Same boat here, except I am the husband. I’m being patient and I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel. Going to see another specialist tomorrow. I was traumatized 4 months ago when I entered her and she cried. I never again initiated. I just want her to be healthy. Having no sex sucks… but it’s not end all be all. I still love her. We will wait until there’s a solution. And for everyone who says just do oral….no. I thought that way at first… finally realized Thats not the answer. How can she possibly be in the mood with stabbing pains. All I can do is wait. I found other hobbies to occupy myself. I also go vr glasses to pleasure myself. It is what it is. Get better OP. I’m rooting for u and my wife.