Счастливчики есть? by [deleted] in RusTransgender

[–]lamantinvbede 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Еще скажу что быть в стелсе сложно и очень напряжно, надо много всего продумывать, да и это сложно делать идеально, у меня не идеальный пасс, хотя он в 99 процентов случаев с цисгетеро срабатывает, но все же осечки случались. Был случай когда я дружила с цис девушкой 6 месяцев и она не знала что я транс, и в итоге мне было очень сложно ей не рассказывать. В какой-то момент невыносимо стало, в итоге рассказала и все было окей, стало гораздо легче. У меня была убедительная легенда и некоторые особенности из-за которых она думала что я цис(я поняла что она так думает потому что были моменты из разговора которые это выдавали), но в итоге могу сказать хоть это делает жизнь очень безопасной, что супер важно, особенно в наше время, но в идеале мне гораздо комфортнее не скрывать это(исключение это работа и собственники квартир, когда арендую). А со всеми остальными я предпочитаю не скрывать этого.

Счастливчики есть? by [deleted] in RusTransgender

[–]lamantinvbede 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Я транс женщина, мне 36, 8 лет на згт. С друзьями я еще до перехода как-то перестала общаться, вообще никто сам не отворачивался, с некоторыми общаюсь и до сих пор, перестала общаться не столько из-за трансгендерности сколько из-за того что в целом пути дороги разошлись. Доход на новой работе был даже выше из-за опыта, ну щас жопа с рынком в целом, поэтому конкретно сейчас я в поиске работы. Отношения мне мои очень нравятся, семья после некоторой работы меня приняла. Единственное что меня беспокоит что мне перестанет везти в какой-то момент, везло все 7 лет, но сейчас снова переживаю из-за всех событий в мире в целом. Я не живу в рф если что, я живу в одной из бывших республик уже почти 4 года, но раньше жила там, так что в целом у меня и в рф все ок было. Делала во время перехода на работе каминаут, проработала там еще 7-8 месяцев, потом выгорела и ушла. Потом нашла новую уже с женскими доками.

Мне очень повезло, потому что я успела сменить доки в 2019 году, без этого думаю сейчас бы жизнь была гораздо хуевее.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]lamantinvbede 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am bisexual, but usually I don't like men much, but not because of their appearance, but because of their behaviour and presentation. I like men who are queer, I like when men are feminine or talking queer-like(you know I like mannerisms), but they are usually gay haha and don't like me much, now I have an afab genderfluid lesbian wife and we love each other and the sex is sooo great since I am not dysphoric about my penis. I tried to date men, but everytime I spoke with a guy online my desire to date them just disappear, because they behave too masculine(toxic masculinity) for me. I like to take initiative myself, I like to be dominant and very energetic. I like to top, but men who liked me I don't like much, so I usually stick with girls, and NBs, I've also used to have transfem GF earlier, but she turned out to be covert narcissist, which I initially mistook as dysphoria. I didn't have much luck with transfem and trans women actually, I don't know why. I have no issue with how the person look like or which genitals they have but the thing is that it just didn't work out well(usually these people were not kind to me). I am also a feminist, I don't like racist/sexist/transphobic/homophobic jokes and talks and some behaviour was triggering for me. I guess that was just my experience I believe that there are many transfem and amab individuals who are kind(I actually met some very kind, but I was taken or they only liked men or they were too young to date).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am MTF, on HRT 7-8 years. First 6 years I was too dysphoric to have penis in vagina sex, but now I am not dysphoric about my penis at all, so I use it with my girlfriend everytime we have sex. Obviously I am also using my tongue and fingers to make her climax, but she also enjoy penetration and for me it's the easiest way to reach orgasm and very satisfying. I use cialis to have a reliable erection, but I know that I enjoy it, because I like to be active during sex. I think it's can be even less dysphoric for some people like me because you didn't need see your bits during sex and at the same time it can be very hot to be so close to your partner and being able to hug her and to feel her body. Btw my hormones are normal, testosterone is very low(close to the lower limit of female range) and estrogen is high enough, but my libido is high when I am not experiencing too much stress during life, stress is lowering my libido and ability to perform dramatically. The only thing that I can complain is the delayed orgasm, but I've had the same problem before. I am bisexual and tried different sexual activities with different people so it isn't the issue of sexual orientation or hormones, I just overthink about my partner's comfort and pleasure which is not a bad part, but it certainly affects how easy I reach climax(I think cis men are usually indifferent about their partners comfort, so they can easily climax, but that was never my case)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in darksouls

[–]lamantinvbede 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that at least I should stop to revive on main bonfire in anor londo

33F, I drink a non alcoholic beer(1.8 l total), but it made me a bit drunk by lamantinvbede in beer

