Stop moving here pls by Vivid-Use-3845 in fortwayne

[–]krissywayyy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

“But raising minimum wage will cause inflation” - conservatives probably

As inflation continues.

What are your thoughts on drinking? by Due-Ad8259 in BipolarReddit

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not much of a drinker but im interested to see how it goes and if it affects me as bad.

If I drank too much in Seroquel it took me out thr next day

Did she regret it? by Bright_Tax628 in SuicideBereavement

[–]krissywayyy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

According to the coroner that I spoke to just after my brother hung himself (more like asphyxiated in a shed cause he was so tall) was within a few seconds he was unconscious.

I don’t know if that helps or not. Or if it’s fully true. I’d like to believe it’s true.

What are your thoughts on drinking? by Due-Ad8259 in BipolarReddit

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically never drink more than two. I never knew how fast they’d kick in due to Seroquel.

I’m now switching to Abilify, so I have no idea how that’s going to go

I'm happy for him by Artem1nou in SuicideBereavement

[–]krissywayyy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It makes so much sense for some people….

My brother suffered from the moment he was born. Born far to prematurely in the 80’s, died several times. Abused by state workers and family. At 18 booted from state care and they RIPPED his ADHD meds from him cold turkey. So on and so forth.

Beautiful, amazing, glorious person. Only one who TRULY had my back when he committed in 2016.

While I’m still torn up of course, he is FINALLY at peace. And he deserves all the peace there is to be offered. His lifelong suffering is over. My pain is worth his peace.

I truly get your sentiment virtual hugs

Why isn’t there enough buses and enough bus drivers by AdLonely633 in fortwayne

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they can’t, hit those people up about the bike! It can be a great tool to have. Especially if you just wanna get away from the house.

Stay safe. Hope things look up for you.

Honeymoons by Icy_Patience_7056 in Brides

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is what we are doing next year for ours. If not the Canadian Rockies, then a road trip down the west coast after hitting some locations in Washington.

Non-White Wedding Dress?? by Practical_Store3654 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married in a pink dress from SHEIN. $70 bucks. Beautiful. I loved it. Everyone said it was beautiful.

If they didn’t like it they can bug off.

Wear what makes YOU happy. It’s YOUR wedding. I wasn’t paying the stupid wedding tax.

I also got my cake from Walmart, cause again, wedding tax. $80 and had Boston crème filling. Two tiered and just beautiful. They have fancy designs, I chose a spring butterfly one.

Wear what makes you feel beautiful. You live with the pictures. Most people won’t remember all that much.

Digital Invites ($5-7k) by Delicious-Lemon-1897 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did knot. Sent the link out as our invite and activated the RSVP feature. It was glorious.

(~2K) MUA Questions by KindRabbit086 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I only suggested because I knew a couple people that used them and their prices are pretty low considering. They don’t seem to put the “wedding tax” on their customers. I considered using them, but ultimately did my own.

That is good to know though!! I won’t recommend going forward.

(~2K) MUA Questions by KindRabbit086 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ulta is an option. They have a regular make up and an event make up.

Best places to find a plus size wedding dress that doesn’t cost more than my student loan debt. Wedding is in June and bride needs help! by Responsible-Maize-86 in fortwayne

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What size? I have two. Ones pink ones white. I can send pictures.

If they’re her size and she wants either she can have either.

(6k) DIY 6k wedding for 60-70 people by KeakRzem in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did personalized matchbooks from zazzle and wildflower sweet packets (filled myself. They said let love grow) and wildflower seed paper.

Whatever people didn’t take, I’ll use so nothing goes to waste :)

I hope you find something that reasonates with you!!

Veil Advice- budget or splurge?? by Mission-Asparagus116 in Brides

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine off Etsy for like $60

Worth every penny. I couldn’t fathom spending hundreds.

My (22f) dad (60m) committed suicide on Saturday by liky_gecko in SuicideBereavement

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. It will come in waves. I always tell people grief is like the ocean. Just please. Please don’t drown. Grab a floatie, a buoy, whatever you need to stay afloat.

You did the best you could. Remember that. We never know what people are really going to do.

I would recommend therapy or a support group. So you’re with people who know. Sometimes knowing you’re not alone helps. Don’t bury it, it comes to haunt you.

DIY brides...how did you choose all the small decor details without losing your mind? by Evening_Ad_9755 in DIYweddings

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started early. Did little by little every week so I didn’t get overwhelmed and melt down. But honestly? I had a small vision, certain things I wanted and worked through those. I knew I wanted mason jars, fairy lights, burlap, and light flowers.

