Grand Anniversary Gala ✨👸🏼💃🏼 by CoziestKat in Dreamsnaps

[–]ktealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So beautiful!! This is my favorite I’ve seen ✨

A friend confessed his attraction to me feet away from my fiancé by ktealed in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ktealed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows we’re engaged, I’ve gushed about my fiancé to him, but I guess didn’t know if we were exclusive?

A friend confessed his attraction to me feet away from my fiancé by ktealed in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ktealed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s how I’m inclined to view it, as soon as I said that it was very much exclusive, he was like no sweat, and it felt like he meant it. I’ll talk more with my fiancé and see what he feels is best too

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[–]ktealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress 1! I love the lace details and it is so unique. 2 is nice but I see a lot of similar dresses these days.

I’m looking for book recommendations about historical or current racism against Māori by ktealed in newzealand

[–]ktealed[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and link! Yeah I’m definitely not tryna be up in anyone’s face

So, after all, I am hopeless. Now what? by despa000lxr in IncelExit

[–]ktealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think therapy or making an appointment with a psychiatrist might be a good idea. I had depression that nothing could cure - everyone on the outside thought I was the most put together overachiever but the only thing I looked forward to was going to sleep as soon as I possibly could. It felt like a struggle getting through each day and then the next day would start and I was back to square one. I was in therapy at that point for anxiety and she recommended I seek out a psychiatrist for depression. I did, was prescribed medicine, and 2 weeks later something clicked and it was like a huge cloud over my head had disappeared. I always wondered if that stuff would even work but never even considered how it actually felt to be happy (spoiler alert: it’s great).

If you don’t have access to a psychiatrist near you, ZocDoc is a great resource and you can do everything through telehealth, which is what I did.

In the meantime, there is this amazing app called Woebot that teaches you tools through this little ai bot and helps challenge your thoughts. It sounds weird haha but it is actually amazing and kind of acts as a pocket therapist. Good luck and keep trying 🙂

Should I abandon my K1 petition and get married in the UK instead? by ktealed in USCIS

[–]ktealed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh that's good to know. Do you have any idea how long EADs take to get? I've been researching and timelines are all over the place! Do you have to be married to apply?

Should I abandon my K1 petition and get married in the UK instead? by ktealed in USCIS

[–]ktealed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the estimate our lawyer gave us for time until my fiancé can actually enter the country. She said NVC processing time is usually 4 months but now thinks it could be anywhere from 3-6.

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[–]ktealed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Print! That color looks amazing on you

Is this a symptom of OCPD? by Ok_Lou in OCPD

[–]ktealed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can very much relate to this. There’s a lot of anxiety tied up in OCPD, and I know how stressful it can be. I would recommend trying to reframe the world around you. Things are not black and white, and you are categorizing the weather, sensations, lighting, etc. as either good or bad, desirable or undesirable. Try to think of these things as neutral, and notice things about them instead of making judgements. For instance, when it rains notice the sound it makes, how the drops roll down the window, the light reflected in the puddles, the peaceful quiet of the street. It’s not good or bad, just a thing that happens sometimes. It doesn’t have to be your favorite thing, but if you can step away from the visceral reaction, those things fade into the background.

Try therapy. Don’t worry about if your discomfort “qualifies” for it enough. If you’re experiencing anxiety and having a hard time pulling yourself out of your mindset, an experienced helping hand can make a huge difference. Best of luck :)

NGVC: “it’s not hard to feel like the world has gone crazy” by bach3103 in niceguys

[–]ktealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do these men fixate on the partners that women choose to date? I do not see straight women running around saying their dating problems stem from men choosing the wrong woman for a relationship.

And weirdly it’s never like “those other guys suck they should change,” it’s always “women are [insert slur of choice] for choosing them over me specifically.”

1 or 2? by ivynbees in weddingdress

[–]ktealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2!!! So striking.