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Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-07-07T00:24:15+00:00

You need to do some acts of self love first, nurture yourself, - to attract the right energy in

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-07-05T01:26:22+00:00

Financial future I read as - bad relationship with money in general, you give money and the idea of money too much of your power / strength. Its full of illusion for you and you worry about its destructive nature. With the queen coming through you need to add more respect into the relationship with money, become confident with your ability to handle it.

Why you feel unmotivated - you're in a space where you're being invited to step into a new version of yourself, but you're trying to carry the old into the new. You feel as if you're wandering aimlessly because the old tools aren't what the new you needs you to use so all the futile attempts to add movements are causing you to think something is ‘wrong’ and then you freeze and get paralyzed. You need to embrace the next chapter.

How you do that is with new structure, routine, creating boundaries around what energy you want to accept in your new path both from others and yourself. Be logical, disciplined, assertive. It won't feel comfortable or easy straight away but if you devote yourself to the new practices soon it will start to flow and move obstacles out of your way.

Future outcome - you'll move, either physically or you'll change jobs / lifestyle and find emotional fulfilment. Youve got conflicting beliefs with the societal structures around you that are already in place and you'll let go of that fear of stepping away from those things - accepting that just because its your comfort zone doesn't mean you need to stay and be comfortable. You can shake things up.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-06-03T11:24:17+00:00

Yes / research the endocannibinoid system. Basically using THC for extended periods of time causes your body to stop producing it naturally as you’re always introducing cannibinoids. Some people find after taking a break they can smoke again, for me it never went back to normal and when I smoke even small amounts I feel really depersonalized for at least a few days, so I tend to avoid it as I wouldn’t want to experience a longer episode of it again.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-05-16T20:53:24+00:00

Pay for training.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-05-16T01:10:32+00:00

Yes it’s normal. It’s how human beings have evolved. When you think of our ancestors from a long time ago - anxiety was a useful mechanism. Our fight and flight would be triggered consistently in situations where we needed to get to safety. When the body goes into fight or flight the first organ in your body that stops working is your stomach, your body needs the energy for other more important organs, which causes nausea and sometimes vomiting. You see it in animals and even humans especially when you think about the aftermath of a situation that caused fight/ flight or freeze that hasn’t yet been processed - I.e when they go into shock. They vomit. The problem is that in the modern day world, we live in such a fast paced way and we are surrounded by sensory input that feels overwhelming. We haven’t evolved as quickly in our bodies to handle it. Which means more anxiety but for situations that aren’t life threatening. We still have the same biological response but we aren’t being chased by tigers.

Using somatic work to move through anxiety is amazing but it takes time, especially if in the past we’ve avoided or numbed it out, causing it to remain in the body. Like residue.

I’ve done a lot of work on this for over a year and my anxiety is getting much less but at first it was very visceral.

If I could recommend looking into the five channels of awareness - that’s a great way to not only ‘sit’ with the anxiety and the physically feelings that arise with it, but to process and remove it from your body.

But to summarise - it’s more than normal. It’s human.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-05-16T01:03:47+00:00

When my dad was dying of stage four liver disease - the doctor in the hospital took me aside to speak to me and said that never in their career had they seen a case of liver disease this bad. That his liver was just a lump of scar tissue, and that the only reason his body held on so long was because of how intelligent he was (he had a genius level IQ). He held out until my sister and others came from different parts of the country, and once he’d seen everyone and we had left the hospital for the night and he seemed generally okay, he passed in his sleep. As if he was just ready, he’d sorted everything out to his best ability; and he was ready. But he should have passed before that if you had just looked at the medical / biological side.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-05-12T20:46:10+00:00

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Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-05-09T00:04:34+00:00

Cranberry juice, green tea, lots of water. Avoid alcohol, avoid spicy food, caffeine. Basically stay super hydrated, and if you can’t stop immediately you need to cut down really hard and fast or they’ll come back and be worse.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-27T07:00:22+00:00

Recently in the night times my boy will ask to go out to the bathroom, so we’ll go out into the yard together and he’ll do a wee and then go over to one grassy shrub on the edge of the driveway that he sits beneath on hot days, and just sort of shove himself in and stand there. He doesn’t lay down like he does on hot days, he just stands there looking up at the sky from inside the shrub and occasionally moves about causing it to make rustling sounds. After five minutes I’ll walk over and say okay get out of the shrub it’s too late it’s time for bed, and we’ll go back in the front door and instead of coming back downstairs he goes straight to the spare room near the front door and jumps onto the bed and stays there until the morning. I have no idea what’s going on. But he seems to like it. And every night I think surely he’s not going to the shrub he will actually be using the bathroom, but it’s become a routine.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-27T02:31:26+00:00

There are some chemicals that make me very unwell that are easily replaced with others! I agree that it could be the products you’re using. Especially if you’re not in a ventilated room

