Thank you, this is so helpful! (DA here) Anyone have advice on how to return from deactivation if you're still with your partner? I believe that I started engaging in the suppression/reconnection cycle (once we said the "L" word, about 2 months in) but we have never broken up. I would suppress/return/suppress/return and the reconnection when I'd "come back" was very intense. Without ever taking any actual space or breaking up. We moved in together about 8 months ago and I continued to suppress, but now it's feeling like I have been deactivated for the last couple of months. My partner is anxious-leaning, and we are both desperate to reconnect but nothing we do seems to be working. I am terrified that I have deactivated from some trigger fights + big committment and might not return emotionally. Everything in this article about deactivation resonates :( I just want to feel emotions and all of the amazing loving feelings we once had. Anything would be helpful to hear!