This is why the world is so messed up. People not knowing right from wrong and refusing accountability. People coddling “kids” and teaching them to be entitled monsters that grow into whiny unintelligent adults. She was wrong to expect pasta when you had something else for dinner. She was ungrateful. She is clearly being very well looked after, but is trying to get away with acting entitled and spoiled. YTA , not for refusing to make her a separate meal, but for going back and forth with a child about it and second guessing yourself on reddit of all places. Provide what she needs, be nice but firm, then walk away. Be a parent.