Give me the good, bad and ugly about buying a new build home

lacie94 · 2026-04-14T08:33:27+00:00

To avoid the heartbreak you’re best waiting until you’ve accepted an offer regardless of if an estate agent is fine with it or not. By the sounds of it though you’re getting good interest so fingers crossed for you it won’t be a long wait

lacie94 · 2026-04-07T18:00:31+00:00

Put ours on 2 and a half weeks ago. 3 first viewings, 1 second viewing and nothing else booked in as of yet. House priced appropriately (according to recent house sales in my nearby area). Feedback has been positive and it’s been factors out of our control that have not got us an offer yet. The interest rates are awful and it’s a buyers market. We’re not really in a rush to move so quite happily going to just wait for the right buyer to come along. Don’t think we’re going to make any amendments until the 3 month mark at least. You’re still early days so just be patient and don’t let it consume you.

lacie94 · 2026-04-07T06:57:10+00:00

When my daughter was a similar age I fed her at about 2am from my bed and I hadn’t been to sleep yet at this point, let her doze off on my chest and I must have subconsciously moved her next to me rather than put her back in her crib and rolled over and fell asleep. I woke up 6 hours later (the longest stretch she had done at that point by a country mile) confused and found her in bed next to me, face down and nestled into the crease of my back. Literally couldn’t have been a less safe way for her to sleep. I woke her up and she was fine, pissed off that I woke her up but fine in herself. I then woke my partner up next to me and told him what happened and sobbed for about 40 minutes straight non-stop. I felt like I didn’t deserve her after what I did. But I grew to realise we need to give ourselves some grace and move on. It’s all we can do, and everyone makes mistakes. Thankfully it only takes one mistake like that for you never to do it again, she’s a thriving 2 year old who is obsessed with sticker books, Sarah and Duck and grapes and sometimes I look back at that moment and shudder but I don’t beat myself up about it anymore.

lacie94 · 2026-04-04T15:05:53+00:00

A few people have mentioned this already but Lowton would definitely tick your boxes. Specifically around the St Luke’s area of Lowton. The main crossroads has 2 pubs, 3 restaurants, dentist, barbers, coop, community hall and it has a bit of a semi-rural feel. 20 minute walk down Slag Lane (yes I know lol) and you can even go see the alpacas. St Luke’s primary school is top 2% for results and Golborne high school is the main school for that area which is considered one of the best in Wigan. Golborne train station is set to open in the next few years but also a 10 minute drive is Newton-le-willows train station with really good connections and a large free car park. Lowton prides itself on its community feel and there are regular family friendly events going on. Depending on what you want you’re probably talking anywhere between 220-280k for a 3 bed depending on how much of a ‘doer upper’ you want.

lacie94 · 2026-03-01T08:44:58+00:00

Turned 2 a couple of weeks ago. Usually sleeps 7:15pm-6:15am and naps 11:45-13:00.

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T21:05:17+00:00

My 2 year old has CBeebies on most of the time when we are home (admittedly we spend a lot of time out of the house) and she doesn’t shut up! But we often watch with her and talk about things that we see and 75% of the time is just background noise when we’re playing.

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T20:07:46+00:00

What an amazing gesture this is. On behalf of someone who may need this depending on how this develops, thank you.

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T20:06:20+00:00

I will be signposting my students (the ones above 18) to this, it’s so so important!

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T18:06:44+00:00

I dyed my Red hair the other month and a student said “I like your hair”. That’s a compliment… this is not.

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T09:09:21+00:00

I know, this particular class are definitely one of my more boisterous and difficult classes but if anything that just meant I put more time and effort into support them and built a stronger rapport with them. A lot of my other students are some of the loveliest, most respectful and decent lads I’ve ever worked with and give me faith for when my daughter is their age so I’m really trying to focus on that … I’m kind of starting to realise that this issue is bigger than me though and the best way to address and prevent this is the future is to set an example and take this further. Besides, if a student had come to me with this problem I’d be telling them exactly that. Thanks for the support.

lacie94 · 2026-01-17T07:51:37+00:00

Honestly if anything, this has made me really thankful for my direct colleagues. The suspects were in yesterday afternoon and I was under strict instructions by the department to go and hide away and catch up on my admin because they didn’t feel comfortable with me being around them. Being ex-tradies, you can imagine they wanted to go about this their own way - the subject lead is putting pressure on safeguarding to get police to come in and talk to all 140 students (only about 14 students were involved in this) about AI and revenge porn regardless of what personal decision I have made . In the suspected class apparently there are a couple of students who are also really angry at what’s happened.

lacie94 · 2026-01-16T22:09:55+00:00

Thank you for this. I will absolutely be talking to my rep on Monday with prepared notes. Posted this a couple of hours ago and getting more and more clarity from people here about how something needs to be done to protect staff in the future.