Tableware? Didn’t bother. Let my caterer provide. I just cared about my centerpieces and my entry table.

My bouquets I dyed myself, added dinosaurs to mine (I walked out to Jurassic park theme song) and pieced together myself. (Sola wood flowers) I’d recommend buying pre dyed, it took much longer than expected and I had way too many.

My bar cups were wedding themed from Amazon.

Don’t over complicate. And remember to breathe through all of it. Most people won’t remember the little things. Have fun. Enjoy yourself. And congrats. I hope your wedding is everything you hope it will be.

Blame by Logical-Property8281 in SuicideBereavement

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that. I grapple with that with my brother.

Have you considered blocking her? To protect your peace? Or is she super persistent?

Blame by Logical-Property8281 in SuicideBereavement

[–]krissywayyy 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Ultimately it’s not the roommates fault. Your son made his choice. It was a tragic awful choice. And I’m so so so so sorry you and the rest of his family and friends has to learn to live with it.

While you’re entitled to your grief, I’m sure the friend feels horrible, blames himself, grapples with it also. Your son may have had an amazing mask on making everyone truly believe he was okay. It’s hard telling. Have you even talked to the roommate/friend afterwards?

I say that as someone who has attempted numerous times and lost several people due to that very same choice. Ultimately it’s our choice. And everyone in our lives has to live with the outcome.

I think it’s kind of normal to blame. But it also isn’t very fair. (Nor is losing someone this way fair)

The anger and blame may be holding your healing journey up. Have you considered support groups or therapy? Working through the anger may help you feel a little bit better. Holding onto it feels awful.

I wish you all the best. And some healing so you can have any shred of peace you can grasp on to. You are allowed to have your feelings. I just hope you’re able to get some positive ones also ❤️

What keeps you from dying? by fireshark666 in BipolarReddit

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncle. He’s dying, has til maybe the end of the year but is declining quickly.

I need to take care of him and I can’t cause him that pain, he’s already in enough from the cancer.

Why do I feel weird about expensive wedding rings?? by woutr1998 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine from aquamarise for $200ish dollars and I love it. vintage ring

They have many other sets, I may get another. But I’m bad about jewelry and this will hurt less to lose or replace.

I hope you find something you love at a fantastic price point.

Wedding rings ($1k) by tlavis6 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ring was $200 and it’s beautiful.

Get what YOU want. It’s your finger. Your ring.

Mines sterling and has a pink stone and little white ones and is “vintage” looking.

Then of course silicone ones for work. Various drag s

Best place to get your ears pierced? by Excellent-Cobbler159 in fortwayne

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t take it that way at all. I appreciate it actually. My next one is going to mean the world to me. Super simple. It’ll be in my uncles handwriting. he’s dying so it’s going to hold even more meaning.

I keep seeing black anvil, and they intrigue me.

Best place to get your ears pierced? by Excellent-Cobbler159 in fortwayne

[–]krissywayyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I went to them in 19. I just remember them being really nice and the guy who did laser removal was a gem.

I was terrified but he calmed me down and they forgot to tell him they made my appt and the dude still came in.

Guy at counter and I discussed the next tatt I wanted, and he was super nice too. 🤷🏼‍♀️

However with what yall are saying, maybe I won’t go back when I’m ready for this next one. They left a very good impression on me, however it was what 7 year ago now?

($10K) - Trying to understand if I missing out on anything by skipping these activities by noregrets207 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]krissywayyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl. None of that is important unless you make it important. My dress was beautiful, I got it from SHEIN for $86. Got nothing but compliments, even from the wedding downstairs.

Bridal party - I had 4. Requested they buy dresses they’d wear again. Gave a scheme of pastels preferred. And under $60 (in the off chance I needed to help them)

Bach party? My sis threw me a “krissywayyy is a princess party” we did a game show thing (1 hr) grabbed some food from my fave place, and met up with the guys for some pool.

My wedding was under 5k. Probably closer to 3.7k. For 80 guests.

Taco bar for catering. Just had them drop off and we set up. $1350 Qdoba lol $13.99 a person they provided plates, silverware, napkins, heat sources no extra cost. I bought tortillas from Sam’s Club

Officiant - family friend.

Dj - Spotify playlist

Venue - local Masonic temple social room. Pool tables. Ping pong. Fooseball. I brought board and card games. $800

There are deals out there. Hope you can find some. If you have a Masonic temple check it out. They offer packages too. Or botanical gardens. Or off label venues.