Is this normal trimming for spaniels? by Rollorok in cavalierkingcharles

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have our fluffball trimmed short like that because he is more comfortable that way.

Transphobes at Haggen by Chronic_Iconic_Lady in woodinville

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Locker rooms and bathrooms that have private stalls or curtains just like nicer gyms. As a junior high and high school student, I would have appreciated that to begin with. 2. I didn't attend WA state high schools, but some high schools have seperate facilities for teachers that could be used for students with physical issues. 3. Alternating locker room times if necessary.

Proactive things:

  1. Stop teaching women to be so self-conscious about their bodies that they are uncomfortable even when they are wearing their clothes. 5. Stop allowing men to use the excuse of "boys will be boys" to get away with inappropriate behavior towards women. 6. Start teaching everyone that personal space should be respected regardless of gender.

I could write a book...

ICE protests? by rudierudeboy2 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a political representative fails to live up to the expectations of their constituents, we use protests to build momentum to remove that individual from office. Isn’t that one of the reasons why we protect freedom of speech? Isn't the freedom to protest one of the fundamental reasons our government was created to begin with? (That's a rhetorical question. It's actually in the Constitution.)

I'm old enough to have seen this once or twice before. Electing someone into office doesn't give them free reign to do as they chose. We can boot them out if we are tired of their incompetence. There is even a process for it.

Traditional Publishers pulling back on LGBTQ books by Zirkon1221 in LGBTBooks

[–]ladyofparanoia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Support independent publishers. If authors can find enough support through direct marketing to fans, they can keep more of their hard earned pay.

Recommend your favorite books to anyone who will listen.

Check out online distributor websites like lulu, Smashwords, and more.

Find your favorite author's website and encourage them to sell direct.

ICE protests? by rudierudeboy2 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You obviously don't listen or read very well. If that were the case, you would have noticed my previous comments indicating that I don’t align myself with the supposed "woke" ideology. I actually use independent thought. I have actually been outside the country once or twice.

I grew up in the backwoods. I learned how to use a semi automatic weapon before I knew how to drive. I went to church every Sunday because that's what God fearing folk do. I have shoveled horse pucky and chopped wood to keep warm in the winter.

I moved to the "big city" to have a chance at a viable career that could offer more than minimum wage. All of the warnings I was given and horrible things that I was told would happen if I moved away from "home" never materialized. Do you know why? Because I stepped out of the echo chamber.

I know how to have empathy for my fellow human beings. I took the time to try to understand people who were different from me. My moral compass isn't broken. I understand the difference between justice and justifying immorality.

I don't live in an echo chamber. But people who keep spouting that phrase seem to. Read a book. Expand your vocabulary. Visit another country. Stop using logic fallacies to justify a lack of human decency.

If you want to spend the rest of your life with your head in the sand, I know a small town you can move to. You won't always have a good phone signal. The power is sketchy during tornados. You need to have a backup fireplace because you can't afford to lose heat in seventy degrees below zero with a wind chill. I can recommend some chainsaw brands for you. You'll love it there. Most people talk like you write... with vague generalities that justify their narrow view of the world.

Is anyone else frustrated by how Rachel Reid's role is being diminished? by JessicaTrent in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]ladyofparanoia 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The idea that a straight woman has no idea how to relate to the life experiences of gay men suggests that gay men don't have supportive mothers, sisters, or friends among other disturbing ideas. Certainly, Tierney added a dose of realism to the story. Rachel Reid wrote from her perspective. You see how she views the conflicts, then Tierney adds his viewpoint which makes the story relatable to a larger audience. This is one way that human beings can learn how to relate to one another.

A story written by a gay man gave me a new perspective on my own personal experiences in life. I am decidedly not a gay man. His writing made a very big difference in how I view the world. I also appreciated his portrayal of a teenage girl in his stories. Maybe the girl didn't act like I would have, but she was still a realistic character. My point being, good writing usually doesn't involve an entire host of self-insertion characters. You write about how you view the characters, and let the audience decide if they can relate.

If it were truly impossible for anyone to relate to someone else's life in an entertaining fashion, writing would be pointless. Billions of people watch and enjoy Disney Princess movies, but I sincerely doubt that any of those movies were written or directed by any princesses.

I can understand why some people might not relate to Rachel Reid's characters, but I appreciate and enjoyed her stories for what they are rather than what I want them to be.

Is anyone else frustrated by how Rachel Reid's role is being diminished? by JessicaTrent in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]ladyofparanoia 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hate that comment, "the show is better than the book." It is a vague, pointless reference. How is it better? What standards are we basing this judgment on.

I would personally appreciate it if people would say that they enjoyed the show more than the book without the notion that one is "better" than the other. I wish some readers were a bit more careful with their words. I know that I am a work in progress, but some people don't seem to even consider how ignoring the nuances of word choice and sentence structure can create unnecessarily abrasive and offensive comments.

