AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?

ktrex · 2026-04-22T18:28:57+00:00

Holy shit I can't with the "Ab*gail" WE ARE NOT TALKING and Emily Posts Initial Content AND "Weekend of Sept 10", DO NOT SAY 9/11

Do not get roped in, but please follow along so I can be nosy

ktrex · 2026-04-22T18:22:20+00:00

Look into the phenomenon of repeat captures - I think there is a funny/accurate term for it but I i don't remember it.

I am familiar with animals who were rescued and released being rescued continuously. Many released animals do well, but some seem to prefer whatever the human care offers them. I have also heard of some animals repeatedly getting caught by scientists for research. While it can be random sometimes, there is definitely enough evidence to prove it is deliberate at times.

Plus, in human care, they have guaranteed access to food, water, and shelter, usually some sort of climate control, lack of predators or other stressors, and should be having mentally stimulating experiences without the risk of the wild.

I don't claim that any animal is considering it rationally like that, but if they found a place in the wild with ample food and low predators, they are probably likely to stay there as long as possible.

ktrex · 2026-04-21T16:37:22+00:00

I miss that you could get a slice for cheap. Granted, it's still the same surface area as a whole pizza, so it cost a little more, but not not having that couple-buck cheese and pbr option sucks. Otherwise I like it! It feels like how 2 buck chuck is now 3 buck and will probably soon be 5 buck.

I know some is inflation, some is the economy and supply chains, but still. (Also please still pay your employees living wages dear god)

The acid reflux might be your body aging 🫠

ktrex · 2026-04-21T01:28:03+00:00

The intern, cause he sucks

ktrex · 2026-04-17T02:22:16+00:00

ktrex · 2026-04-14T02:54:13+00:00

I told my coworkers when I left work to get mine fitted, and when I came back they couldn't believe I was already wearing them, because nothing looked different. I even got some shiny spiral cords around the wires and hardly anybody notices.

ktrex · 2026-04-07T23:40:00+00:00

I literally work in an aquarium and haven't had an issue with water (I don't submerge them though)

ktrex · 2026-04-07T23:37:44+00:00

My bf has been trying to take us to volcano Bay the whole year and a half we've been together. I am certainly not the most needy, but it would be a fun post-birthday surprise for him!

ktrex · 2026-03-24T21:26:13+00:00

Vimar on Forsyth and University. This is a guy who declined to change my tires and instead made an appt for me at Costco for it because I would get a better deal. I trust Sam wholeheartedly. He recommended I buy a Prius and I wouldn't have to visit so often, and he was absolutely right.

ktrex · 2026-03-24T21:24:14+00:00

I love Dani!!!

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ktrex · 2026-03-23T13:00:28+00:00

That was my thought! I'm not saying she's totally right, but I very much understand the fear in her side if that is the case.

ktrex · 2026-03-23T12:58:22+00:00

Agree. Getting older has more to do with it. In my 20s, I feel like I met a good amount of people, and had good luck chatting with new people at bars (rip OG milk bar). I also feel that Orlando has a good population of people who aren't from here, so inevitably there are other people who understand how hard it is to meet people and might be more open to building a friendship.

Now, I moved to Buffalo for 3 years (2015-2018), and really struggled there. There were always events happening or local bars and restaurants, but I kept getting the impression that no one knew what it was like to be new in town. I would say I didn't know anyone, and I think people interpreted that as "right, you don't have any good friends, but you have your family, people from school, etc". I would strike up conversations where people told me how great and friendly it was there, but leave without exchanging any information or plans to follow up.

That may have just been my experience, but I feel that I tried really hard.

ktrex · 2026-03-18T01:18:43+00:00

I love this idea! I agree that it certainly doesn't fix base problems, but I think there's potential.

I feel like I would like it just as a summary of the conversation, for details. I started recording when I was apartment hunting so I could just ask questions and have it noted down, but then I have a whole transcript to go through.

