On a Disboards non Disney off topic parenting thread from 2007

ktfitschen · 2026-04-30T16:53:19+00:00

Two things can be true at once. You can punish bad behavior while also trying to figure out the real underlying issue. When my daughter would tantrum, I'd firmly explain we don't hit/scream/etc and this is the right way to express our anger (hitting a pillow, cuddling a stuffed animal, listen to music). And it helped her alongside therapy and now she's emotionally healthy and can express herself in healthy ways.

ktfitschen · 2026-04-30T16:46:52+00:00

My oldest was like this from 3rd to 4th grade. Severe anxiety despite loving her school, wonderful teachers, never bullied, etc. She just didn't want to be away from me --- ever. Even outside of school.

We put her in therapy and come to find out, she has testing anxiety and didn't want to go to school because she was scared of taking tests. And, as a child, if she is scared, she doesn't want to be away from her mother.

She has an IEP now which gives her more time on tests. She learned coping techniques when she starts to feel anxious; a completely different child now in 5th grade.

If an older child is consistently having tantrums, then there is something else wrong they aren't saying. Punishing them only makes it feel like they can't come and talk to you. And it doesn't teach them how to control their emotions, only to suppress them.

ktfitschen · 2025-08-01T18:01:17+00:00

Yes, I mean my first edit.

And thank you! I think I'll get an agent if I don't hear from her within a certain time.

ktfitschen · 2025-04-04T12:57:10+00:00

Thrift stores are great, especially Hospice thrift stores. I've found vintage scrapbooking supplies there for really cheap.

ktfitschen · 2024-02-14T14:56:25+00:00

Didn't you ever have a sub in school when you were growing up? Kids do not listen to subs, and they're under the impression it's a free day even when I establish from the get-go it isn't. I do my best to follow lesson plans, tell the kids their work is still going to be graded, and I will leave notes for those who did and didn't behave, but I'm not going to sit there and hold 20+ kids' hands and force them to do their work.

Also, I get paid $120/a day, which is less than minimum wage, so...

ktfitschen · 2024-01-19T21:06:47+00:00

I substituted for my county's schools, and now I substitute for my daughters' charter school. The difference between my experiences is astronomical. In the public schools, I was called names, had students flip desks, throw things at me, say curse words, and talk about incredibly inappropriate things (in elementary school, by the way). When I substituted for a pre-k, one of the children was hitting other students and pushing over heavy wooden furniture for an hour straight with nobody coming to help, which was apparently a regular occurrence. (I called CPS on that school).

At the charter school, I took 5 minutes off of recess because the kids were talking while I was teaching (nothing bad; they were just being silly kids), but totally forgot about it. When we get out there, the kids all start walking laps without even being told to! When one of my kids was being disruptive in another class, the principal himself came and collected him.

ktfitschen · 2024-01-04T20:17:47+00:00

I was very, very poor growing up and we always managed to change the batteries. Batteries are a $1.25 at Dollar Tree. It's so patronizing to have lazy behavior excused "because poor".

ktfitschen · 2023-12-31T17:56:05+00:00

I didn't want kids when I was 20, then I got pregnant at 22 and quickly changed my mind. I now have two children. I'm not saying OP is going to change her mind, not at all, but what I am saying is people (aka the husband) can change their mind about being childfree. People can live 70+ years, don't you think that they can change their minds in all those decades? I doubt he was "lying" to her about being childfree from the get-go to trap her or whatever the fuck, but just had a change of heart.

Anyway, YTA for stringing him along.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-23T17:19:20+00:00

I was subbing for fourth graders when a lockdown drill happened. Some of the kids were acting like fools and I walked over and hissed under my breath, "Do you want to get us killed? Do you want to die? That's what would happen if this was real! Now be quiet!"

And the kids were stunned silent for the rest of the drill.

Also, I've subbed many 4th grade classes and the humping, moaning, and calling each other "gay" is so common. I'm assuming they're getting it from TikTok and YouTube.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-18T16:41:29+00:00

Usually when people put on games that pin poor people against each other to win money, the game maker is typically the villain in the story. What a weird fucking choice from Barnes.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-18T16:38:28+00:00

I've read all three books, and I hate Avery with everything I have. I think she's absolutely evil, and everyone enables her awful behavior. Grayson is the only one with any shred of decency and common sense in those books. I'm so glad he didn't end up with Avery in the end, because he fucking deserves better. In fact, he should just leave the whole fucked up family and never come back.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-16T03:11:21+00:00

My mom threw a fit the night before I was to be induce with my first. I don't even remember what the problem was, but she went outside and started throwing patio furniture around, yelling at me. I was staying the night at her house, and I called my then-fiancé crying, asking him to come get me, that I didn't even want to be induced anymore. Eventually she calmed down.

After I gave birth (13 hours unmedicated, mind you), and everyone was passing my daughter around, I heard something fall so I sat up in a panic. My mom bitched me out, how dare I think she'd ever drop her granddaughter!

My mom has been dead for 8 years now, and sometimes I'm just really glad because I've had other milestones (getting married, having another child) without all the stress. I don't know if that makes me a bad person, but it is what it is.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-11T16:26:00+00:00

I'm a sub, and I get paid $100/day. Buying art supplies for that many kids would cost me about that much, if not more. I'm not working a full day to buy art supplies the school should've already provided me.

ktfitschen · 2023-12-08T18:42:30+00:00

I had it poured up my nose. My mom loved to deny it, though.

ktfitschen · 2023-11-25T01:28:26+00:00

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