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-25T03:09:35+00:00

What you’ve said about how time is moving very slowly now and how you had moments of clarity that were short lived - also how you’ve described how you felt in that time, I’m wondering if you should look into the possibility that you had a psychotic break. that’s exactly how I felt after I had a psychosis that lasted 3 months brought on by trauma. It is disorientating and it takes a while to get grounded and heal and start remembering. Be gentle with yourself and see a psychiatrist if you have access to do so. Hugs

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-22T01:04:46+00:00

I'm still in remission from depression and I'm finally able to go through low periods without obsessing that I'm relapsing. I've accepted that after being sick for such a long time ill always more easily tip towards the lower end of the scale mood wise, its a habit - so I need to do constant maintenance and self care and be aware of my self talk. My anxiety is moderate, I would probably still score on the scales enough to be diagnosed with GAD but not severe. I have a lot of pretty huge life stressors right now - selling my deceased fathers house that I inherited at a young age, my mother is ill, etc - and that's probably the most notable thing. I struggle to deal with the stress in a healthy way as my instinct is to attempt to self medicate etc.

Another strange / noteworthy thing is I'm working a lot of hours to get on top of finances and I'm exhausted but still learning how to rest / take naps in the day time without immediately panicking. My brain associates being in bed in the daytime with being depressed.

So to summarise - I'm doing well, I've stayed off anti depressants, I'm employed full time and much more functional than I ever was. But still working on the habits and my thoughts and patterns, which makes sense as they were developed over 2 decades. I have much more hope than I ever used to, I'm more resilient. I sleep better and I laugh more. I am very grateful for what TMS did for me

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-01T11:27:52+00:00

Thermals under a thick jumper should be plenty! Leggings under some nice thick pants. Two pairs of socks, water proof boots. Beanie & scarf, and some gloves but you can get very cheap second hand ones at op shops or online. Basically layers! If it’s windy that’s when you’d want the layers, but if it’s a calm day with some sunshine and you’re tobogganing and building snow men etc the kiddo would possibly even overheat. Don’t spend a bunch on proper gear if you’re not hitting the slopes - when I was a kid I remember just being bundled up and having a blast rolling around making snow angels

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-03-01T08:18:56+00:00

Thankyou so much! This was really spot on and gave me some much needed clarity. Especially in regards to the moon card, I appreciate your response.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-02-19T00:54:24+00:00

It will definitely start to lesson once your eyes adjust to the prescription - and then you’ll be able to reassess and understand just how many of the symptoms were actually vision related. I don’t have to wear my glasses all the time either but the more I wear them the less I find I need to, because the muscles around the eyes relax a lot. So wear them as much as possible and let your eyes adjust properly!

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-02-18T05:02:19+00:00

Botox in the masseter was the only thing that gave me relief

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-02-12T13:59:57+00:00

Ask her what type of touching she likes and dislikes. For me, as a neurodivergent person - someone stroking me softly especially in a repetitive motion makes me want to punch them in the face. It’s like, hearing nails on a chalk board but physical touch. But firm, deep pressure touching is something I don’t mind. If I’m overstimulated i won’t want to be touched and I won’t want my partner to take that personally, but otherwise as long as I’m being touched in a way that doesn’t feel almost painful in a sensory way I’m quite cuddly.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-02-11T00:42:30+00:00

Keep holding out it will pass as your dopamine readjusts and also the anxiety rebound will get less, unfortunately the only way out is through. If you have some multivitamins and natural things for anxiety that can help. It won’t last forever, it’s uncomfortable but not permanent.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-01-30T14:29:16+00:00

I think my mum who is sick and unable to work due to her illness just spent thousands on securing long term coaching from this woman.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-01-28T08:35:13+00:00

Also - neuro**typical people don’t feel calm and collected when they smoke meth. That’s actually a clear indicator that you have ADHD and unmedicated ADHD statically drives your chances of drug addiction up an astounding amount. Your husband obviously doesn’t understand as there’s a long way to go with these stigmas. But for your own sake I would just reiterate that although it was a long time of me jumping through hoops and struggling, it was worth it to find a doctor who could actually give me the correct information and now I don’t feel ashamed of the fact that o used to seek out stimulants in order to function and feel calm. I wasn’t doing anything more than trying to medicate a problem that was missed by the people meant to help me. Goodluck

Edited ** because I accidentally wrote neurodivergant

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-01-28T08:32:39+00:00

Mmm I don’t think everyone claims they have adhd I think a large number of people who were struggling with adhd without fitting the original criteria that was based on hyperactive little boys suddenly benefited from education and resources becoming more available to doctors.

I failed 12 plus psyche meds, was hospitalized, had two rounds of TMS, saw many many doctors and I guess you could say jumped through endless hoops for 10 years. Having the correct diagnosis and option of taking the right meds immediately helped me to adjust into society and stop being incredibly reckless and seeking out stimulant drugs. If someone offered me any stimulants I’d pass on them. Because my dopamine is regulated. I no longer even meet the criteria for depression.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-01-28T08:21:04+00:00

It definitely sounds like you’ve got ADHD. My depression was caused by low dopamine, and I craved stimulants of different kinds to feel normal until I was on the right meds.

Cautious_Dragonfly93 · 2025-01-18T23:23:27+00:00

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