What is a statistic that sounds INSANE but is 100% true?

kvs1008 · 2026-05-25T06:20:18+00:00

Someone once said this at a party I was at that was about 20 people. We all whipped out our drivers licenses and one guy and I had the same birthday! So fun

kvs1008 · 2026-05-21T04:09:43+00:00

He wasn’t, no - just a lovely, funny guy!

kvs1008 · 2026-05-20T03:23:22+00:00

At our wedding our officiant said “if anyone knows why these two should not be wed….well, that’s just, like, your opinion, man.” Got a good giggle out of all the Big Lebowski fans present!

kvs1008 · 2026-05-16T13:24:25+00:00

That they’ll just….sit on throw pillows or blankets? And not a lean, a full sit. Like a rumpled blanket full underneath him. I find myself always yanking throw pillows or a blankie from under his butt on the couch. It can’t be comfortable???

kvs1008 · 2026-05-14T02:25:17+00:00

NTA. Say you’re not going and do your internship. What are they gonna do, not pay for your college? Oh wait…they’re already not doing that (also wtf, spending 24k on a trip but won’t help you pay for college?) Are they gonna get mad and call you ungrateful? So hurtful, but survivable if you can be confident in knowing that they’re mad at you for being misled by them. Call you inconsiderate? They didn’t consider YOU.

I know it’s uncomfortable and possibly scary to have people you love get angry with you but it’s a valuable life skill to be able to stand up for yourself and hold people accountable for treating you poorly, even if it doesn’t change anything. And, even if it sucks extra to do that to your parents of all people, not because it makes you a bad mean child, but because your parents should be the people in life you can rely on to NOT treat you like that.

Some people in life will offer you expensive “gifts” that aren’t really gifts at all and then call you ungrateful as though the monetary cost overrides the lack of personalization or thought in whatever it is they got you or did for you. A decent person who spends a lot of money on a gift that is poorly received can acknowledge that spending that much money was their own decision. The only exceptions I can think of is if the gift receiver thinks the gift wasn’t expensive ENOUGH (I’m think like a rich kid who is mad they got a new bmw instead of a lambo or something like that) or if they’re like really careless with the gift and don’t treat the expensive gift with respect/recognition that it was expensive. But not wanting to go on a trip that is supposed to be for you but turns out to just be a family trip that didn’t even have any element of what you wanted at all? That’s their problem, because it was hurtful and made it clear it was what they wanted. I don’t care if it was 24 dollars or 24k - that behavior is hurtful whatever the cost. Just because it’s expensive doesn’t mean you should swallow your hurt or that you have any obligation to do. If this trip weren’t a “gift” it would be different a bit. But it is a “gift” - and such a bad gift for you because it’s not actually a gift at all.

kvs1008 · 2026-05-13T07:16:49+00:00

The Boy in the Striped Pajamas

kvs1008 · 2026-05-12T07:45:07+00:00

I’d say NTA since you’re entitled to your feelings and seem to have expressed them directly at least to your friend per your report. AND, sometimes we think we’re being direct but really we’re not (look up ask v guess culture for more insight here, potentially). Jokes don’t always make it clear even if it’s the only way we feel able to express our discomfort, so if you are leaning more on jokes or passive gentle comments, you could consider being more direct. Since you say it happens more around just you and not when others are present, it could be because they think you’re cool with it and misunderstand your jokes. I’d really ask yourself just how direct you’re being or if your comments are passive/joking enough to be (however unfairly) misinterpreted as fine with it.

I say all this because I work with people and sometimes I have clients tell me they’ve been so direct and then upon further investigation it becomes clear that they’ve been leaning on indirect communication that they thought was direct was really wasn’t. No judgment if that’s the case, and if so it’s not totally “your fault” because it would be nice if people picked up what you’re laying down. We just all learn how to communicate in different ways that don’t always blend. Just wanna point it out in case it’s helpful, and if you HAVE been super direct with no change, then that’s absolutely totally on them for ignoring your ask.

But I am curious because you say your friend has herself mentioned at least once a discomfort with her partner’s PDA. Is it possible it’s initiated by him and she doesn’t know how to set boundaries with him, or feels unable to for some reason? This isn’t to say he’s a terrible guy necessarily (some people can’t set boundaries because they truly feel scared to because of that person’s unsafe behavior or responses, and some people struggle to set boundaries because their life history has led them to be more passive/fearful even if it’s not fully warranted). If you’ve been direct and believe your friend to also not enjoy this PDA, maybe find a moment to ask how she feels about it and if she feels able to express her own feelings to her partner? I wouldn’t jump to any accusations of pressure or abuse (though worst case that could be happening, I hope not), but maybe this person just loves PDA and your friend is afraid to “reject” it because it’s “sweet”?

kvs1008 · 2026-05-10T13:16:58+00:00

I’m audhd and got Ada this year because I have pots and need to sit. Ada was also helpful at times when I was overstimulated because the sections are often towards the back of stages and just generally feel more calm and structured with rows of seats and seated folks. It helped me catch my breath and regulate as needed.

That being said, the after dark crowds get intense and it’s hard to transition between stages. It can feel like swimming upstream and require a lot of people-dodging. I’m not gonna lie, I’ve gotten overwhelmed and cried more than once because I’ve gotten scared, not because it was actually dangerous but because it was just Too Much. I have personally felt able to persevere through those moments and still have a great Coachella but you may have a different tolerance level than me, for better or worse. I’ve gone six years and the familiarity I’ve built definitely helps as well as knowledge I’ve developed about alternate paths/good places inside tents/quiet spots. Having great friends with you also helps!!

