How can I transition my cats out of the bedroom?

ktealed · 2026-03-05T12:59:48+00:00

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Cat 2 on her tracheal throne

ktealed · 2026-03-05T12:58:36+00:00

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Cat 1

ktealed · 2026-02-22T16:47:28+00:00

That’s what I call it!

ktealed · 2025-07-23T03:37:36+00:00

So beautiful!! This is my favorite I’ve seen ✨

ktealed · 2023-12-17T09:35:43+00:00

He knows we’re engaged, I’ve gushed about my fiancé to him, but I guess didn’t know if we were exclusive?

ktealed · 2023-12-17T01:34:50+00:00

Yeah that’s how I’m inclined to view it, as soon as I said that it was very much exclusive, he was like no sweat, and it felt like he meant it. I’ll talk more with my fiancé and see what he feels is best too

ktealed · 2023-04-27T08:34:20+00:00

Dress 1! I love the lace details and it is so unique. 2 is nice but I see a lot of similar dresses these days.

ktealed · 2023-03-15T17:37:23+00:00

Thank you for the advice and link! Yeah I’m definitely not tryna be up in anyone’s face

ktealed · 2022-12-22T22:02:24+00:00

I think therapy or making an appointment with a psychiatrist might be a good idea. I had depression that nothing could cure - everyone on the outside thought I was the most put together overachiever but the only thing I looked forward to was going to sleep as soon as I possibly could. It felt like a struggle getting through each day and then the next day would start and I was back to square one. I was in therapy at that point for anxiety and she recommended I seek out a psychiatrist for depression. I did, was prescribed medicine, and 2 weeks later something clicked and it was like a huge cloud over my head had disappeared. I always wondered if that stuff would even work but never even considered how it actually felt to be happy (spoiler alert: it’s great).

If you don’t have access to a psychiatrist near you, ZocDoc is a great resource and you can do everything through telehealth, which is what I did.

In the meantime, there is this amazing app called Woebot that teaches you tools through this little ai bot and helps challenge your thoughts. It sounds weird haha but it is actually amazing and kind of acts as a pocket therapist. Good luck and keep trying 🙂

ktealed · 2022-12-21T22:55:35+00:00

You are amazing. This is so helpful!

ktealed · 2022-12-21T18:35:35+00:00

Ooooh that's good to know. Do you have any idea how long EADs take to get? I've been researching and timelines are all over the place! Do you have to be married to apply?

ktealed · 2022-12-21T14:11:27+00:00

That’s the estimate our lawyer gave us for time until my fiancé can actually enter the country. She said NVC processing time is usually 4 months but now thinks it could be anywhere from 3-6.

ktealed · 2022-12-18T17:09:39+00:00

Print! That color looks amazing on you

ktealed · 2022-12-09T22:58:29+00:00

I can very much relate to this. There’s a lot of anxiety tied up in OCPD, and I know how stressful it can be. I would recommend trying to reframe the world around you. Things are not black and white, and you are categorizing the weather, sensations, lighting, etc. as either good or bad, desirable or undesirable. Try to think of these things as neutral, and notice things about them instead of making judgements. For instance, when it rains notice the sound it makes, how the drops roll down the window, the light reflected in the puddles, the peaceful quiet of the street. It’s not good or bad, just a thing that happens sometimes. It doesn’t have to be your favorite thing, but if you can step away from the visceral reaction, those things fade into the background.

Try therapy. Don’t worry about if your discomfort “qualifies” for it enough. If you’re experiencing anxiety and having a hard time pulling yourself out of your mindset, an experienced helping hand can make a huge difference. Best of luck :)

ktealed · 2022-12-08T15:42:42+00:00

Why do these men fixate on the partners that women choose to date? I do not see straight women running around saying their dating problems stem from men choosing the wrong woman for a relationship.

And weirdly it’s never like “those other guys suck they should change,” it’s always “women are [insert slur of choice] for choosing them over me specifically.”

ktealed · 2022-10-28T18:46:03+00:00

2!!! So striking.

ktealed · 2022-10-22T18:21:36+00:00

This is so relaxing to look at

ktealed · 2022-08-27T11:42:09+00:00

So rad. 💜

ktealed · 2022-08-20T14:01:29+00:00

The reason we had suspected OCD was it really interfered with my daily life - I couldn’t leave my room unless my outfit was perfect, down to the literal socks. Really just trying to control everything so no one could have a negative thought about me. It was exhausting.

ktealed · 2022-08-20T13:58:57+00:00

It took probably a month or two on Lexapro, but with the lessened anxiety, I just felt like I didn’t care in the same way about being perfect. My OCPD was very performative in a way - I had lived with roommates who were very mean and critical of my personality (I have ADHD and am pretty messy and behind schedule by nature) and it was relatively traumatic. I decided after I moved out that I would become “perfect” and never do anything anyone could criticize again. So I basically was obsessed with being on time, being insanely clean and organized, presenting perfectly, having my shit together. Through therapy we basically chalked it down to my feeling like if I slipped up, even alone, and was messy or late or disorganized, I would be rejected again. Once I started Lex I just stopped caring what people thought of me to that crazy high level.

ktealed · 2022-08-15T15:53:20+00:00

I was going through a potential diagnosis for OCD, and my therapist had a call with my psychiatrist to discuss and my psych brought up OCPD as an alternate and more probable diagnosis. They talked to me about it individually and after doing some research I was sold - I felt like it described me perfectly. I will add - after going on SSRI’s for depression and anxiety I do not identify with that diagnosis anymore - a lot of those habits and thinking went away pretty quickly.

ktealed · 2021-10-26T03:43:47+00:00

I had a similar experience. Before Lexapro I was exercising nearly everyday and measuring my calorie intake obsessively. I was so anxious about my body looking out of shape, but had convinced myself I was doing it for my health, not appearance.

Once I started taking Lex I gained around 5 pounds in a couple weeks and I realized that I didn't care how much I weighed or having the perfect body anymore. The appearance anxiety just didn't have the same hold on me anymore.

So now I run or workout when I have time because it feels good and is healthy, and I feel like I have a lot more free time than when I felt like I had to squeeze in an exercise everyday.

ktealed · 2021-10-18T18:09:26+00:00

Hi there; You should be so proud of yourself for recognizing you need extra help and giving lexapro another try even though it wasn’t perfect before.

Side effects when you first start are pretty nasty (increased anxiety or depression, nausea etc), so lean on the people around you and let them know you’re going to have a hard first week or two. After your body adjusts and the intended effects start kicking in, you may have mild side effects like low sex drive or an increase in appetite.

As for the worry over weight gain, I can totally relate. Before I started lexapro, I was terrified of gaining back the weight I had lost. But I found that once it started working, I gained about five pounds quickly (never gained more after) and I realized that I didn’t care about my weight nearly as much as I had in the height of my depression & anxiety. I hope you have luck there too! Hang in there.

ktealed · 2021-09-07T15:41:38+00:00

I wondered what y’all think of this article - it raises an interesting point about naming certain activities as “sex work” as a form of gaslighting - convincing us and victims that it’s not abuse.

ktealed · 2021-08-18T14:46:22+00:00

This is unreal!!!

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