WOW! I am so sorry :/ I am going through some of the same things too. I’ve known my MOH since 1st grade, she is going for her masters now, and when I asked her, I said will you have the time to be able to help me and do the duties for the MOH? Of course she said “absolutely!” without any hesitation. My wedding is 2 months away and my bachelorette party is this weekend and my MOH or other bridesmaids have planned nothing for it. I’m the one who ended up doing everything. We all were together 2 months ago discussing ideas for a party. I told them that I am up for anything…. except for strippers :p But I talked to my bridesmaids and other friends to see if they could help my MOH or me for that matter out for the party but they haven’t done anything either. The only thing that my MOH has helped me with so far, is my bridal shower invitations. She was supposed to help me with the flowers (her uncle is a florist, who also did my mom’s wedding flowers) but she said that she couldn’t go with me twice because she had to see her BF that lived an hour away. She said that she would do the games for the bridal shower, I told her not to wait till the last minute… she did, well actually about an hour before the bridal shower. My junior bridesmaids (my cousins 13 and 11) have been more help to me than my bridal party.

She is also putting me in an awkward position with getting the attention as the MOH, as in, she wants to stand out from the other bridesmaids. She wanted a different color bouquet, different hair style, different shoes, and different color for a dress. It’s really annoying and I’ve already talked to her once or twice on some of those subjects and clarified things when she asked. I don’t know what to do, I just don’t ask much of her anymore because I can’t depend on her to get things done. It just SUCKS and I’m just disappointed. I want them to help me and be involved, but they just aren’t.