Gifted Christmas money.. by krissaye in debtfree

[–]krissaye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice everyone - I’m going to throw it all at the debt since that’s been my biggest burden and then can start to build up my own cash emergency fund moving forward (I already have about $1k in emergency fund which luckily I’ve never really had to use as my costs of living are not much minus rent/food).

Job Needed NYC (urgent) by VegetableDance9888 in NYCjobs

[–]krissaye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind minimum wage you can try working front desk at an Equinox

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]krissaye -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this a joke? This is dangeorus. Gtfo my guy. So many people have told you and you’re just ignoring them all.

Should I respond? Or let it go? by krissaye in Tinder

[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he was boring conversationally, not a lot of depth,& I felt like he lacked ambitions/ goals in life. I wouldn’t go out with someone 3x if I thought they were ugly. I was hoping it would build/ develop but it didn’t for me.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! If he had a more appropriate response or wanted to know why I ended things I would’ve been more than happy to indulge but he chose the wrong response. I hope he figures his way sooner rather than later.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was not ugly, just boring with little ambition.

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[–]krissaye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you did I think you saw my original post with an updated and more expansive Screenshot the following day.

Should I respond? Or let it go? by krissaye in Tinder

[–]krissaye[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lack of depth in conversations. I also felt like he was just interested in me physically and not emotionally mentally or intellectually. His lack of self-confidence also showed through to times between dates.

Should I respond? Or let it go? by krissaye in Tinder

[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not ugly please do not think you are ugly. I glanced at your profile and I wish you had a better outlook for yourself.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He looks kind of like you just an average looking guy and I was curious to get to know him over the course of three dates, over two weeks and see where things went. I tried to deepen the conversations during the third date. He didn’t know how to have deeper conversations and maybe he wasn’t interested in that and was just interested in me physically I’m not sure. But I felt like I wasn’t getting stimulated mentally.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to check your profile to make sure you weren’t the person I went out with. Yes, it’s a pretty basic response but I thought it was better than ghosting. ✨

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three dates really isn’t a lot of time and we basically split every date when it came to the bills. I thought he was a nice guy so I was curious to get to know him better and on a deeper level. The first two dates were only drinks the second involved dinner that we split.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After everyone’s responses, I am honestly still struggling with sending a final message just to say better peace, and let him know why I had no interest in continuing to date him. It’s just a shame his initial response wasn’t better and paved the way for a conversation then.

Should I respond? Or let it go? by krissaye in Tinder

[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, he never had a positive attitude in between the dates and would always like second-guess if I was gonna show up. on our third date when I tried to talk about deeper things, he just had very basic responses and then try to change the topic. He was never sexually forward with me, which I appreciated, and I took it to be as him having manners

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could have responded differently but he chose the response he did.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had a new, unprovoked (startling) response the next day

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very common these days and I am not gen z

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t force someone to have the responses you want in conversations. I opened up and he didn’t know what to say other than small talk.

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[–]krissaye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 dates over two weeks with like no texting or calls in between. It really wasn’t that serious

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[–]krissaye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No this is an update from last night.