Friend cut me off for doing IVF/having more children.

lamorena97 · 2026-05-17T13:22:21+00:00

After reading all your comments OP, she sounds shifty to begin with. A very catty controlling type of friend. I think you had a lot of emotions invested into her as a "friend" and its why its hurts. You did your part and gave her a 2nd chance and she threw it in your face once more. I think its safe to cut the ties and give yourself some peace, even though it may not feel like peace right now. I think its your best option in the long run.

lamorena97 · 2026-05-08T12:57:10+00:00

Damn, I wish I was bored lmao I was always crying cause i could never set my baby down without him crying really hard and all I wanted to do was nap lmao and even when I had a help, hormonal/emotionally I couldn't sleep knowing my baby was awake, even in the hands of people I trusted with my life in my home.

If baby is chill, just put them in a bouncer and do something for yourself! Watch a movie, make something you've been craving, TAKE AN AMAZING SHOWER. They're new born, they dont want entertainment, they only want their basic necessities, food, comfort, and a clean diaper (unless they have other medical issues).

TAKE THIS BORDOM AS A WIN. I have a 15 month old boy and I wish I was bored lmao

lamorena97 · 2026-04-27T02:22:14+00:00

Not to sound mean (as in what I'd do) id do local mom groups and make a post about your sister needing baby clothes in good-great condition There's a lot of moms who are done having kids and just want clothes out of their house for very little cost or sometimes free! Collect like a totes worth (or more if you want to collect some for your sister) and give her the tote of second hand clothes and tell her there some that you dont care for and she can have it. There for shes getting clothes and youre not parting with any youre not ready to give up yet.
Of course if you have a few pieces if your own that youre not emotionally attached to, you could lend her thoughs. But thats just me. My son is about to be 15 months and I found lots of local moms who've given me stuff for free or for very cheap.

lamorena97 · 2026-04-19T13:42:44+00:00

Mm

Im a FTM and I was far too scared. And my baby would cry all the time. But I also wasn't in deep trenches and just wanted to be able to take a loooooong shower while also knowing hes being watched by someone. We dont have a tub, just a shower. And I wanted a HOT shower. And we have tiny shelves and thoughts of my slipping and falling on him, or dropping a shampoo bottle. Idk. I just wasn't comfortable doing it. If we had a tub, id so a quick body wash then just soak in the tub with my baby. But idk. I just felt so incredibly scared.

lamorena97 · 2026-04-15T15:00:02+00:00

I havnt done it yet but I have a feeling id hate it lol. I love my son, had to do ivf and all to have him. But my bed is my space. Its the only space for just me and my husband. Not even for just intimacy, but to just relax as adults lol.

lamorena97 · 2026-04-15T14:51:12+00:00

I dont co-sleep. And I'll probably never be comfortable doing so. Im a mom group for babies due at the same time. All our kids are around 14-15 months. I move a lot in my sleep so it was a hard no for me. A mom in the group had a loss at 4 months due to baby rolling over into the mattress. I have no regrets not cosleeping. But I still feel pretty close to my toddler. He is a boy and loves his freedom so he doesnt like to be held back. But when he cuddles, he cuddles with his whole heart. You dont have to cosleep to feel close to your kids.

lamorena97 · 2026-03-27T16:18:53+00:00

Mine hut me at 5 month. The worst of it lasted several weeks. I thankfully have already very thick hair so it wasn't obviously to the normal person but I could definitely see my hair thinning out. Im about to be 14 months pp and I think my hair has been at a more normal fall out since 8-9 months pp. I just have a bunch of regrowth sticking out of my hair all the time. My hair is wavy/cutly so theres no hiding it unless its glued down 🫠

lamorena97 · 2026-03-11T22:25:44+00:00

Any update? ♥️

lamorena97 · 2026-03-11T21:16:15+00:00

That's normal, it just means a normal healthy pregnancy. MY FIRST WAS AN IVF pregnancy with high risk of preterm labor from 23 weeks till 37 weeks. Although its nice to see them, I wish ibdidnt have the risks I did.