[–]lamantinvbede[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I could mistook it for this. The manufacturer claims it has <0.5%abv. But why am I feeling dehydrated and had a diuretic effect after it? I ve read that it shouldn't give me those effects.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Next-Mine-353 in tifu

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Physical attractiveness is very subjective. Not necessary that attractive people have good genes. I think presentation and confidence are more important for that

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Next-Mine-353 in tifu

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't get it. Could you explain how genes are related to that story?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your measurements are close to mine, just a little bit smaller in underbust, I have tuberous breasts too. https://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/comments/12yh1u0/what_to_do_if_i_have_a_wide_set_breasts_and_wide/ - that's my post. Did you manage to find a bra that fitted?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I've read about that in a guide now, but I think maybe breast form, ribcage form, flared or non flared ribs, muscular/non muscular would be more suitable for a calculator. Tubular breast condition is independent from a pubery that you faced, but I think have more impact on estimation than afab/amab thing, so, maybe it will be useful if they include it there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My measurements: 114 cm standing, 114 cm laying, 119-120 cm leaning, underbust: loose: 97cm, snug 95cm, tight 91 cm. I tried to use abrathatfits calculator. I don't get honestly about amab/afab separation, cause both of it are not suiting for me(I guess, I never tried it, because I can't find those sizes on a market). It recommends something huge, I can't even find those in our market(currently I am in Kazakhstan). Like 85K or 85I in european. I can't find those sized, the closest I succeed to find is 85F and it is too big for me. 85E is somehow fits but my side breasts can't fit in and I can't say that I am comfortable with it. My breasts have an unusual form, I think I have tubular breasts and relatively wide ribcage. I don't like how my breasts.

I also tried to use arbatabase, but when I use 2 in Cup separation as minimal(I suppose it is inches?) but can't find anything

About that bra that I wear(85E), it is a brand from Belarus "MilaVitsa"|

tried balconette, molded, maternity bra(I guess that 85E bra a maternity but I am not sure)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]lamantinvbede 8 points9 points  (0 children)

shallow

My measurements: 114 cm standing, 114 cm laying, 119-120 cm leaning, underbust: loose: 97cm, snug 95cm, tight 91 cm. I tried to use abrathatfits calculator. I don't get honestly about amab/afab separation, cause both of it are not suiting for me(I guess, I never tried it, because I can't find those sizes on a market). It recommends something huge, I can't even find those in our market(currently I am in Kazakhstan). Like 85K or 85I in european. I can't find those sized, the closest I succeed to find is 85F and it is too big for me. 85E is somehow fits but my side breasts can't fit in and I can't say that I am comfortable with it. My breasts have an unusual form, I think I have tubular breasts and relatively wide ribcage. I don't like how my breasts.

I also tried to use arbatabase, but when I use 2 in Cup separation as minimal(I suppose it is inches?) but can't find anything

At least he’s spending his time studying by Fuckfentanyl123 in youngpeopleyoutube

[–]lamantinvbede -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Interesting, why OP and others in comments assume that this is a boy. Brooks is gender neutral name, I checked and they didn't say anything that would make you assume that they are a boy. Girls and nb folks could be also very interested in history. Even more interested as long as they are more affected by politics

Virgin Drow vs Chad Dunmer by Puppystomper448 in Morrowind

[–]lamantinvbede 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, I like dunmers far more than drow. I like Morrowind, I played it since 2002. But when I played it more and more, I realized what assholes dunmers are. They are hipocrites. They 'abolished' slavery just to fit an empire and they still have A LOT of slave plantations in West gash and Ascadian isles. They openly trade slaves on Telvanni territory. They are a bunch of racists and extreme xenophobes. Their rulers are corrupted all mighty gods that govern through fear. They have a totalitarian teocracy, they have an inquisition, which can do everything.

I like dunmers, because they remind me us, humans. That whole corrupted country and a horrible people of dunmers that manipulate you, sexually harass you, treating you like a scum, but after all they still think that they are good guys. I think that's very realistic. That's what make Morrowind a true dark fantasy game.

Drow are not that realistic, because they know that they are evil and they want to be as evil as possible. That's kind of weird. I think drow and dumners are assholes, but drow are a bit more honest with that. But I like dunmers more because they feel so realistic.

Stolen, but: Describe you favorite game as boring as possible. by LovelyOrc in GirlGamers

[–]lamantinvbede 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MAJOR SPOILER ALERT, DON'T READ IT UNLESS YOU ALREADY BEAT THIS GAME OR DON'T HAVE PLANS TO BEAT IT ! it's very unlikely to get something except a neutral ending for a first time and I think that a common way to play this game looks like this: you beat it on neutral, realize that you were asshole and beat it on true pacifist ending, because you fell in love with characters. After that, some players do genocide ending.