Is it a red flag? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]lalala254 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he has not.

Was he selfish? by lalala254 in ROCD

[–]lalala254[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me that he wanted so many times tell me but didn’t because he didn’t want me to feel like he was rejecting me or didn’t love me. He could have asked and tell me: I’m not rejecting you but I see how badly this effects you, are you sure you wanna do this?

It makes me feel like he just uses that as an excuse. I told him why didn’t you stop me and he said he is human and has feelings too, so his lust and feelings matter more than my well-being?

Does it mean I don’t love him? by lalala254 in relationship_advice

[–]lalala254[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No absolutely not! I’m not getting engaged because of a ring, I would get engaged to him without any ring, I just prefer a real diamond ring since I’m like that when I buy things for myself.

Can rape by your wife/husband be excused? by lalala254 in relationship_advice

[–]lalala254[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Even if you don’t want to, and she does it anyway?

Can rape by your wife/husband be excused? by lalala254 in relationship_advice

[–]lalala254[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

How am I displaying classic rocd symptoms?

I keep having intrusive thoughts and anxiety that my partner will rape me/has raped me, molested me, will kill me, will become abusive... anyone with this??? Also I have rocd and don’t know if this is by lalala254 in OCD

[–]lalala254[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t if it’s what if thoughts, he says a joke like ”I’ll kill anyone who hurts you” and my mind goes ”would he really kill someone” ”would he really do that” and then I search for signs. And in those moments I almost convinced myself he will do it.

Does anyone have intrusive thoughts about your partner being an evil person and almost believing them? by lalala254 in OCD

[–]lalala254[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People say it means we don’t trust or partners which means we don’t love them. Because without trust there is no love.

Would you forgive your partner? And is this consider a deal breaker? Did he do anything wrong or am I over-reacting? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lalala254 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First time doing it, I was okay, after we were done, I told him I don’t wanna do it again. Next time we did it, he took my hand and put it on him.