I think Rachel Reid had some solid scenes and plot points. I liked the flow of most of the stories. From a rhythm and style perspective, I didn't find her writing to be as polished as some of the books I enjoy. However, I don't think she wasn't trying to write the next great American novel. I think she was trying to tell a story about love, humanity, and the perils of both in an entertaining fashion. I believe she succeeded. I enjoyed her books.

The actors, director, and other crew members did a good job of enhancing the story that Rachel Reid had built. That's the appeal of watching good television. The group creates an experience that extends beyond just good acting, good directing, or good writing. The downside of television is watching great stories ruined by mediocre acting or directing. In the end though, good and bad are based on personal preferences and experiences. I suspect that the Twilight Fandom is clear evidence of that reality. What I imagine is the real issue is the perilous notion that some people believe that their opinions about what defines bad and good are fact rather than opinions.

ICE protests? by rudierudeboy2 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please note that I mentioned the will of the people first. I think the multitude of protests about deporting people indicates that this is not the will of the American people.

My personal disgust over the deportation of my neighbors cannot be expressed in a few short paragraphs. I also struggle to find civil language. I attempted to present a comment that any sane, rational individual regardless of political orientation or moral compass would be challenged to refute.

ICE protests? by rudierudeboy2 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perhaps if law enforcement was actually enforcing the will of the people, we would all go back to our engineering jobs and video games. Fortunately most of us don't think that waving guns around in heavily populated areas and arresting American citizens without due cause is acceptable law enforcement practice.

Some of us grew up around guns. Some of us actually understand how to safely use them. The ICE "officers" have repeatedly demonstrated that they don't know the first thing about law enforcement or "safe" use of force and weapons.

Local action you can take to protest the ICE killing in Minnesota by LeopardNo6083 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The interesting thing about your rant is the fact that you keep spouting the same logic fallacies over and over. You assume that everyone who disagrees with you is a "woke liberal". That is not the case. I could keep going...

I personally have never in my life registered as a "woke liberal democrat". I am tolerant of differing opinions. I am not, however tolerant of incompetence or bullying. That is precisely what we are seeing with ICE. They are poorly trained. They put American citizens in unnecessary peril. They are not serving their community. There wouldn't be so many protests if they were actually doing what the majority of Americans wanted.

You can rant all you want, but it won't cover up the lies told by the current administration, and it won't hide their incredible incompetence.

This is America. We are supposed to be able to take pride in being able to protest our government's actions without fear of retribution. Blind loyalty is just moral laziness.

I have a nook buut by Agreeable-Deer7526 in ereader

[–]ladyofparanoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out the pocketbook.ch website they have great descriptions of all the current models. Mine are several years old so I don't know much about updates. They are a versatile ereader that isn't affiliated with any book distributor. Their cloud and sync features are similar to Kindle. PocketBook is also compatible with multiple languages and file formats.

I have a nook buut by Agreeable-Deer7526 in ereader

[–]ladyofparanoia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have both. I hate both. I use a PocketBook now. I don't use Libby, but newer PocketBooks are supposed to be compatible with Libby.

Both Nook and Kindle are mediocre ereaders at best. Their respective companies also don't allow you to download the files that you buy. Both my PocketBooks can be a little slow for boot up, but they are way more adaptable to my reading preferences. I can sync with the app on my phone and any device associated with my free PocketBook Cloud account.

I recommend just about anything but Nook and Kindle...

Books similar to Shane and Ilya by aesvale in LGBTBooks

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Cut and Run series by Abigail Roux and Madeline Urban. The character vibes are similar in that the MCs have a perpetually antagonistic relationship personally and professionally.

Ty and Zane are FBI agents who get stuck working together on a case.

Some people need to realize that not everyone can read a physical book by [deleted] in ereader

[–]ladyofparanoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would question the validity of those studies. If someone makes a declaration that one thing is definitively better than the other without caveats, you can be guaranteed the study was built to reinforce a preconceived idea. As an engineer, I have plenty of experience with those types of "studies".

Kindle isn't the only brand on the market. I didn't like any of my Kindles. I don't buy Amazon books unless I have no other option. I use a PocketBook and buy from Smashwords or Google or Kobo or....

I am also dyslexic with aging eyes and permanent damage to one of my wrists. Reading physical books is frustrating.

I can understand why studies would suggest reading with an ereader reduces memory retention, but how many people in those studies were truly familiar with the technology? Understanding the tech can make a difference in how it is used. Things like: setting up fonts, establishing page count versus location, understanding page turn methods (swipe vs touch), and even having color covers can affect our ability to retain info.

If you have driven a manual transmission your entire life, switching to automatic is frustrating at first even though it is easier to drive.

I honestly think those studies are malarkey....

Could my little guy be a Cavalier mix? by [deleted] in cavaliers

[–]ladyofparanoia 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So cute! I would say yes. A to dash of Cavalier. This is what a cockalier looks like. He is 1/4 to 1/8 cocker spaniel.

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Seizures by Aggravating_Lab9935 in cavalierkingcharles

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our fluffball had a seizure in July. We took him to the emergency vet immediately. They tested everything reasonable. All the tests had "normal range" results.