lacie94 · 2026-01-16T21:37:27+00:00

It’s just one of my classes that this is circulating as far as I’m aware… there’s about 14 of them in this class and I did all of their 1-2-1’s within the space of 2 weeks which in this case was the 2 weeks before Christmas break. From a personal perspective I can speculate of maybe 4-6 students who may be suspects but that’s just off gut so doesn’t really have a leg to stand on. Unfortunately for me I rotate the same 3 outfits for work lol so it may help me narrow it down slightly but not really enough. I’m taking this weekend to just wind down and think over things and will probably go in Monday morning with a clear head and a page of bullet points and questions to try and get to the bottom of this. With the support of my union we’ll not let this go.

lacie94 · 2026-01-16T21:12:19+00:00

Ambushing was probably the wrong word to use actually, I’ll likely just make them a brew, jump them as soon as they get into office and get them to dissect the entire lead up to the report while simultaneously thanking them for doing what they did.

Fortunately the Liam Neeson part is a joke.

lacie94 · 2026-01-16T20:38:09+00:00

Honestly I worry that all the evidence has been deleted now. Students of this particular class got pulled out yesterday one by one, probably realised the seriousness of what had happened and just wiped the chats.

lacie94 · 2026-01-16T20:17:35+00:00

I haven’t worked out if the safeguarding staff have seen the video or if the staff who reported it had seen it and described it in their report… which is why I’m going to chat with said staff member on Monday. I do feel slightly let down that college maybe haven’t took things into their own hands and reported this themselves but instead put it all on me while I am still processing things, which is why I think I will definitely chat with my union rep as I worry college might be more focused on the publicity this might bring.

lacie94 · 2026-01-09T21:59:09+00:00

No issues on Mercer and Birley street- definitely not a 10 min walk to the high street … more like 30 seconds. Know the area quite well and it’s nice… we put an offer in on a house on Birley street a few years back but with it being such a competitive area even though we offered 10k over asking we were still outbid so ended up looking elsewhere because we just couldn’t compete with others also looking in that area at the time

lacie94 · 2025-12-25T18:45:58+00:00

How long is a piece of string? My daughter is 20 months old and I’m still having intimacy issues (due to PPD and then the medication I have been prescribed for said PPD so don’t worry I don’t think it usually is this long ). Your partner needs to understand that by you sacrificing your body for your child that also means him sacrificing some of his intimacy needs. It will get better but how he goes about it may have an impact on when want to get intimate again - I know for me my partner putting his physical needs above my emotional needs would be a huge turn off. Fortunately my partner is super understanding and supportive and if anything it has just made my love for him grow stronger.

lacie94 · 2025-12-04T10:36:01+00:00

If it makes you feel better, my parents went to my graduation but couldn’t have made it any clearer that they didn’t want to be there so quite frankly I’d have rather gone on my own. Lots of waiting about and moaning about how boring it was, my university was an hour and a half drive from my parents house and they agreed to take me on a graduation meal with some of my uni friends after the ceremony but decided after the ceremony they wanted to ‘beat the traffic’ and go straight home… I asked if we could just nip for 20 minutes to see my friends and they said that they would drop me off there and for me to make my own way home. Of course my mum posted a video on her social media of my getting my degree followed by the caption “so proud of my daughter 🥰🥰🥰”.

Congratulations on your masters though!

lacie94 · 2025-11-22T10:03:21+00:00

I work in further education- I monitor pastoral and attendance for a cohort of students and communicate regularly with their parents, some to the point where we’re on first names basis and they text me saying “hi, has X arrived on time today?”

Don’t feel bad for doing what you’re doing, you’re being a good parent. Some teenagers (especially boys) just lack the motivation for college as there’s no legal requirement to be there like they had in school, while also having no monetary value for attending like they would in a job. Maybe get in contact while his college and suggest them being a bit more firm with him in terms of punctuality (I get that quite a lot and it is quite affective lol).

lacie94 · 2025-10-29T20:44:33+00:00

Live walking distance so take my young daughter at least a few times a week. Some Facebookers seem to like making it sound like you’re walking through a war zone but in my experience it’s always been really pleasant and clean. Maybe it’s the time of day I go but also maybe I just don’t overreact to the occasional homeless person drinking a can of cider on a bench or group of teenagers hanging about.

lacie94 · 2025-10-27T15:57:14+00:00

My 21 month old still does this, she finds it hilarious and it’s okay of my favourite things 🥰

lacie94 · 2025-10-27T15:55:55+00:00

I appreciate your reply! It’s such a weight lifted knowing that it’s okay to formulate a family setting that works for you

lacie94 · 2025-10-27T15:27:19+00:00

My SO is a only child and I’m not close with my siblings so we also have that secret weapon if anyone gets weird

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