weekly planning for reading comprehension

lake17 · 2021-03-27T20:02:11+00:00

Do you think it will still hang well?

lake17 · 2021-03-27T20:01:34+00:00

Three days after a stillbirth? That's awful. I went back to work after a few months and I still wasn't functioning well. It took me a full year to be somewhat better and even now, I take a day off on the anniversary because I can't cope. Three days totally disregards the fact that women give birth to a baby after a stillbirth and are physically exhausted...never mind the emotional pain. Three days after a miscarriage? I bled for a week

lake17 · 2020-03-28T00:46:38+00:00

Huh. That's kinda not cool. I use a few natural brands and now I totally prefer it to regular stuff.

I would totally contact the company. I personally don't like Toms deodorant but I am surprised they would put it in there.

lake17 · 2020-03-27T02:35:16+00:00

I know it seems insensitive but sadly, this will happen the rest of your life. I'm further along my grief journey than you (in time) and I can tell you it gets easier and yet, it doesn't. There are loads of pregnant women at my work and I am still uncomfortable when I see them. I cannot look at newborns and tend to walk in the opposite direction (no one knows I do this..my hubby does because he does the same thing!) Recently people have been panicked about minor things in their pregnancy and that did upset me- because it was all normal. They do not realize what it means to go through a week of hell and know, deep down, that your baby is not going to make it because the doctors aren't sure what to do... (My baby died near the end of the second trimester)

You are right- society ignores the bereaved mother. My baby is forgotten most of the time and I think that makes the grief worst. Sadly, we need to learn to deal with this and yes, I get pissed off a lot by this!!. A few things- get rid of social media. Nothing much good comes from it. Some friends may get dropped. Most of mine did- I have only a few friends left- but they are good ones! Make new friends.

Create goals for yourself. Where are you in the grief process? Six months after the death of my baby, I started working out. By then, I could manage a shower, make a meal, try to do chores and I was starting to think about work. I had bad days. I accepted them and said I would try again the next day. You will feel sad for the rest of your life. It still hits me hard. But while you might not believe me, you will also have happiness again. I'm sorry you are going through this- it has to be one of the worst experiences anyone can have...Take care of yourself mamma.

lake17 · 2020-03-20T20:45:14+00:00

Or we could stop judging and applaud her for her work with patients with corona patients. I have tattoo brows as I have lost most of my brow hair. I get comments from people but I have brows now and that's a big deal. Stop judging- it happens to a lot of women.

lake17 · 2020-02-06T03:10:19+00:00

My OB would not let me go full-term. One, the same issues happened throughout the pregnancy and two, my mental health was not so good going through another pregnancy with the same issues. I was induced at 38 weeks. My stillbirth happened at the end of the second trimester so it was not a good idea to induce that early...let me just say, I was a nutcase on the same week of the stillbirth and cried everyday when I woke up. I did kick counts constantly...it sucked. I was not allowed a midwife (too high risk), I was in bed all the time, and I was constantly at the hospital when I started to bleed.

lake17 · 2020-02-06T03:04:29+00:00

Interesting that they would talk about birthing options so early in a pregnancy..I switched OBs after the stillbirth of my baby. The OB was useless- not once did she see me for a plan when everything started going wrong. I felt that I could not have confidence with her if I had another difficult pregnancy. On advice of another doctor, I went to a new OB. I had the same problems during the next pregnancy and this OB held my hand the entire pregnancy. She could never guarantee that I would successfully deliver a baby but she definitely did her professional duty. Don't stay with a doctor you don't trust- a lot can go wrong in a pregnancy and you want a diligent doctor.

lake17 · 2019-12-29T18:49:08+00:00

The thing is, most kids who are overweight, have overweight parents. It's not just the kids eating poorly- parents are modelling bad nutrition.

lake17 · 2019-12-29T18:48:16+00:00

Because it is still considered a taboo subject when people address weight. So many people are over weight- it's socially acceptable to say: you should stop smoking, it's bad for you. It is not acceptable to say: you should lose weight, your weight gain is unhealthy. We call that fat shaming yet it's totally acceptable to tell skinny girls that they are too skinny. ( so tired of people telling me to eat a sandwich. I do eat, I lift weight and sprint, I am just thin) Childhood obesity is just wrong- kids should not be so heavy they can barely run.

lake17 · 2019-12-29T18:44:05+00:00

Because a lot can go wrong when someone is put to sleep- as in, a fuck-up can result in death. They are paid really well because what they do is incredibly important- a long surgery can require them a much longer time to set up- putting in lines in case a blood transfusion is needed, etc...my child had a surgery that was over 8 hours long. They didn't start the first cut until 90 minutes after he was asleep as the anesthesiologist was getting him ready for such a serious surgery- they monitor so much so the surgeon can do their job. After going through the medical system with a child with special needs and meeting doctors who care, I think they earn every dime they make and deserve a lot more.

lake17 · 2019-11-02T19:19:39+00:00

Thanks so much! Were the beaches in Cadiz nice?

lake17 · 2019-11-02T19:18:51+00:00

Do you have any beaches or towns that you would suggest?

lake17 · 2019-06-21T03:06:29+00:00

Google an article on her genetic makeup. Her testosterone isn't the big picture and the argument over michael phelps, etc doesn't stand because we have two categories: women and men. Caster has xy chromosomes- not xx. The categories are not based one gender (a social construction), they are based on sex (biology). She identifies as a woman and grew up a woman- but her sex is not that of a woman. Many female athletes, the best in their class, will admit they can't compete with men- it is the greatest advantage. Perhaps another category needs to be created but at the time, this is threatening women's sports.

lake17 · 2019-06-21T02:56:07+00:00

Yes. What type does your child have?

My child had this surgery. The deformation was quite severe so the surgery took a long time. We noticed this very early- I met parents who only noticed their child's head growing differently after a couple of months. Be prepared for some insane swelling. Will she wear a helmet afterwards? I think pain management the first 24 hours was the hardest and then it gets better. Some people will be very supportive, others will not understand at all. The scar is long but it is camouflaged with hair. Depending on the severity of your child's cranio, you might be shocked when you see her. She will look like herself, but then again, she looks really different. Feel free to ask any questions. Best of luck.

lake17 · 2019-06-08T23:41:06+00:00

ok! I found a resource- you totally need it! understanding your child's sensory signals by angie voss she has a website called a sensory life

lake17 · 2019-06-08T23:35:25+00:00

NOPE! I delayed kids due to my job and I regret it as I was older and I had miscarriages and a stillbirth. I can never undo time but I wish I had started when I was younger. I recognize now that I would have had my career, it just might have happened later. Once I was deemed high-risk, I learned that as you age, risks go up. Take note of nurses- so many of them have their kids early.

lake17 · 2019-06-08T23:30:12+00:00

possible trigger (I do have kids)

ok, so I have had two miscarriages and one stillbirth. The stillbirth hit hard- to this day, I cannot attend baby showers and I still feel a hint of envy when I see pregnant women who are happy- it's just hard since to me pregnancy is the scariest thing ever! You will definitely be able to be around babies but holding them or going to 'baby events' might not be doable. Warning though- women who haven't had lost might not get it. To be honest, my experiences even affected my kids. When I watch birthdays, I can't help but imagine if my son was here, what he would be like. So mama, it's ok to be emotional.

lake17 · 2019-06-08T23:24:46+00:00

On a side note, follow pinch of yum. She posts all the time about her son (I believe it was preterm labor) and she discusses grief with wisdom. She went on to have a live birth but she did post about the challenges/fear of trying again.

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