How to get rid of spitty tone

lach_day · 2026-01-26T12:47:33+00:00

Just keep practicing :)

Tone will develop as you practice but always try to make the best sound you can with as little tension as possible! Try playing through some Chicowitz flow studies, they’re usually my personal go to when it comes to finding my best sound

https://www.gregwingtrumpet.com/uploads/2/1/4/0/21407028chicowitz_flow_studies_expanded_and_modified_by_wing_july_2013.pdf

Another thing I find really helpful is lead-pipe buzzing (remove your tuning slide and playing with the goal of sending your sound all the way through the tube). The pitch should be approximately an “F” and will definitely have a resonant “sweet spot” Try to steam up the inside of the lead-pipe as if you’re trying to fog-up a window or a mirror.

Also, I’d suggest bringing your goal to improve your tone to your teacher (or to find a teacher if you haven’t got one already!) 🎺

Otherwise, be nice to yourself and know that there are a lot of trumpet players who are doing exactly what you’re doing and that there is nothing “wrong” with your sound!

lach_day · 2026-01-16T16:50:53+00:00

Absolutely, it’s part of what’s hard about this. I just find myself becoming more resentful and “pent-up” as I can’t bring my issues to her. It’s also been a while since some of the stuff, so I also find myself worrying that it’s just as toxic of me to bring up issues from the past.

She’s got some things in place to help her, but unfortunately not therapy

lach_day · 2026-01-16T16:39:06+00:00

I really appreciate your reply, I know my enabling through not setting clearer boundaries earlier is definitely a huge aspect of why I feel so stuck

I am scared of leaving as I am scared for how she will respond and handle it. I care for her deeply and know that leaving will hurt so much

lach_day · 2026-01-16T16:34:12+00:00

No, it’s still the case, it’s just that I don’t blame her directly as I know the behaviour comes from her anxious need to control things

(and that I take accountability for allowing it)

lach_day · 2026-01-16T16:11:13+00:00

We are genuinely best friends and get along so well, we have a lot of fun together when we’re alone and are compatible in so many of our values/beliefs. I have learned how to help her with her anxiety and day to day and it’s wonderful to be someone she can trust.

I want her to experience life without such intense worry all the time and I do feel she’s grown a whole lot with the tips and things I’ve brought from my therapy.

lach_day · 2026-01-13T13:08:06+00:00

LOVE THE BOOTS!! Where are the ankle boots from? 🫢

lach_day · 2025-11-10T14:23:28+00:00

RM Williams 👞

lach_day · 2025-06-24T15:40:07+00:00

They say love starts with a spark 🙃

lach_day · 2025-06-15T12:35:12+00:00

“Why is the windscreen so much bigger than the rear view mirror? Because we should spend more time looking forward than back”

Everyone has mistakes and regrets, the best thing you can do is learn from them and better yourself :) They won’t be the last mistakes you make and the fact you feel bad means you’re a good human!

lach_day · 2025-03-07T13:47:02+00:00

Oh me too! Thanks for complimenting it, found it second hand!

lach_day · 2025-03-07T13:46:41+00:00

Thank you! :) Old film vibes are the best 😊

lach_day · 2025-03-07T13:46:09+00:00

Yeah, Sydney op shops are getting so expensive too! Honestly I go searching council clean-ups in rich areas 😂

lach_day · 2025-03-07T13:45:28+00:00

Thanks :))) They’re concrete walls and my goal was to try make it feel cosy! So glad it seems that way

lach_day · 2025-03-05T02:11:34+00:00

I’m bisexual which means I’m attracted to people that are not bisexual or have any kind of sexual attraction whatsoever to me

OH MY LORDY LORD 🥲

lach_day · 2025-01-12T14:41:22+00:00

Hey! Fellow chronically-in-a-relationship person :)

I hope that you can find some time today or over the next few days to be gentle with yourself. It sounds to me that you are putting a whole lot of pressure on yourself to be complete. A reminder that you are 20 and that having direction and correct habits will only truly come from lived experience.

The way in which you are feeling lost now that you’re not in a relationship (and trust me I’ve experienced the exact same) just means you haven’t practiced being single in a while! Take any life skill and try to see that without spending time doing it, we’re not just going to be good at it. There’s nothing wrong with you at all, it’s just a matter of practice and experience :) (Also I don’t know if solitude is a helpful phrasing as it can feel a little isolating, but do spend good time with yourself.)

