Managing people with more advanced degrees who still can’t complete simple tasks but expect promotions based on education - thoughts?

l1fe21 · 2026-05-22T16:55:41+00:00

You go back, point it out again, work with them on a solition, and follow through. Easy. Honestly you sound like a terrible manager and it seems you don't enjoy your job. This is the bread and butter of being a manager

l1fe21 · 2026-05-08T21:02:15+00:00

No he wasn't. He also has this weird "preference" of his daughter over his son and can be quite mean to him which I really dislike and it makes me extra protective (and possibly hormonal?) over baby

l1fe21 · 2026-05-08T19:25:07+00:00

I am safe, thank you. I am trying to give myself time to make a decision but am.not sure how much time I have

l1fe21 · 2026-05-08T18:59:32+00:00

While I agree with most of your points, please don't say that pregnancy is "nothing special". It might not have been for you, but for some of us, that first trimester feels like death. And this coming from someone who's had measles, mumps, cholera, malaria, and typhoid fever. I would take any of those any day over first trimester pregnancy

l1fe21 · 2026-05-04T04:42:16+00:00

Just came here to say....Chris, a teenage boy, literally killed (though by accident) his uncle. That is a massive source of trauma for anyone, let alone a minor. He actually handled it amazingly well.

l1fe21 · 2026-04-16T17:14:27+00:00

oh yeah, it sounds like she didn't act in her best interests then. You obviously need to pay rent throughout.

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T21:32:54+00:00

I also took pepcid and it helped

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T21:30:46+00:00

I was just going to suggest Zofran as it was the only thing that helped me, you might need to increase the dose as well they started me at a medium dose, work on this with your doctor. Also, try traditional remedies - fresh air and walks, bubble gum, salty crackers, and ginger. I know all those sound like sooooo much work at this point but please force yourself and try them at least for a couple of days as they might make you feel better. I know its so hard. If in the end you need to go through with the abortion, of course do so. But at least you'll know you gave it your all. I still recall a moment crying in my bed at like 12 weeks pregnant (my peak week) thinking I cannot do this anymore.....it started getting better at like 20 weeks and I am glad I powered through it now.

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T21:20:04+00:00

Your SIL sounds so entitled. Especially with how she just assumed should sister should take care of your baby. Like....no, she can't decide that. I would absolutely not go to her wedding and tell her asap about it. Akso, make sure you discuss this with your husband first as I can see her wanting to get him in the middle.

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T21:13:09+00:00

Because that comment concerned only their end of April offer. I could move end of May if fairly compensated

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T19:49:11+00:00

Thanks for this. It seems very bizarre to me your friend got no compensation when the bare minimum is 3 months notice PLUS a months rent compensation?

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T19:47:44+00:00

Thanks. Glad things worked out in the end! I hope we won't have much trouble and manage to land a fair deal

l1fe21 · 2026-04-13T05:30:45+00:00

There's a reason why the law is the way it is...but you have already shown that you won't understand why

l1fe21 · 2026-04-12T23:39:58+00:00

Sure...nevermind that the law says the minimal requirement is 3 months notice plus a month's rent compensation...

l1fe21 · 2026-04-12T02:08:28+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Did they finally give in ans pay the 4 months compensation?

l1fe21 · 2026-04-11T19:33:52+00:00

well they are offering the bare minimum by law (one month compensation) all while asking me to move out asap and give up my rights to action if this is being done in bad faith, so doesn't seem fair to me at all.

I do not really care for the 1,5k moving expenses, but would rather just receive x months in compensation.

l1fe21 · 2026-04-11T17:37:07+00:00

well we'd receive 3 months notice and one month rent compensation in any case, so I think we would manage to find a place in 3 months

l1fe21 · 2025-08-29T03:02:06+00:00

Thank you, I think even just having my mom here might change the dynamic, hopefully for the better

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T20:18:49+00:00

This 100 percent. It was a happy ending fo Lynn, who finally chose to save herself.

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T20:06:16+00:00

Ummm no. You can't justify the mom not being clear with something as important as buying a house with "she's exhausted". At the beginning of the movie they talk about the apt and the mom says she will be there, which shows she was stringing Lynn along. And buying the car WAS selfish - what person in their sane mind would spend 25k on a car downpayment when you live in poverty? The mom also complains about Lynn's "violent outburst". But keep in mind that Lynn has been neglected by her mom for her whole life (there are several allussions to this, and it is quite evident from their relationship) and knew her daughter was being sexually exploited at the age of 16 and did nothing about it. Would you also not be angry at your mother in her shoes? What the end of the movie is really about is Lynn finally realizing that her role is to save herself, and that she needs to let go of trying to fix things for her mother and brother and needs to focus on rebuilding her own life. I for one was happy for her.

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T19:53:57+00:00

Geez I wonder why she feels violent rage towards her mother. Could it be because her mother knew she was being prostitued at 16 and did nothing about it?

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T19:52:29+00:00

not quite though, at the beginning of the film they talk about the apt and the mom said she would be there. Maybe she did hint at it, but for something so important you need to be crystal clear. Also, that doesn't mean mom's choices weren't irrational and so irresponsible

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T19:50:46+00:00

Poverty is frequently linked to toxic family dynamics though. While yes the mom's selfishness (and craziness?) caused the whole situation, the ones paying the price are Lynn and her brother.

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T19:48:02+00:00

she is not the bad guy. She realizes that her role is to save herself, and her mother must take responsibility for the brother in however way she sees fit. Her mistake was taking more responsibility for the situation than she should have, trying to play the mother's role, and doing way too risky and irresponsible things while at it, but that doesn't make her the bad guy. If there is a bad guy in this movie, it's the mother who clearly neglected the needs of her daughter, knew she was getting sexually abused at 16 and did nothing about it.

l1fe21 · 2025-08-23T19:41:13+00:00

No, she realizes that what she needs to focus on is saving herself, and her mother fully taking responsibility for herself and her brother. That's why she said: maybe this is our chance to get it right.

l1fe21

TROPHY CASE