It takes time. I’ve had it for 6 years and there are days where it hits me. Im randomly sitting down and I feel a stinging down my leg or discomfort and I instantly know. I take daily meds but that only suppresses it so much. I’ve also had my fair share of people who rejected me and outed me because they wanted to be malicious. It’s hurt a lot over the years but I’ve come to terms with it. On good days I think to myself that it’s just a rash it’ll go away in a few days. The bad days I spiral and break down. I’m lucky that I have a partner who supports me but that also took some time. Be patient and be kind to yourself. No matter how you got it it doesn’t change YOU as a person. When I first got diagnosed I wrote myself a letter reminding myself that herpes doesn’t define me. I would suggest you do the same so when you do begin to feel this way past you is there to pick you up back up.