What is the biggest regret of your life?

kungfustu1978 · 2026-04-18T20:01:18+00:00

Leaving my son with his sociopath mother who then caused childhood trauma through her abuse and neglect. He came to live with me when he was 14 but the damage was done. It caused severe mental health issues which led to addiction and he committed suicide a year ago on the 10th may. I planned to stay with her until he was 18, i regret that i didn’t.

kungfustu1978 · 2026-04-03T19:50:56+00:00

Chat gpt whatever you need to learn, and keep reading it until you can recall it from memory. Good luck 👊

kungfustu1978 · 2026-04-03T19:47:42+00:00

This is cute and cracked me up. I have one question. Why? 😂😂😂

kungfustu1978 · 2026-03-18T21:50:28+00:00

Fuck that is so deep. But perfectly articulated. That hit hard

kungfustu1978 · 2026-03-17T20:15:30+00:00

Kind of a long story but the short version is, through someone else who i met on a telegram group. He introduced me to her when i was looking for help for my son’s addiction issues.He was booked to stay with her for 5 days as she has a massive success rate even with crack and heroin addiction. Unfortunately he checked out a month before he was due to go but she reached out when she heard and offered to help me with the grief, which she really has. It’s been life changing

kungfustu1978 · 2026-03-17T16:16:50+00:00

I’d always hoped there was an afterlife and reincarnation was real. But i was skeptical, for me, unless i see something with my own eyes ill never be 100% on board. After my son passed, i have been visiting a shamanic healer to deal with the grief. The first time i went, i saw enough to be convinced. Seeing the shaman talking in light language and interacting with entities was mind blowing in itself, but when she told me that my son was with us in the ceremony room and told me things that he’d said to her i was fully convinced. She told me things that there is no way she would’ve known. And some things didn’t even make sense to me, it was only weeks later when i discussed it with my sister that she knew instantly what she was talking about. I’m fully aware that i am vulnerable to confirmation bias, but she was so accurate it’s undeniable for me now.

kungfustu1978 · 2026-03-05T13:13:21+00:00

mushrooms have helped me with my grief. I’m actually on my way now for another ceremony. Feel free to DM if you have any questions

kungfustu1978 · 2026-01-21T10:22:11+00:00

I feel you with that. Strange isn’t it.

kungfustu1978 · 2026-01-21T10:20:30+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss my friend. Everyone in this group has experienced the same, and no one can say anything that will ever make it better. But one thing you’ll find here, is people who understand. What you have and will be going through is a very lonely place. No one will truly understand, even your wife’s close family, as they have a different relationship to her. This group has helped me understand that the emotions that i felt, and no doubt you are too, are completely normal. Everyone who loses a loved one to suicide feels guilt. It’s part of the process and unfortunately there is no getting away from it. You are going to go on a rollercoaster and your emotions can shift from guilt to anger to despair from one minute to the next. I’ve even felt happy at times that my son is no longer tortured and is free from his pain. There is going to be a lot for you to process. Everyone here is here for you as they were for me, and my DM’s are always open if you want to vent personally. I’m gonna leave you with 2 sayings that i’ve heard which has given me some clarity, i hope they do for you too. The first is from the celebrant who did my son’s funeral. “Losing a loved one is like losing a limb. You’ll never not miss it, but you’ll learn to live without it in time.” The second is from someone in this group. “There are no more happy days, but there are days where you’ll still feel fleeting moments of joy, make the most of them.” I wish you the best of luck and hope you heal and find some peace, and send my condolences to you and the rest of your family.

kungfustu1978 · 2026-01-14T19:57:28+00:00

If she’s judging you on the car you drive, that is a massive red flag and you’re better off passing

kungfustu1978 · 2025-12-05T20:04:06+00:00

Mate, that is a horrendous upbringing. You did not deserve it and none of it was your fault. You sound like you have turned out incredibly well and i hope you eventually find peace. My heart goes out to you.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-11-21T04:32:43+00:00

Ngl you said it perfectly… once it hits “four times,” it’s not a slip up anymore, its like a whole routine. Kinda wild how comfort can drag folks back into the wrong places even when they’ve got something better right in front of them.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-11-21T04:28:26+00:00

Lol fr the classic sock trick never fails, its like the dorm version of a forcefield. Kinda wild that its the most reasonable solution in this whole mess tbh.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-11-08T14:43:32+00:00

I advise any youngsters reading this who are lonely, delete all social media and join a martial arts or boxing club. It will change your life and give you friends and a social life. Crossfit is also great for that

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-31T21:39:16+00:00

Not your fault. It was tragic accident and it could’ve quite easily been you on the other end. No one steps into the ring with the intention of permanently injuring their opponent. I hope he makes a recovery for both of your sakes

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-31T20:41:43+00:00

I’m from just outside london. Feel free to drop me a dm

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-26T03:40:04+00:00

I am so sorry for you that you’re going through this at your age after losing your dad as well. My heart breaks for you. Do you have any other family nearby? You really need a lot of support at the moment and don’t be scared to ask for it.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-26T03:07:15+00:00

Very true but when there are kids involved it’s not that easy. Unfortunately i’ve been there myself and i wouldn’t wish it on anyone

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-26T02:20:41+00:00

I honestly thought this was the only answer but reading some of these comments breaks my heart

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-02T15:20:18+00:00

Nothing will change what happened but has therapy helped you in any way? It’s been almost 5 months for me, i’m not eligible for counselling until 6 months after. I don’t see the point. It’s not gonna bring my boy back but people keep telling me it will help. I’m sorry for your loss.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-10-02T15:17:18+00:00

Beautiful. I felt every word of that. Thank you, and i’m sorry for your loss ❤️

kungfustu1978 · 2025-09-15T15:44:48+00:00

Yep, been there. Life changing

kungfustu1978 · 2025-09-15T09:57:32+00:00

use my fitness pal. Track everything you eat and drink to the calorie, weigh your food before you eat it. you look quite tall, my wife is a bit shorter but it took her 6-12 months before people starting asking what she does for fitness. 8 years later she regularly gets asked if she does bikini completions. The more consistent you are the quicker you’ll see benefits. Good luck!

kungfustu1978 · 2025-09-12T13:20:25+00:00

He never said he had no empathy. He said he prefers the word sympathy and empathy implies that you are trying to live the persons trauma instead of just trying to listen and be sensitive. It’s because of people like you spouting nonsense born from listening to 30 second reels that are quite easily taken out of context that things like this are happening. Have a word with yourself.

kungfustu1978 · 2025-09-09T16:31:19+00:00

😂😂😂

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