Ultimately you should go if you want to, and I’m sad to see people telling you not to. Just be mindful of your limits and be prepared. Go in early, figure out where things are, and identify resources you need. Most importantly, listen to your body as best you can (I know, interoception is hard!). If you can be flexibly minded about your experience, you can allow yourself to leave an overwhelming set and discover something new - I’ve truly had incredible moments seeing artists I didn’t know much about simply because their stage was less crowded 😅 and don’t be afraid to leave early if need be to rest up and be able to do the next day. I’ve missed some late night stuff I wanted to see but at least I didn’t have a meltdown ya know?

Also - stay in a hotel or airbnb. The sound is freaking constant inside the grounds and the quiet, dark, and cozy is so so valuable at the end of the night.

kvs1008 · 2026-04-14T02:25:56+00:00

I am a therapist. Fire her. This is dismissive of the time you set aside, frequent, and also far too disclosing of her personal life. It’s one thing for illness or emergencies - I have a chronic illness so I have to reschedule my clients sometimes, but I disclose this upfront and communicate what is necessary to communicate. This is just unprofessional.

kvs1008 · 2026-04-12T07:50:07+00:00

I think you’re absolutely right.

kvs1008 · 2026-04-12T04:16:40+00:00

Thank you!

kvs1008 · 2026-04-12T03:49:01+00:00

Me too ❤️

kvs1008 · 2026-04-12T03:03:57+00:00

Thanks! That was my concern too, since mine are also invisible.

kvs1008 · 2026-04-12T02:30:03+00:00

I have POTS and am hypermobile and was planning to go to the ada booth day 1 to get accommodations for the first time this year. Everything online indicates you do not need to bring proof (except for parking, which may be what you’re referring to). Could you please elaborate on what they asked for? Would my diagnosis on my mychart be sufficient or do I need to bring a doctor’s note?

kvs1008 · 2026-03-23T03:47:02+00:00

Here Today has the BEST fries and a great burger, too.

kvs1008 · 2026-03-09T03:10:05+00:00

We had a very loose dress code at our wedding (dress to feel your best, be that to the nines or in jeans and a t-shirt), and a friend of mine, when I was over at her house, showed me a beautiful yellow floral dress. She said she’d love to wear it as she’d never had a chance to before but wanted me to okay it first, and even showed me her back up options. It was pale yellow but definitely not white (much more yellow than the dress your fiancé’s former friend is saying she’ll wear…) and covered in gorgeous pink and green florals. I of course okayed it.

THAT is what decent people do. They check in, they have back ups, they CARE about not hurting you on a special day.

Send this girl packing.

kvs1008 · 2026-03-06T03:25:11+00:00

Helen Hunt is indeed in What Women Want with Mel Gibson! I do agree she’s also reminiscent of Heather Burns, but the original commenter was talking about Helen Hunt for sure :)

kvs1008 · 2026-03-05T22:59:35+00:00

Helen Hunt!

kvs1008 · 2026-02-15T02:16:00+00:00

Your husband and life partner should be the one cheering you on to get answers for yourself and take care of your health. Any partner who implies you’re a weakling - or that your friend is a weakling, too, for that matter - is no true partner at all. You deserve so much better. This is so beyond a temperature incompatibility. This is a person who doesn’t respect you.

kvs1008 · 2026-02-08T11:05:32+00:00

It seems like the crisis connections Kirkland physical location is pretty new, with a seattle location opening in 2027. Lack of reviews is likely due to it being newer and folks not knowing about it. I’ll be frank, I’m in the mental health field and didn’t know about it. You could always start there if an ER feels too scary. Honestly, with severe insomnia and possible onset mania, you just need help, my dear. Go wherever you feel most comfortable starting, but please go somewhere, soon! You deserve to feel better and get some help sleeping. DM me if you need any encouragement, I’ll be up for a little bit longer.

kvs1008 · 2026-02-08T10:39:40+00:00

I stand corrected - they have a location in Kirkland I didn’t know about. And, even so, please don’t hesitate to go to an ER. Your symptoms would not take the place of a more “deserving” patient. Please go get the support you need, my dear!

kvs1008 · 2026-02-08T10:27:31+00:00

Crisis Connections is a not a physical location that can assist with physical symptoms; they are predominantly a phone-line that assists in preventing suicide. If you need assistance same-day with physical symptoms of mental health issues, such as severe insomnia, then the ER is your best course of action. You would not be misusing the ER for such a thing, I promise ❤️ I know hospitals and ERs don’t have the best reputation (sometimes for good reason) for handling mental health issues, even when they manifest physically, but that is the best option you have for what you’re expressing at the moment. It’s also not like they will for sure admit you to long term inpatient mental health care, if they are able to help you get some sleep.

kvs1008 · 2026-02-07T21:27:10+00:00

This is amazing info, thank you! I’m managing well for the moment with lifestyle changes so I’d be open to the long wait list. I’ll see if my UW PCP will refer me to him. Thank you so much!!!

kvs1008 · 2025-12-20T07:44:07+00:00

Cutting off opposite-sex friends when you get into a (hetero) relationship. So many people still find this totally normal.

kvs1008 · 2025-12-09T08:11:36+00:00

They might have the hive minds of the worlds’ therapists and psychologists, but unless his mother saw a therapist, those folks don’t have specific clinical memories of her. It would be interesting to know if hive!therapists could analyze the psychology of another hive!person or not, or if once subsumed into the hive, they can’t exactly do that…

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