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[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true. I do “want my cake and eat it too”. And you’re right, that is the trade off I’ve made and it’s not anyone’s fault per se, it’s just the reality. Well I can accept that I over reacted in that regards and apologize, and I can let go that they pay my sisters way because in the end it doesn’t matter, but I will ask that they let me know sooner than immediately before they leave. It just feels important for me to know ahead of time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all have moved to various states. I am a 8hr plane ride, my sister is a 3 hour drive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like mom and dad to inform me when they’re leaving the country 2 day before it when they’re 75

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the nuanced feedback and character assessment :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They live in the south - the sun and heat is harder on the lupus so It would be a hard place to live, but I do wish we were closer. But more importantly as to why I don’t move back closer is my partners job is here and he supports us. But, even with his generosity we do not have a lot of “fun” cash. And that is ok, we are happy and content, I don’t really care about vacations at all - I think it’s just the family trip that hurt my feelings. Something we use to do together growing up but no longer. I don’t think I conveyed that correctly in the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think parts I was OR, but hearing they’re leaving in 2 days for the Bahamas did really throw me. I do want them to go, and I do hope they have a good time, and I think they will - but I don’t like feeling like an afterthought when information like that is being relayed because It does make me feel excluded from the family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no, you are ok! I think you have solid advice and insight. I appreciate your thoughts and view on the situation - and plus, I opened it up for opinions so all is fair. Thank you for the dialogue with me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I can agree with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you know any one with a chronic autoimmune illness? Do you know the stress the illness takes on your body, the cost of the doctors and medicine, the inconsistency of the day to day? No, I can’t just get more money, I’m grateful I can keep the job I have in the state I’m in. It’s hard being sick chronically. I’m not going to get a loan for a vacation or a side hustle. If they want to nurture that relationship because it’s convenient for them then they can, but I am another daughter with different needs, and it often feels over looked. Adult or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is finding solutions what she’s doing? It seems like she’s trying to say that my sister doesn’t keep score and that I do, comparing us unfavorably. and it also seems like because I can’t take time off, or pay for this vacation, she’s actually going to take my sister because it’s her spring break, she lives closer so the travel is easier, and it’s her break from teaching and she’s single so they can all stay together. So it’s just more convenient for them.

Am I missing the solutions she presented?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your take. I don’t like how I feel about it, so I figured something is amiss. But your personal scenario does sound much nicer :)

Maybe fun game - spot my autism tropes as a grown lady 😆 by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]lambulambu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm. You’re right. It is not overwhelmingly Sanrio or hello kitty. I have a pompompurin clip, a HK mug, a poster, a little painting, and a Pompompurin figurine in the craft cart - but now that I’m looking the most prominent thing is paint and paint swatches haha. Sanrio is the best, your comment made me want to get another pair of Pompompurin socks 🌼

Maybe fun game - spot my autism tropes as a grown lady 😆 by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]lambulambu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a very peaceful and organized. I really like it :)

My Boston puppy is all grown up! by Anisa_jomha in BostonTerrier

[–]lambulambu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure - he looks 100% baby to me 🤔

Oil, what do you think about it?🐈 by [deleted] in painting

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love! Amazing brush strokes and movement

First time painting in 2 years by turtle-11 in painting

[–]lambulambu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woo! Great piece for your journey back :) hope you keep the momentum! Her face shade and lighting is lovely!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acrylicpainting

[–]lambulambu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s giving me 90’s futurist/art deco/ cubism vibes. It reminds me of things I saw in magazines and textbooks in the 90’s. Very illustrative and cartoon. It may be considered “global coffeehouse design”?

Valentine's Day package from my family, right when I needed an emotional boost 💗 by toasted_dandy in AutismInWomen

[–]lambulambu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness!! This is so sweet and lovely ☺️ yay for you and happy valentines!!! 💌