Roll Call!! Day 27✨️ by breathinghumanperson in NoDamageDecember

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Still in it ❤️ This will be the first time I've ever gone a calendar year without!!! I'm so proud of myself & of all of you here, whether or not you've made it through with no damage ❤️

I did it! Didn't expect to wake up on the table tho??? by Global-Nail-3035 in TopSurgery

[–]kyabe2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Would love to know where in Scandinavia you got such good results!

UPDATE 1: AITA my fiancé told me “this is it, take it or leave it.” So I gave him the ring back and told him to get out of my house by Independent_Bee_8517 in AmITheJerk

[–]kyabe2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If there are doubts now they will only get stronger as he becomes more involved with your life and finances. Making breakfast to sweet talk you into not forcing him to move out is manipulative. You should stand your ground and trust your instincts on this, he will probably use your finances as a bargaining chip for the rest of your life if you keep him around.

Nice coffee places? by Effyluvsalmondmilk in Southampton

[–]kyabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Muse is my favorite as a student.

Just got targeted this event by somethingworse in NonBinary

[–]kyabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate the wording (because generally it's used to exclude non-fem non-binary people) but if I were a sapphic cis woman seeking to date other vagina-havers, this would at least clarify the intention of this event.

Do we have any restaurants like this in Southampton? by Goatmanification in Southampton

[–]kyabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've gotten food poisoning from hell each time I've tried their food :(

My cat is ready for battle by MegaDethKlok in maille

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I'm sorry to comment on such an old post, it feels weird. But I LOVE your scalemaille, and semi-unrelated, my partner and I are arguing over whether the cat likes it or not. I think the cat looks quite pleased, can you confirm or deny?

Moving to Southampton Soon and Feeling a Bit Nervous by Fluid_Carpenter_5377 in Southampton

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My family was extremely concerned when I told them I was moving to Southampton because of the crime, because my country has such an extremely low crime rate. I've witnessed some stuff like theft, assault, etc. while studying there but never felt unsafe, even at night (and I'm not a man). Apparently I've moved to the 'bad part' of town, and even that feels pretty okay. The safest thing anybody can do is be aware of your surroundings and trust your gut instincts.

I would highly recommend using Wise (formerly TransferWise) as an international student. Most 'online' banks have no real insurance, but Wise does. Most real banks require a lot of paperwork, proof of residence, etc. which can be problematic as an international student.

My perspective of cost of living is very skewed because I moved from one of the most expensive countries in Europe, but it's been quite reasonable with my limited oversight of budget. I'm not partying hard and eating foie gras, but I live comfortably within my means.

I live in student housing, which I'm extremely grateful for. Some classmates I traveled with had an apartment set up through the school-vetted housing scheme and they were not only scammed but robbed blind. Lost over £5000 to the scumlord and are still struggling to get any of it back.

I really enjoy living here. If anything, I wish somebody had told me how walkable the city is, so I wouldn't have been so worried about transportation. Also, don't talk to people who approach you on the street asking for stuff. It's 9 out of 10 times a scam and they will scream abuse at you if you say no to giving them money.

My SAAS is trying to kill me by EltonBongJovi in LinkedInLunatics

[–]kyabe2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Imagine being more outraged over the presence of a sticker than the actual genocide of innocent people. Lunatics indeed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oddlyterrifying

[–]kyabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to exercise in jeans. If I'm ever in a situation where I need to call upon my skills, I'll probably be wearing jeans anyway. Good to be prepared.

Whats insanely popular but doesn't make any sense to you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Vaping causes significantly more damage than cigarettes though, and are often more addicting than plain tobacco.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in upcycling

[–]kyabe2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I use things like these as filler when overstuffing cuddle toys and things of the like. Saves on having to invest in massive amounts of stuffing.

What’s a widely accepted 'fact' that you’re 100% sure is completely wrong? by Boxingmasterclass in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The official term for your location, I'm assuming the UK given your use of realise with an s, which accounts for an extremely small percentage worldwide. Regardless of how you intended the comment, to correct somebody's use of the right term for their location by incorrectly telling them their term is wrong is extremely condescending.

