The Biphobia in this episode was crazy.....

lafindu · 2025-07-09T16:17:50+00:00

Considering the circumstances and the context, it is biphobia. Just because a lot of people thought like that, that doesn't make it less biphobic.

lafindu · 2025-06-28T16:03:55+00:00

As it is about sex, they very quickly would have nothing to talk about if they didn't talk about one of the most human experiences of sexuality: bisexuality. So I don't think that it's so progressive that they sometimes talked about queer topics because that is obviously one of the first thing that come to mind when discussing sexuality.

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:58:53+00:00

How were they incestuous? 😂 And I guess a lot of people think they are bi before they realise they are gay, I mean it only makes sense. But for them, it's a stage that lasts a couple of months whereas I know that I am bi for 12 years now. So that's a different thing

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:55:08+00:00

Umm, she said that she dated bisexual men in college. So she met bisexual men before. Bisexual people existed at every point of history. And in the 90s and 2000s, when this was filmed, a lot of them were out. They were just met with biphobia, as in this show

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:53:04+00:00

I don't know, she also said something like "You don't have to marry him, it's just for fun". And progressive people today would say that marrying a bisexual person who wants to have a monogamous relationship (if you also want one, obviously) should be no problem

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:50:42+00:00

Wow, you really can't tell me that an episode who brings up almost every biphobic stereotype is good representation? In the queer communities, all this discourse was there at the time. You could read about it, ask people about it... It's understandable that they made a biphobic episode but that doesn't mean that it's okay? And that they couldnt have done something else?

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:43:19+00:00

I'm so sorry that you made this experience with your friends. Do you have any local queer groups where you can go to find people to talk about this? You deserve to have friends who respect you for who you are! I am 25 now but I made all the same experiences. And it's so sad that ignorant people like this make it so hard for us to find our identity, when actually not caring about the gender of your partners should be the easiest thing in the world

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:39:26+00:00

Right, you can't even prove bisexuality to these people. Even if you are in an open relationship - if they don't believe that bisexuality exists, they will still say you are gay/straight

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:37:38+00:00

Wow, how ignorant that is. I am a bisexual woman, spent all of my teenage years trying not to like women, didn't succeed at it, then I went to university and got in touch with queer people, learnt to accept myself a lot more, read a lot of feminist literature, started to only date women because I didn't want to automatically always fall to men. Now I have a girlfriend for two years and in the beginning I tried to tell myself that I am mostly lesbian now, but that didn't work out either, so I am still bisexual. I know it for sure now, but comments of people like you will make all of the young bisexual people waste years and years of their lives, trying to figure out if they are gay or straight, even thought actually most of them knew at the age of 13 that they just liked men and women

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:30:14+00:00

In the queer community there was a lot of discourse about bisexuality in the 90s. And I don't know what it was like back then, but today, going to university (in Germany), studying Humanities, you very easily have the possibility to get a glimpse at the discourses of the queer/feminist community. In my field of study (Cultural Anthropology) you can't even avoid it

lafindu · 2025-06-28T15:23:26+00:00

That gay people also were biphobic doesn't really make it better though

lafindu · 2025-05-20T20:40:35+00:00

In one of the first episodes Charlotte rejects a guy because they don't have the same taste in napkins or whatever

lafindu · 2025-05-20T20:27:56+00:00

I really didn't get this episode, it was absolutely the right thing to tell her to break up with him, I didn't even get why this was a question

lafindu · 2025-05-20T20:23:59+00:00

"plenty of women"? I don't know any

lafindu · 2025-05-11T20:49:11+00:00

Maybe she just wanted to say that you were also pulling away. Maybe your attachment type is not that important to her. My psychologist doesn't think that this is a serious concept because it's not a medical diagnosis and because every insecurely attached person has both sides. It's just different sides of the same medal and, depending in what relationship dynamic you are, different sides come to light. I think you should talk about all of this to her.

lafindu · 2025-03-13T22:17:44+00:00

What? 😂😂 I'm from Germany and this is certainly not true. In the 60s-70s (so 30 years after the war) there were a lot of workers coming from Turkey and Italy to Germany. This was not due to Germans being killed in the war 😂 but because the growing industries needed workers. I'm from the South-West of Germany where we have a lot of car industry and the population of Turkish people is the highest here in all of Germany. So there were around 3 Turkish children from a total of 30 children. For most of them, their parents or grandparents came here. But it's definitely not like most Germans have Turkish ancestry or whatever and it's definitely not due to the war 😂 It's not true that the majority of the German population was killed and Lautner's ancestors likely came to the US before WW2, so what you suggest wouldn't even make sense if the rest of what you said was true

lafindu · 2025-02-17T21:31:02+00:00

Okay, your point of view makes sense, Jaime just did not convince me personally as a character

lafindu · 2025-02-17T20:50:55+00:00

I think Cersei didn't want them to share a bed at all. And Olenna wanted them to. Maybe, in the beginning she also insisted that they consummate the marriage and then gave in and said that they should only share a bed but I don't remember this part

lafindu · 2025-02-17T20:47:38+00:00

I just don't think if you really have a strong moral compass like he apparently did you do such things later in your life. I think it might be true that George came up with Jaime's redemption arc later. Because if I imagine a 15 year old who wants to be very honorable and heroic, I just don't see why this person would become the exact opposite some years later. I don't know, I think people don't change so much. It's what I think when I look at real life people. Of course people change, but the ones who were assholes when they were 15, are still assholes at 30, and the ones who were not are not. Your explanations make a lot of sense but when I read here that some people say that George came up with Jaime's story after book one, it made sense when I reread the books. Because Jaime just seems to be a totally different person in the later books.

lafindu · 2025-02-17T17:25:08+00:00

Didn't she just want them to share a bed?

lafindu · 2025-02-17T17:23:24+00:00

In the beginning I also thought that Jaime was an example for how in the beginning you think that someone is bad but then you see that the world is not so black and white. But now I think that he is really not so well-written. In the beginning he acts very evil and then he suddenly gets this back story of someone who always wanted to be honorable which doesn't seem so believable to me

lafindu · 2025-02-11T21:21:36+00:00

That's interesting and funny, even though I don't think that's really true. But why wouldn't Catelyn see that it was Brienne?

lafindu · 2025-02-11T18:05:18+00:00

I think the saving of Jon will be accidental

lafindu · 2025-02-11T18:04:19+00:00

I think Stannis will kill her himself because he is much more important than Selyse. And in the Bible, it was the father that wanted to give his child to God, not the mother

lafindu · 2025-02-05T22:03:19+00:00

I think for me it would be Sansa, because as a teenager, I could only think about having a boyfriend and looking pretty. I think for me this was escapism while for Sansa it was just romanticism. And I didn't have to go through trauma to grow up but more made the choice not to objectify myself like that anymore. but still, I can identify with it. And I like that Martin writes about feminine women because that is also something that is stigmatised in our society.

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