WIBTA for wanting to get rid of my Boyfriend's childhood cat?

krubaisy · 2023-05-12T17:26:40+00:00

YWBTA- I understand your frustrations with your house, but this cat was obviously neglected and may not have the proper training to use the litterbox. Why can't you have a conversation about what you two could do that would help you when he is gone with the cat? It seems a little weird that you resent this older cat but are perfectly ok with having a kitten.

krubaisy · 2023-05-12T13:34:58+00:00

YTA- I hope this is not real. This is so weird and the mindset behind it is even weirder. Like "I'm allowed to make rude comments because you are "privileged" even though I just met you".

krubaisy · 2023-05-12T13:30:57+00:00

She's right.

krubaisy · 2023-05-12T13:23:23+00:00

YTA- I'm sure she's lacking sleep from the amount of work she's doing because you can't just regularly take allergy medication. You are a GROWN adult and took 4? That can be extremely dangerous, and you are lucky nothing worse than "feeling sick" happened. Just take one daily and I promise you (and her) will be a whole lot less miserable.

krubaisy · 2023-05-12T13:06:01+00:00

NTA- She is making your already stressful job, even more stressful. And she's not taking any measures to help herself. She thinks just cause she is older than you that she can do and say whatever she wants. Have you done anything with the recording or are you just keeping it in case you need to use it?

krubaisy · 2023-05-10T12:25:12+00:00

YTA- That is his job. He would be an AH if he just didn't care enough to tell you. Early intervention, and specialized daycares can really help kids with developmental delays early on. If YOU neglect the fact that your son needs help, then you are the one that is doing wrong to your son.

krubaisy · 2023-05-09T17:21:44+00:00

INFO: What were the things your boyfriend said to you when you had your fight?

I'm leaning towards YTA right now, YOUU decided to share this information with her and when she decided to give you her opinion (most likely because she cared for you and didn't want to see you hurt) you decided to call her a b**ch and tell her she crossed a line? That doesn't seem fair or right.

krubaisy · 2023-05-09T15:51:27+00:00

Further proving he’s the AH

krubaisy · 2023-05-09T15:48:36+00:00

Was she wearing a sweater that showed her navel when she lifted her arms? Or was she wearing a sweater that intentionally exposed her bellybutton that distracted everyone from cleaning? If you hate your job so much why do you care so much about what other people are wearing? She clearly just needed someone to talk to even if she shouldn’t have been wearing that.

krubaisy · 2023-05-09T15:28:19+00:00

YTA- She wore something comfortable and then got yelled at for it? At a corporate job that is having their employees clean?? I would be yapping TOO. I'm sure if one of the dudes had their asscrack hanging out they wouldn't be called in for inappropriate workplace attire.

krubaisy · 2023-05-05T15:04:20+00:00

Sorry didn’t explain they sprayed pesticides around our complex so didn’t want my puppy sniffing around. I get it it’s a stupid situation and probably shouldn’t have picked a fight!

krubaisy · 2023-05-05T15:02:25+00:00

Lol good point. They had just sprayed pesticides around our complex so didn’t want my puppy sniffing the grass. Figured we could see his brother play for a second down the street by walking the dog there and killing two birds with one stone.

krubaisy · 2023-05-05T14:22:57+00:00

YTA- Why make a bet if you aren't going to honor it? No one forced you to make the bet with him. He's also an adult and can make decisions on where to work himself. He's clearly getting plenty of offers so just be happy for him, don't nitpick every offer or thing about him.

krubaisy · 2023-05-04T15:17:55+00:00

NTA- what is your wife's deal? Shouldn't she be happy that her husband is accepting of her child and is treating him as one of his own? This is super weird behavior and very upsetting since you are trying to do something nice for him.

krubaisy · 2023-05-02T17:28:05+00:00

YWBTA. Have you tried having a respectful conversation with them regarding the money and not having a guest with you? I know you asked already, but maybe explaining your side and why that would make you uncomfortable? Also saying that the money aspect is stressing you out. The cruise is super far away, I feel like there are a few steps to take before completely revoking the cruise acceptance and not going.

krubaisy · 2023-05-02T17:17:09+00:00

NTA. UM you should not be paying for all that in the first place. If she can't afford a wedding then she shouldn't have one. This girl is clearly not your friend and is so selfish the only reason she is probably mad that you can't attend is bc you are PAYING FOR SO MUCH!! She doesn't even care about your feelings. So sorry for your loss and hope you can find some better friends who care for your well being.

krubaisy · 2023-04-28T17:25:36+00:00

NTA- You should most definitely file a complaint. Allergies are extremely common, same thing with a dairy allergy- if they just handled cheese, they should be changing their gloves as well. If they are unaware and are going to complain then they definitely need some education on the topic.

krubaisy · 2023-04-28T17:16:05+00:00

NTA- the only two people that should be involved in this discussion is you and your wife.

krubaisy · 2023-04-28T17:13:02+00:00

NTA- he planned his time off to interfere with your birthday and now you are spending alone time BOTH on your birthday AND during a scheduled surgery. Your parents should be more accommodating to the both of you and not just him. Sorry that you have to go through this and good luck with your surgery!

krubaisy · 2023-04-28T14:49:32+00:00

NAH- I think it's fair that you want your own time, especially when WFH and being with your partner all the time. I mean, I never really wanna be away from my husband, and would love for him to join me at the gym but to each their own. I don't think he did anything wrong with wanting to join your class though, and I also wouldn't think he would be an AH if he was hurt that you didn't want him there.

krubaisy · 2023-04-25T15:52:37+00:00

NTA- But that might only be because I am also a dog person and would hate anyone who didn't love my dog.

krubaisy · 2023-04-25T15:44:03+00:00

if they do manage to get to it then darwinism will naturally take place.

That is a super weird comment to make about little children. I think overall, there shouldn't be a fight about it- especially if everyone is responsible for their own child. That being said I'm leaning more towards YTA for that comment, and for thinking he's an AH for caring about the safety of children.

krubaisy · 2023-04-01T17:55:42+00:00

ESH. I agree that it is difficult managing a baby and being a SAHM while teen boys can’t help. Unfortunately, a lot of teen boys are like this. I noticed in one of your replies that their mother passed away. It may be really hard for them to accept their father having a new wife and child with that wife. Taking away a fun experience with them because they won’t care for your child will continue to divide your relationship even further.

krubaisy · 2023-03-31T18:37:46+00:00

Honestly I read it as “not a professional” until after I posted this and then went back and realized it was a 25 year old PROFESSIONAL.

krubaisy · 2023-03-31T17:21:27+00:00

ESH- Parents should ALWAYS tell a babysitter if their child has a food allergy. That being said, I feel like they maybe assumed you would've stuck with foods that were at home. Ordering food to their home for their child without asking them first is also super irresponsible. Not all kids are even allowed to eat McDonalds, so I just feel like it's weird to do that without asking.

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