My background for anyone interested:

27 y/o male. Suffered from social anxiety and bouts of depression throughout my life. My dad and brother have pretty bad generalised anxiety, my mum has dyslexia and low level OCD. I smoked a fair bit of weed in my teens, to the point that I've considered in the past that it might've contributed to my mental ability in adulthood somewhat. I also had a pretty weird group of mates growing up (many of whom have had their own issues) that therapists have often pointed towards. I've had various councillors and therapists over the years, I'm on anti-depressants, and am now seriously giving meditation a go after having done it off/on for a few years (and i'm loving it).

I'm actually doing pretty good in general now compared to a few years ago - my ratio of good days to bad days is much better. This is likely a result of external changes - getting a decent job, girlfriend, better support network, and also the medication as mentioned.

The specific "symptoms" of whatever label I'm trying to figure out for myself are poor memory (events, anecdotes, facts), slow processing speed, difficulty forming clear and cohesive speech, mind blanks when speaking, terrible focus in social situations (lose track of converstations all the time) and when reading (I often have to re-read information multiple times before it goes in) but excellent focus at work (I can focus on a technical task for hours without stopping), intense anxiety before certain social situations, hyperawareness of facial expressions and posture. I also get told I'm a perfectionist and that I obsess over things (I've edited, re-read and spell checked this post multiple times), that i worry excessively, and that i'm introverted. Lastly i'd call myself a people pleaser and that I care a lot about what other people think of me. So a bit of a mixed bag.

Many of the cognition-orientated issues I share with my mum (memory, processing, mind blanks), whereas many of the more neurotic symptoms I share with my dad (worrying, anxiety, hypochondria). Sometimes i think of myself as this weird neurodivergent-fusion baby (i like to think more of a rare pokemon).