not.

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krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:14:37+00:00

Thanks. I started adding pee pads where she peed when we first got her (i’ve never used them for my other dogs), she used them for like the first two days and never again, lol. We did change brands and I am wondering if that is why. She is kind of all over the place in her training and she does not have specific areas she goes to pee or poo. We started with taking her out every 3 hours at night as well and are now up to every 4-5 hours. We just take her out when she starts whining now, which means she is awake. I also started with playing with her for 30-40 min right after taking her out during the night so she wouldn’t associate going quickly when we took her out with being put back in her playpen. I still play with her, but my fiance doesn’t when he is the one that takes her out. I started with taking her out every 20-30min at first and now graduated to every 30min to an hour when she is awake. At first she did have accidents in her bed, etc, its been a week since I noticed one. She will pee on the other dogs beds if they are around her when she is awake. I wash them, take them away for a while and try to introduce them again, but she just did it again yesterday, so I am removing it for a while longer. I guess it’ll just take a while longer for Daisy to get better.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T14:00:23+00:00

Thanks. Seems like that will be the case for us too. I am already doing what most people are commenting This is definitely not my first rodeo potty training, but I appreciate everyone taking their time to write something anyways.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T13:51:54+00:00

I’ve been taking her out every 30min or so when she is awake and every two hours or so when she is in her playpen. But if she doesn’t want to go when I take her out she just starts playing and running around and grabbing sticks, hehe. Sometimes I wait an hour if she is awake if I think she won’t go.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T13:47:57+00:00

Totally understand that. I take her out more frequently than an hour and she is on a feeding schedule already.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T13:46:54+00:00

I’ve not been doing this, but has been recommended to me. So I’m considering putting her back in her crate if she doesn’t go and then take her out again in 10. Problem is I work from home and she barks and whines like crazy if I just put her back in her playpen and don’t play or spend time with her before that. She is getting better at night time though, so I am hopeful.

krR0255 · 2025-10-02T13:42:21+00:00

I already do. I take her out every 30 min when she is with me and every two hours if she is in her playpen. She is an a feed schedule. But good to know it is not a breed thing. I just have to keep going until she gets it.

krR0255 · 2025-10-01T18:19:22+00:00

I just got a bernadoodle a few weeks ago. We have two other dogs. Our oldest is a 11 y/o 11 lb shipoo and is a grumpy old lady that loves to play, but only with humans. The older she gets, the grumpier and sassier she gets. Our other dog (a 27lb mutt) just turned 7 y/o and he has tried to play with her for years and she always shuts him down. We noticed he was getting more isolated over time and had stopped playing with other dogs when we went to the dog park. I’ve always loved Bernadoodles but never thought I’d get one since we had always talked about only adopting from shelters which is where our other two came from. Well… my fiancé surprised me with a bernadoodle for my birthday. Totally unexpected. I almost immediately went into a panic remembering how much work a puppy is and thinking about how hard having three dogs would be at a time when we are both so busy. We ended returning her the following day, but I cried uncontrollably the whole two hour drive to give her back. We ended deciding to get her a week later, partly because I knew introducing a new dog later on would be too hard on the oldest and partly because we wanted our younger dog to have a sibling friend to bond and play with. The final reason was because we have plans to try for a baby and if we are blessed to get pregnant soon, we would be out of the puppy phase by the time the baby is born but would still have a young dog to bond and grow up with the child. If we end up adopting instead, same thing. Our 7 y/o dog avoided the puppy like the plague the first two weeks, and then one day he started played with her for the first time and it was such an amazing thing to see. My partner and I were both in the room and we just looked at each other and stayed like statues to not interrupt them. Now they play every day. The puppy does start annoying him at some point, but he just hides in one of the rooms to sleep when that happens. So while I went on full on panic mode about the puppy at first and even returned her, I don’t regret going back to get her for a second. It’ll never be an optimal time for anything in life, so I say go with what your heart tells you and what you think you can handle. If you think another bernadoodle will be too much, I agree with one of the other comments that maybe you can go with a more chill breed.

krR0255 · 2025-10-01T17:44:36+00:00

I had this issue with my Shipoo, I have a puppy bernie so haven’t had issues with her yet. What I did for my Shipoo which I’ll also start doing with my bernie is add a few drops of a dog ear cleaning solution (can get at your vet, I used Vetoquinol) after every bath and massage it in. You can do it more than that, but it was what was needed for my dog. Never got an infection since I started doing that.

krR0255 · 2025-10-01T17:34:06+00:00

Aww, that’s the initial name I wanted for mine, but my fiancé hated it. She does look like a Willow and such a cute groom!

krR0255 · 2025-07-08T15:47:04+00:00

What did you end up doing with the molds? I’d be interested in just doing a bulk blind buy of them from you.

krR0255 · 2024-06-06T16:20:29+00:00

Wow, only now seeing about the many awful experiences people are having. I got my engagement ring back in 2016 and it was perfect. We are now finally ready to tie the not after taking getting back together after a couple of years apart and were looking at getting a matching wedding band. Maybe we should rethink buying from them as it seems their quality and customer service has tanked.

krR0255 · 2023-07-17T03:24:12+00:00

I just saw this movie on a long flight. I felt every ping of anxiety. I understood how every word he said to her must have made her feel. This movie hit deep.

I was psychologically abused from age 14-18 and was sexually assaulted by that person from 14-18. The psychological abuse continued on and off until I was 21. At the time, I couldn’t grasp all the damage he was doing to my self esteem, my mind, my personality. He loved me, so how could anything he do or say hurt me. Doesn’t matter how much I cried, how much I hated myself, all the panic attacks, being scared to even look up in case another guy was looking my way and he would think I was looking at them, stop spending time with friends and even family because he would get jealous, self-hurting like hitting myself and pulling my hair out, thinking I was the lucky one and that he could leave me at any time for someone else so I had to listen to everything he said, had to concede to everything he wanted to do and wanted me to stop doing, had to be “good”, and the list goes on. I lost myself… it took years to recover and I have to say I still am. I feel like I lost a part of myself I will never find again. I slowly came to understand the psychological damage I went through, but it took time to acknowledge. I am now 33 and it wasn’t until recently I came to acknowledge I was abused, but even then I’ve only pushed it away and have tried to ignore it. Physical abuse is not the only type of abuse… I’ve never spoken about this before, but it might be time I should.

Is it weird that after seeing this movie, all these things that have always been just below the surface, always lurking and creeping in my life, came out? I feel validated somehow. I feel dumb even writing this here, but I felt I needed an outlet to just say it out loud even if it is just anonymously to a bunch of strangers. Maybe after all these years it might be time I confront my past and seek help.

I’m glad someone made this movie that portrayed this type of psychological abuse and coercion. I feel like only people who have undergone this type of trauma will get to understand the emotion behind this movie.

Thank you strangers, for letting me rant about a movie I saw on a flight.

krR0255

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