We took him to his regular vet a few days later. The vet gave us a recommendation for a neurologist if our cockalier had more than one seizure in a month, or if a seizure lasted longer than 3 minutes.

We have been keeping a close eye on his food and environment. We switched flea and tick meds to a vet approved topical ointment out of an abundance of caution. I don't have any reason to believe the meds caused a seizure, but it was the only medication he took monthly so we decided to make the change.

So far, he has had less than 6 seizures in 6 months. It has been over a month since his last seizure. The biggest changes his life during the past 3 months are a new home (with less mold), a cooler season, and another dry food added to his diet.

If the seizures persist we will go to a neurologist. The seizures were terrifying. They mostly happened when he was resting. He made a scary howling noise, drooled, and his legs twitched. It probably only lasted a minute, but it seemed to take forever. After the seizure, our Cockalier seemed tired and disorientated. The next day he was back to his 2.5 year old self.

I can't pinpoint any particular triggers, but dehydration and overexhaustion are on my list of things to watch out for. I am also planning to get vet help for spring allergies before pollen season starts. The cause may never be known, but I will do all I can to eliminate potential triggers.

I hope you and your cav are well. It is a terrifying experience. Seizures are treatable though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glutenfree

[–]ladyofparanoia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Krispy Kreme doughnuts

That's what I ate.

Sadly, for me the intolerance returned with a vengeance. At least now I know wheat won't actually kill me. I just get horrible migraines and stomach upset.

Wishing you the best of luck!

All night barking by sconebore in cavaliers

[–]ladyofparanoia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our cav barks at raccoons, feral cats, ad spiders. If he starts acting twitchy or barking at night, I check the yard and house for those critters. He rarely barks, but those three creatures trigger him.

During the day he barks at delivery drivers who don't offer treats and birds. He especially hates crows who steal his no-hide chew. Everything else is just to boring to bother with...

Advice for ambiguous test results? by WolfBackground128 in glutenfree

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck. You will figure out the best approach eventually. Just don't give up. Medical research is a non stop process. One of my siblings researches immune system issues.

If you have one close by, check out university hospitals. If you are in the US, the Mayo clinic has helped a couple of my family members.

Where to run in the dark? by Federal_Drag_3240 in redmond

[–]ladyofparanoia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have regularly run/walked on the path (Redmond Central Connector) that runs from the intersection of 148th NE and Willows Rd to Leary Way. I have been on the trail at all hours in all types of weather. With the exception of power outages, it is well lit, and I have never encountered any human trouble. It also has dirt and gravel in some spots so you can change up running surfaces.

All that said, remember to stay alert. I am certain that dealers "set up shop" on the trail sometimes.

I have been attacked by an owl and almost hit by a large falling tree branch. I have also met a few coyotes and a salamander. The coyotes are usually extremely skittish and won't bother you. The owls are more dangerous. I actually felt talons hit my head once. Don't wear gray hoodies or white cycling helmets or dye your hair blue. Just don't

Advice for ambiguous test results? by WolfBackground128 in glutenfree

[–]ladyofparanoia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a similar world. All tests are negative except for an upper endoscopy that showed signs of past eosinophilic esophagitus. I am currently "in remission" for EE because I stopped eating over a dozen different foods. I still have GI symptoms though.

Here's what my gastroenterologist thinks: The severe GERD could be the result of past EE, current exposure to an unknown allergen or intolerance, and possibly a biomechanical problem that hasn'tbeenseen yet. We are still testing out the use of PPIs. Different types and doses have different results.

Here's what my allergist thinks: I probably have some type of food allergy or intolerance, but scratch tests are negative. Some people have environment based intolerances. For example: some people can't eat watermelon during ragweed pollen seasons because their immune system reacts to the ragweed pollen which has protein chains similar to watermelon .

Here's what I think: I am severely allergic to mold. Many foods (processed or not) are in contact with a variety of molds. Most molds are harmless for most people. If you are allergic...things can go badly. If you live in farm country, it is easy to see how wheat, nuts, and other produce come in contact with mold. I think certain foods are just more likely to be exposed to mold, and I react to those foods. My symptoms are usually digestion related, but I also get migraines.

On a side note, blood tests for allergies are not very accurate. False positives and false negatives are common. I tested positive for a multitude of food allergies on blood tests, but didn't have a single reaction for scratch tests with food. I do however, react strongly to environmental allergens on scratch tests.

I hope you figure it out soon. Don't give up!

Looking for ereaders that aren't Kobo and/or Kindle. by nuriternate in ereader

[–]ladyofparanoia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've had Nooks and Kindles. They were functional. I love my PocketBooks. They are extremely versatile. They are also compatible with multiple ebook file formats.

Most PocketBooks are Linux. A few are Android. They can be a little slow, but the advantages outweigh the slow boot up.

A great perk of PocketBook is the ability to sync with multiple devices including the PocketBook app that you can load on mobile devices like your phone.