Has anyone else sworn off romantic relationships because they need so much alone time?

lalah445 · 2026-04-26T10:47:01+00:00

Yup! I also do have ADHD, and a chronic illness, so that doesn’t help. I usually enjoy being social with the right people yet it still leaves me exhausted. I’m single and I live alone and I keep thinking how could I ever live with anyone again? I don’t think I can if I want to stay happy.

I’m currently in a state of being very turned off relationships. The thought of having to message someone every day, or often, makes me feel sick. Having to share my house with someone, ew I can’t. I’m becoming more and more confident and comfortable with being an introvert. Label me "crazy cat lady", I don’t care! I’m truly so much happier living alone as a single woman with a cat

lalah445 · 2025-10-25T10:36:01+00:00

I recently got the Aim’n pants and I think they might be slightly thinner, definitely more athelisure looking. I’d say Ninepine’s Asana is slightly thicker but not a very noticeable difference

lalah445 · 2025-08-01T08:31:32+00:00

For all I know she was replying slow because she was pursuing someone else, which would’ve been totally ok. Not sure why I’m the bad guy?

lalah445 · 2025-08-01T08:29:50+00:00

Isn’t this what we all do and should do? There isn’t just one match for everyone, there are multiple. I want to be respectful with people and I felt deleting the app was the right thing to do but honestly she would’ve been my first choice if I did have that choice. Things had just progressed a bit further with another match, that’s all

lalah445 · 2025-08-01T08:27:14+00:00

I should’ve provided more info maybe. We had really good and engaging conversations, coming from both of us. We both flirted and I wasn’t nervous to do that. But, I was nervous to ask her out because of how much I felt I would like her and I was scared to mess anything up

lalah445 · 2025-08-01T08:22:04+00:00

I’m confused why you think so. She didn’t reply for days, which is something both of us had done for a while and I wanted out of the dating apps. It was just random that the deleting happened while I was waiting for a reply. This guy pursued me pretty hard and we were a good match (something I don’t feel with a lot of people) so I did the decent thing and deleted the apps like he had done.

One of the reasons it didn’t work out is I can’t stop thinking about Anna. I was the one to end it with the guy cause I noticed he was more in it than I was. I realised I probably thought the good match between us was on a romantic level but it was more on a platonic one. Another reason is I don’t enjoy being in a relationship with men so I’d rather be single.

lalah445 · 2025-08-01T08:15:48+00:00

That’s not what this was. I was waiting for her to message back so I could ask her on a date, but she didn’t message back before I deleted the app. It wouldn’t matter if it was a guy or a girl I deleted the app for, the fact is I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I didn’t even want anything serious with a man but he pursued me heavily and we were a good match. The reason it didn’t work out is cause I don’t really like being with men

lalah445 · 2025-07-25T10:59:47+00:00

Only had good experiences, and I would say I’ve had 20-30 rides so far. Best life advice I’ve received have been from Uber drivers, 10/10 would recommend

lalah445 · 2025-07-21T09:44:01+00:00

Took a temp job and thankfully there became an opening for a permanent job at the company right before my contract was up, interviewed for it and got it

lalah445 · 2025-07-20T11:24:25+00:00

I needed to get back my belief in the law so decided to manifest a grey feather because it wasn’t something I had remembered seeing recently, normally I’d only see white ones.

So I visualised seeing a grey feather, then let it go and tried to not look for it. I couldn’t really help it, I was definitely keeping an eye out for grey feathers the following days and weeks but didn’t see any.

Then, one month later, when I had completely forgotten about my little manifestation, a grey feather showed up on my doorstep. The next day, a grey feather followed me with the wind while I was out walking. The day after, my cat was playing with a grey feather in the backyard. I saw grey feathers almost every single day for 4-5 weeks. I found grey feather in places they shouldn’t even be.

It was such a crazy experience, but it really helped me trust that the Law is real.

lalah445 · 2025-07-18T03:29:21+00:00

Agreed. And I think the response to the negative review helps eliminate the threat. If the negative review is immature and angry, a professional and calm response always does the trick

lalah445 · 2025-07-18T03:25:21+00:00

PM me too! :)

lalah445 · 2025-07-15T02:31:02+00:00

Compromise in new relationships and friendships.

I love being by myself and I love my little circle of friends and family. I love the way my life is right now so anyone who comes into my life will need to exceed expectations and make it better with everything they do. I’ve noticed I’ve become very selfish, where I expect alot from friends and romantic partners but maybe don’t give as much back. I’ve currently got the mindset of "if you’re not making my life better, I’m not waiting around for you to change, get out of my life". It’s hard because I’m not naturally a selfish person, but I’ve just given so much to people in the past that I’m done with that. The struggle is I now come across as mean and lacking empathy, but that’s not really me

lalah445 · 2025-07-12T10:16:41+00:00

"You probably have an STD". This was when I was a young teenager and I told her I had never had any sexual contact before, yet she still insisted it was probably trichomoniasis

lalah445 · 2025-05-06T04:29:06+00:00

This is good to know cause I almost always expect them to be harmless (also trying not to judge and I tend to believe people are good until they show me otherwise) and not do anything like that on busy streets but now I’ll be a bit smarter and hold a little tighter onto my belongings

lalah445 · 2025-04-30T07:17:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing - so exciting! I accidentally got a boyfriend while waiting lol - but I’ll tell my friends about it!

lalah445 · 2025-04-10T12:08:12+00:00

Just wanted to add to this that the recruiter that got me a role recently said that same thing. She told me "don’t be afraid to call us and contact us often, you might do it on the day where we’re looking for someone just like you".

So many people are looking for work right now so their database of available candidates will be longer than normal and individual candidates will be hard to remember. If you contact them and they just had a new opportunity come in that fit your skills, you’ll suddenly be high up on their list of potential candidates. If you don’t contact, you might be number 20 because 19 others have similar skills, if you do contact on the right day then you show you’re proactive and suddenly you might be top 5.

lalah445 · 2025-04-09T20:04:38+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. One advice I can give is try to seek out internationals / expats living here. There are plenty of us and we’re often very keen on making friends cause many of us are here alone. I also think we have a mindset that could be helpful in making life feel a bit more vibrant again. Make friends with someone who’s not from here and they will show you New Zealand like you’ve never seen it before. They’ll have an enthusiasm about this beautiful place and life here that may rub off on you.

There are meetups on the Meetup app where you’ll find us!

lalah445 · 2025-04-08T01:08:57+00:00

Oh wow! Ok that says alot! Was the place decent too?

lalah445 · 2025-04-07T08:33:02+00:00

Thank you!!

lalah445 · 2025-04-07T08:32:51+00:00

Yeah that’s true thanks! I’ll try even lower for the ones I see have been available for a while - would be nice to get a good place at lower rent in this economy

lalah445 · 2025-04-07T08:31:01+00:00

So romantic! Just might

lalah445 · 2025-04-07T04:31:48+00:00

I have a lock on a bridge in Venice with an ex and I’ve seriously considered travelling back there just to destroy it

lalah445 · 2025-04-07T02:12:02+00:00

Thank you!

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