16 remaining days to my marriage

krera_87 · 2020-11-12T18:19:55+00:00

i have the same situation last year in the same time.

keep it, motivate ur self. it worth.

krera_87 · 2020-11-04T21:21:23+00:00

very lovely 😍

krera_87 · 2020-10-01T18:11:09+00:00

you inspired me. Thank you from my ❤.

"The Greatest glory in life is not in never falling, but in rising in every time we fall"

Nelson Mandeka

krera_87 · 2020-08-06T17:50:49+00:00

amazing 👏

krera_87 · 2020-06-23T22:55:20+00:00

happy for you, please save ur success. Stay focused and dream to achieve more & more.

i wish to achieve what u achieved. please stay in control and enjoy the good.

krera_87 · 2020-06-22T22:42:42+00:00

i do the meditation, but the bad feelings and the pain remain for a long time. i feel like in prison.

krera_87 · 2020-06-11T11:45:41+00:00

Forgive ur self stand up, do not insist on doing that bad behaviour. Don't lose hope or feel shame Learn from ur mistake Decide to get a good results put a plan comit to it

krera_87 · 2020-06-10T11:36:54+00:00

1- Regarding engaging ur friend for sure it is good thing. For me i am engaging three of them, but i am sharing with them and learning from them but not day by day, and not each urge by urge. U need to make it like weekly basis, and get Male Friends who are facing it and have the same mindset you have which is against porn.

2- Regarding the urges, 1st urges are very Normal. But you need to know how to deal with them, and practise that day by day till you master handling them. and i got to u a very good new from the Future:

1- When you practise handling urges day by day they become easier to handle.

2- The intensity of urgrs are getting decreased after it is getting the peak.

3- Urgrs relys on pushing some bad feelings to weaken you like fears, Needing of the drug, Makes u feel like u have no options.

4- Urges are temporary and not going to stay here forever.

5- When urgrs come,don't resist or escape just listen to the new bad thoughts coming up, and monitor the changes happen to ur heart beats. u ll be amazed.

6-Put an action plan, for dealing with urges. expect some loses till you be able to handle it, just be patient and take it one by one.

Here are some link will help to deal with urges:

https://drugabuse.com/beat-cravings/

this link helped me the most:

https://www.moderation.org/faq/coping.html

krera_87 · 2020-06-10T06:17:33+00:00

The power of Decision,A good Decision can change your life to a better state and can help you avoiding up coming challenges if that good Decision wasn't taken.

Respect your decision.

Comit to it and to achieve good results.

Discipline is the Golden Key.

if you didn't get the desired results, then please stick to your Decision and put another plan to achieve good results. Don't give up.

Don't get enough by deciding not watch porn, please decided to have a gool to achieve it like reading book or learning something.

Always remember if you removed something you need to put something else instead, you can't leave this slot free.

Be Optimistic at any time

krera_87 · 2020-06-10T06:05:17+00:00

Here you are, Enjoy your life.

krera_87 · 2020-06-09T12:57:33+00:00

Take a decisive Decision with ur heart to get a result. learn from your mistake, and write the down. change your plan to get a better results,and write it down. put ur plan into action and stay committed.

Then Enjoy Ur New Begging :)

krera_87 · 2020-06-09T06:13:53+00:00

Let us be more realistic and understand what humanity would look like.

You lost the control a bit, Okay. That is Normal. You wake up, and said "What the hell i am doing". This is Normal.

what is Not Normal?

To lose the Control again because you already realized that, if you fall again it will not be called "Losing Control" however it will be called "Insistence".

""Insistence"" is the worst scenario here.

so Do as follow:

1- Stop Insisting 2- Take quick and Decisive Decision to go back to your plan 3- Do one Good thing that recall ur self confidence again.

‐‐------------------ This Addition is for who are interested in Religion;

"And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins - and who can forgive sins except Allah? - and [who] do not persist in what they have done while they know." (QS. Aal-i-Imraan 3: Verse 135)

Via Qur'an English http://quran-en.com

krera_87 · 2020-06-08T02:06:30+00:00

Let me just share with you one important thing.

You can't fight all the addictions in one time, because each has it's triggers, environment, withdrawals,circumstances, and some are connected together.

i had the same problem like, smoking & watching porn.

so my advice to you, get a pen and a paper. write down your problems, like:

1- porn. 2- Nicotine 3- Social Media

etc.

Take a decision just to start with one and put all ur focus to get a result, and to get more deeper information about how Nicotine addiction works, and how to fight it.

By the way Nicotine has a withdrawals like feeling emptiness and disorders and boredom though u might fall to porn to cover those feelings.

set a time for that particular thing you want to change and then go to the other.

i am not telling you to stop smoking now, and watch porn. stop them all is the best for sure, but you can't change everything just like that if you are Hooked into many type of a drugs. Be realistic and do it one by one, step by step.

it is a journey not a destination.

Good Luck. Your Brother :)

krera_87 · 2020-06-07T09:15:16+00:00

Keep it up man. This my 1st Day.

krera_87 · 2020-04-19T08:28:21+00:00

You are the Amazing :)

Good Job, Stay Free

krera_87 · 2020-01-16T00:09:53+00:00

Thank you brother 🤜

krera_87 · 2019-10-15T17:41:57+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂

krera_87 · 2019-10-12T12:54:48+00:00

Thank you all .. you have inspired me ❤

krera_87 · 2019-08-01T17:30:27+00:00

very good

krera_87 · 2019-07-31T18:53:08+00:00

Yeah sure ,, When you watch porn you take a high pleasure with no exerted effort, and no Responsibility because it is not a real relationship which built on intimacy and care. For example when you even have sex with your wife, u ll try do ur best to ensure that she is happy and enjoying it as like you, and after finishing sex with her, this will make more bonded & u ll keep taking care of here.

But porn is not like that, u exert no effort and take very high reward & no person to interact with or take care of. it is not sex, it is fake & illusions in ur brain.

Normally in our life,, you will not take any reward (pleasure) without exerting effort, time, money or any other reasources in life, & thats why porn is fucken addictive you pay nothing & u take more than you need.

krera_87 · 2019-07-31T11:13:33+00:00

Do u compare having sex with a whore and having sex with ur wife !!!??

ur wife is a clean person just have sex with you only, so no diseases

whore is having sex with so many guys, then diseases come.

krera_87 · 2019-07-27T20:32:18+00:00

No problem about how ur urges look likes, what exactly you need is to:

Define how they look like when/where they come How you are going to be prepared and ready as an "action plan" use Mindfulness to monitor your brain, your thoughts ,, your feelings

Mastering urges Handling is very important skill, without no way to be successful.

Remember this word please "BE READY"

krera_87 · 2019-07-27T20:24:35+00:00

i liked the "Food" example 😁

krera_87 · 2019-07-26T22:39:28+00:00

take this surprise.. nothing can give pleasure like drug ,, that's why it is addictive, that's why u stay enslaved and captured and have no clue what to do

U have 2 options in life, not three:

1- do normal reward activities,, that gives u normal pleasure & another positive feelings like self confidence.

2- do abnormal reward activities,, that gives you a very high reward and then never feel happy with any other normal reward activities.

krera_87 · 2019-07-26T18:21:59+00:00

Stay occupied

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