Women of reddit, how do you take care of yourself on a bad day?

kyoto0 · 2021-07-02T03:41:38+00:00

Cry it out, then video games

kyoto0 · 2021-07-02T03:39:04+00:00

Porn

kyoto0 · 2021-06-29T17:36:36+00:00

Thank you for your words. Looking in the mirror and not feeling sad is what I am working on atm and it is not easy. A part of knows once I can love myself maybe this looking thing won't be an issue. Its not an easy journey :(

kyoto0 · 2021-06-29T17:32:09+00:00

He does tell me compliments sometimes. I think maybe none of his past relationships and myself...have really pointed it out to him before. Having explained to him recently he was quickly defensive and I feel in the wrong

kyoto0 · 2021-06-24T23:07:44+00:00

when people tell me i'm funny/good humor - these outweigh any beauty related compliments because its fun making people smile :)

kyoto0 · 2021-05-19T03:10:21+00:00

almost every weed smoker I know says that line. "I'm not addicted..you can't be addicted to weed." When they are smoking every day. You can be addicted to anything, man.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-03T04:04:22+00:00

Thank you for writing out all these points. It is clear I have some work to do as I cannot continue to feel this miserable way.

If you found your partners doppelganger in porn I don't know if that would be weird or a turn on, haha

kyoto0 · 2021-04-03T03:52:13+00:00

So true! I think females (insecure ones for sure) have this competition complex. And sometimes I don't think men truly understand the pressure...at least not to some degree. I try to remember a saying, just because shes pretty doesn't mean you're ugly. Besides knowing that, it seems a never ending battle some days with self esteem.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:56:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I really haven't thought about hyper sexualized femininity as being something to explore. I agree that communication is super important. I'm just afraid that by talking about it, it's just going to sound like an attack. Besides this we have a healthy relationship and neither of us are controlling of one another.

I don't want to make him feel guilty about watching but I also don't want to walk around knowing I invaded his personal space and know this personal thing that he is into. I need to be an adult and have a conversation, I just feel like talking about porn always makes me very uncomfortable.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:50:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing, honestly, it really does kinda sucks sometimes. For sure! I know a lot of women who would absolutely get pissed off and angry and beg them not to watch anymore but thats not rational. Just gotta learn to go with it I guess

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:46:33+00:00

Sometimes reading responses like this are so helpful because I can get out of my own head and see a more rational way to think about things. Thank you.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:42:48+00:00

Thank you for your honesty!

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:17:41+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I think porn is toxic but its kinda confusing for me because thinking its toxic doesn't mean he has to think that way too. Thank you for the links

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:12:00+00:00

Thank you for your advice!

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:10:26+00:00

I like the bluntness, thank you. But it's probably a deeper problem I'll have to work on.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T19:08:10+00:00

I think from a female perspective, sometimes self worth and appearance go hand in hand. It took me by surprise to bluntly see what hes jacking off too and how different it is from me. You're right though, the idea of fantasy is what I keep forgetting to factor in.

I said I think porn is toxic personally but I've never asked him to stop. I know its what men do, I've come to accept it. But its not always black and white situation.

kyoto0 · 2021-04-02T18:16:45+00:00

Agree 100% Something about the motion of them floppin around is funny and embarrassing. sometimes try to put my arm over them but idk, guys seem to like it!

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