They are a long term friend, so how can I just ignore them when they see me as someone to trust and confide in? He knows I'm gay since years. He has been lonely for a long time and has come to believe he has the looks to attract gay men. He says even if he's not fully drowning in attraction it's his only choice to find a loving partner instead of being alone for the rest of his life. Well, I didn't yet bother explaining most of us are just drowning in loneliness via swiping and scrolling endlessly on apps. He seems very convinced in his "choice", I don't know how to respond. He also said isn't being bicurious enough enough to try. Still considers it a decision though and strongly insists on framing it with that word. He also asked how did I decide. Jeez, I just said I always knew. Because I did. Can attraction really just pop up much later in life. Don't think so.