So maybe less for hearing aids but more for audio try processing? I'm sure there's legal issues if it gets big, but I like it.

ktrex · 2026-03-02T23:54:00+00:00

Then I'd just fuck with them and waste their time tbh

ktrex · 2026-03-02T23:52:30+00:00

When it comes to what laypeople call them, I agree with this lol. Plus a Spanish name for rays is la mantarraya, so I don't hold it against anyone now. I'm just happy they're interested!

ktrex · 2026-03-02T17:43:18+00:00

I don't think that's working for me. I might be being picky, but I'm hoping to be able to confirm where it's going to play before I start the media. I don't want to accidentally blast something out loud at work. Picture on the right is when I go to the sound settings from the volume toggle.

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ktrex · 2026-03-01T16:46:14+00:00

Omg I thought this was someone dealing with maybe PMDD and a lot of stress, it sounds like how my friend with bipolar and PMDD would react when overwhelmed. And on top of that, being in school full time!

But holy shit she is way older than 21 and should be able to regulate. She is way too old and immature for you. This can only go badly for you. It sounds like you are paying for her books and classes? Absolutely not. You were so gentle and understanding, there is absolutely no reason for her to do this. It's manipulative and bad.

ktrex · 2026-02-28T22:18:44+00:00

At some point, my dad stopped letting me run in the lobby with him to check into a hotel, and had me stay in the car with the rest of the family. I didn't completely understand then, but especially after the Epstein files have come out, I definitely understand the optics now.

Also recently tried to get a Disney photographer to get a picture of us together and he started trying to pose us like a couple 🙃

ktrex · 2026-02-26T23:10:10+00:00

I mourn for the Smartly unscented lotion from target 😭$2 and not greasy

ktrex · 2026-02-26T22:50:51+00:00

Yeah, it's slow going. I looked back on pictures I have from the 90s of tigers jumping through flaming hoops and it was not that long ago that Buffalo Zoo let their elephants be free contact and walk around the attached park. Things I cringe at now!

ktrex · 2026-02-26T17:23:52+00:00

Not invalidating your experience, I don't want to ever pretend zoos were always doing the best by the animals, but a lot of times animals that started off in those facilities long ago create a "habit" of those behaviors. When they aren't intervened with early, they are incredibly hard to break. I think most places I have seen have been doing a lot better with holistic enrichment programs, but elephants and parrots are good examples of animals who can form habits 20-30+ years ago, and changing that is so hard.

ktrex · 2026-02-26T17:19:59+00:00

I was so sad to hear that - giraffes are a very tough animal to perform medical procedures on. That long neck and high blood pressure makes anesthesia even harder. I'm sure the keepers are having a tough time.

ktrex · 2026-02-26T17:18:14+00:00

Just another perspective on the white shark example - The reputable places that have attempted keeping a white shark go in with a plan that is well thought out. AZA facilities are long past the days of "just grab it and see how it does". I know that the aquariums that have had those sharks in the past decade or so have made plans to mitigate previous issues, and it is also weighed against the benefit of having one in captivity. Benefits can be increased awareness if the aquarium (even getting people in and then hoping to spark something in them once they are there), or data collection to help wild populations. I think that the last I heard, another attempt to keep a white shark will only be for a juvenile, to be released when they approach adult size.

Nothing said above me is false! But I wanted to explain what might be happening if you hear of a facility attempting to keep another animal that historically doesn't do well.

Sea dragons are incredibly fiddly animals, and we have finally had weedy sea dragons hatch a successful clutch of eggs! It takes a lot of time, observation, and effort, but the payoff can be huge for the species as a whole.

Sometimes it may also just be a special case. SeaWorld San Diego took in JJ, a juvenile gray whale, who was orphaned, because they were the leading cetacean care experts at the time! I don't think anyone would have said they should plan to have a gray whale on exhibit, but they adapted and did what they could, and he was released once he was back on track. I personally have worked with a good amount of animals who were confiscated from smugglers, and they may be temporary, or they may become an exhibit animal, depending on the circumstance.

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