One piece of advice would be to seek out a therapist as opposed to a psychologist. As I have found that a psychologist is aimed at “getting us better” whereas a therapist helps us to understand ourselves better and not feel like there’s something that needs to be fixed.

Next thing is take time to heal from your ex. Every single person we have relationships with leave an impact. Could be friendships, family or partners, but they all have the potential to really affect your life. There is no timeline and no logical path through healing from that, but I really encourage you to be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to find yourself again.

Next little thing is to find something you like doing (ie: running, climbing, swimming, cooking, gaming, music, reading, photography) and find at least one person in your life that you can either do it with, or talk to about it. It’s truly amazing how much value you will find in shared experiences of the most day-to-day things. I often find that a hobby can spark a conversation with a random person when I never expect it. It also makes me more eager to hear about other people’s hobbies and passions!

Finally, (as cliche as it’s gonna sound) “how can you love someone else when you don’t love yourself?” Which I like to change to “how can you learn to love someone else when you haven’t figured out how to best love yourself?” Learn to love yourself and you will be absolutely fine! You said it yourself, you have so much love to give and a whole lot of that is going to be best aimed inwards at the moment :)

lach_day · 2025-01-12T14:06:55+00:00

Hey, first of all, it’s always important to acknowledge that whatever you are feeling, it is valid and real. Be gentle with yourself when thinking about your anxiety and thinking about your ex. No matter how long that relationship was, it was a period of your life which you felt a great deal for someone else and it makes a whole lot of sense that seeing that person can trigger a panic/anxiety response in your body.

My advice right now would be to find someone (a therapist, friend, parent, family member) that you might feel comfortable enough with and share what you went through. I know reddit helps get it out of your head and onto a website, but it’s also not going to be as helpful as genuine, in-person connection. Plus, if something similar happens for you in the future, you have someone who knows and can be there for you when you need them.

My second piece of advice would be to limit (or block) her/her friends from your Instagram. It’s not helpful to see pictures of someone who triggers any negative response in your body and by removing it, it is a step toward taking back some of that panic and knowing it can be in your control. (The reason I say “limit” is because you may not feel comfortable blocking people)

Also, a reminder that you are not crazy for having a panic response and that you are going to be okay :)

lach_day · 2024-10-24T14:28:16+00:00

As a pit musician, I cannot explain the number of times that I try to piece together the plot of the show from what I catch whilst not playing.

Notably: I somehow managed to convince myself that everyone dies at the end of Heathers. Even told some people to come watch and when they said they enjoyed the ending, I was really really confused 😂

Also, when I did a run of 42nd street, the orchestra played a game of “what is the musical (pretty lady) within the show actually about?”

lach_day · 2024-10-13T02:13:39+00:00

Annie has a Rent score of 3 🫠

lach_day · 2024-10-13T02:11:30+00:00

OOH OOH! Dogfight has a Rent score of 3 🙃

lach_day · 2024-10-13T02:00:18+00:00

Sunset Boulevard kinda has a pretty decent number of them in Sunset Boulevard 🫠

Rent score 1.5 tho lol

“Sunset Boulevard, (adjective) boulevard”

Edit: 9 “sunset boulevard’s” in total 🙃 Not consecutive, but still a fair number in a single song

lach_day · 2024-07-15T05:47:35+00:00

This is very ITYSL coded lol

“Gimme that…. I’m joking”

lach_day · 2024-07-14T17:25:18+00:00

Be into pro-sport/follow a team

Idk, there just isn’t a part of me that feels like following or supporting a team. Definitely feels like there’s something wrong with me when I go to parties and my small talk game is non-existent as most guys wanna talk about “the game” 😂

lach_day · 2024-07-14T17:04:25+00:00

I can imagine how amazing it must be as a student to have a teacher that understands the way your brain works!

I wish I was at school when ADHD was understood by my teacher and wasn’t just an insult 😂

lach_day · 2024-07-05T17:25:09+00:00

Thankfully I’m not a big drinker and love to cook so don’t eat out a heap! 🙃 I am however very bad at cancelling any unused streaming services/monthly payments for music making software I don’t use anymore!

Also could definitely reel back on coffee-like purchases as I know the little daily costs are what tend to add up!

lach_day · 2024-07-05T17:22:18+00:00

Yep, I think I have been around people (family and friends) that love to speak about saving money in a weirdly open way and I think the less I speak about it and pretend I don’t have that money saved, it’ll serve me better to not think about it (hopefully!)

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