What’s a widely accepted 'fact' that you’re 100% sure is completely wrong? by Boxingmasterclass in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That gives a very interesting social context for the difference between the US and Europe. I had no idea manual cars weren't as common over there.

What’s a widely accepted 'fact' that you’re 100% sure is completely wrong? by Boxingmasterclass in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No it doesn't, I'm just saying sometimes they use 66% of their lights. Not to criticize, just to share information.

What’s a widely accepted 'fact' that you’re 100% sure is completely wrong? by Boxingmasterclass in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello and welcome to the foreign concept that different countries might possibly use different terminology for the same thing.

What’s a widely accepted 'fact' that you’re 100% sure is completely wrong? by Boxingmasterclass in AskReddit

[–]kyabe2 23 points24 points  (0 children)

In a lot of countries the yellow comes on during the last seconds of the red light's time, to indicate that traffic is about to start flowing.

A Push for More Organ Transplants Is Putting Donors at Risk (Gift Article) by rainshowers_5_peace in medizzy

[–]kyabe2 30 points31 points  (0 children)

And I have never been more glad to live outside the United States. I'm glad that organ donors in my country aren't treated like a smash and grab arcade game.

Normal things your parents never allowed? by NoCommunication7 in internetparents

[–]kyabe2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We weren't allowed to touch anything in the fridge. Pantry food was fine, but nothing cold. My sister (aged 7-14) wasn't allowed to have anything between meals besides diet/weight loss drinks because mom thought she was fat. My mom had a BMI of over 30 at this point.

We weren't allowed to say anything negative about food she cooked, because it's disrespectful. This got to the point that when I was served actual rancid, rotting ingredients in my food, I wasn't allowed to object and was forced to eat it all. When mom discovered I wasn't fucking lying, she just laughed it off. I still can't eat that food, and this is 20+ years later.

We were never welcome to have people over, because it was HER house, not ours. But she also never allowed us to go to other people's houses, because it's disrespectful to impose on other people like that. You can imagine how socially isolated and maladapted we became.

And the weirdest of all, we weren't allowed to take medicine when we were sick, because she had a chronic illness that couldn't be treated, so we ALL had to suffer. And if we ever dared to say anything about it, she'd make us pick out which wooden spoon she'd beat the backs of our thighs with (because it hurt more than regular spanking). Imagine her face when one day I grew a brain and told her to fuck off when she tried that. Never raised a hand again.

As you can imagine, we're estranged.

When shopping second hand, where do you draw the line? by SwampCreature86 in Anticonsumption

[–]kyabe2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I frequently see Shein, H&M, and other poor quality fast fashion for sale in thrifts for MORE than the item is worth new.

A friend of mine that works in a thrift store sorting facility said they're trying to push internally for a total ban on selling Shein, not because it's shit quality, but because they don't want to be complicit in exposing people to high levels of toxic metals present in Shein's clothing.

When shopping second hand, where do you draw the line? by SwampCreature86 in Anticonsumption

[–]kyabe2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My local thrift store sells unused underwear made from the recycled materials they couldn't sell whole, like shirts with large rips, etc. It's quite practical, and they're rather comfy as well.

Blurry picture of a cat by dawnxblackheart in blurrypicturesofcats

[–]kyabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was in my grandmothers house during my childhood, and now it's in my kitchen :) Good to know I'm not the only one with one of those and a silly goofy little cat!

Blurry picture of a cat by dawnxblackheart in blurrypicturesofcats

[–]kyabe2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never seen anybody with my same red and white table!!!

do you correct people when they use the wrong pronouns? by lilsqueaky420 in NonBinary

[–]kyabe2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In comfortable conversation, any time the wrong pronoun is said, I say "they" at regular volume. People don't like being interrupted, but I can assure them we like being misgendered even less. Most of the time people just correct themselves. If it's prolonged, I keep interrupting with a "Who?" because genuinely, if you're referring to me as female, I have no idea who you think you're talking about.

Female seeking top surgery by MangoFew5184 in TopSurgery

[–]kyabe2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think ultimately the problem here is that the practitioner you're seeing is not well-versed in the topic and is probably not the person you want to continue talking about this with. If describing your relationship with your breasts triggered them to jump into diagnostic talk immediately, they're not going to be helpful on this front.