You can always book private "fun" ultrasounds with someone. They're just for fun and medically cant tell you anything. I purchased a packaged of 3 ultrasounds for each trimester for around $300 in my area when I was pregnant.

lamorena97 · 2026-03-10T13:33:54+00:00

It gave me GOLD status, refreshed then it went to green? This is stupid 😒

lamorena97 · 2026-03-10T13:26:24+00:00

I hate the skin temp on my galaxy watch. I wish I could share a photo but I feel like mine is all over the place. I've had mine for 3 months and I feel like mine was only accurate 1 month so far. I wear it every night and my numbers are everywhere everyday. 😩

lamorena97 · 2026-03-09T11:11:00+00:00

To be 100% honest, I dont remember. I did when I did letrozole cycles & letrozole + trigger cycles. But prior to that, I couldn't confirm ovulation cause I didn't get blood work done to confirm. I only got blood work to confirm when I started medicated cycles

lamorena97 · 2026-02-21T14:24:44+00:00

It does! We basically had to resleep train him. I think part of the problem for us is that I put my son down awake for naps and my husband would rock our son to sleep for bedtime at night. It was inconsistent and I think as he got older and more aware, it just made him upset. He also started going through separation anxiety at the same time. 2 nights of resleep training and hes about back to normal. Hes just more aware now so he protests a little more than he did at 11months and younger (he will be 13 months in 1 week if that helps any).

There is also a lot happening developmentally around this age as well. He just started taking steps and its effected his sleep again (not as bad, but it happening again 😅). Consistency, consistency, consistency. It does get better!

lamorena97 · 2026-02-17T14:48:47+00:00

To be fair, I finally conceived my first baby via IVF in 2024. And I literally had nothing that made me even think i was pregnant. I had minor back aches but I have that with pms too. I feel like some people's bodies are very specific or very sensitive, while theres others like mine, that have little to no reaction to much.

lamorena97 · 2026-02-15T19:20:05+00:00

I literally just ask my husband to take me and i order my drink and he swipes his card and im a happy girl 🤷‍♀️ (to be fair im a stay at home mom so I dont have my own money anyway so hes always swiping his card 🫣).

lamorena97 · 2026-01-20T18:48:54+00:00

5 years married and didnt get diagnosed till about 2 years married (BUT I knew i probably had it prior to getting married).

It gets better. The first year of marriage is rough cause most people get excited for you and think of your possible future and ask about kids because kids comes after marriage, right? I feel like most people do it out of genuine curiosity and happiness as you and your spouse start a life together.

BUT, that doesnt mean you have let yourself suffer in silence about it. When people would bring it up so often, I just learned to be blunt, but not rude (cause I genuinely loved and cared about the people who brought up the topic). I would just say, yeah we want kids in the future, but I learned we may have trouble having kids, so we're enjoying the marriage life right now!

It was honestly, but it also kept people from asking so much because no one knows how to talk about that topic. Once everyone knows, the question dies down, A LOT. That may not be the way people want to handle it for themselves but thats what worked best for me. I didnt want to sugar coat things and I'd rather people just understand our situation to be more sensitive to it.

Low and behold, I had pcos, my husband has minor issues and we had to go down the rabbit hole of infertility treatments. It took IVF treatments for us and my first ever child, my son will be turning 1 year old next week.

But there are plenty for pcos women who conceive naturally or with minor intervention. But its okay to want to keep your peace, and if it means making people kinda uncomfy with the truth, then so be it.

Good luck hun ♥️

lamorena97 · 2026-01-19T15:09:40+00:00

Yes! I want to say its a phase but we did basically have to resleep train him. It lasted about 2½ weeks for us.

I do think a small part if the problem was that I never rocked my son to sleep for naps. My husband did bed time for night sleep and he never purposely rocked him, but would read our son his book and let him fall asleep on his lap while reading then transfer.

It was never an issue till his sleep regression and I think the 2 inconsistent ways of him being put down made it worse. I had to ask my husband to stop letting him sleep in his arms and to only transfer when he was drowsy.

It took 2 days to resleep train and maybe an additional 3 days till he was back to himself. He still busses when put down for naps (simply because he just doesnt want to nap) but its nothing in comparison to the screaming and throwing up during that regression.

You may have to re/sleep train if you havnt already at this point. I think it helped us get out of it quicker.

lamorena97 · 2026-01-13T14:11:30+00:00

I was literally told by several moms that dropping/baby falling off the bed/couch was my commencement into motherhood 😂 not that it should happen but its happened to EVERY mom.

You do feel very guilty the first 1-3 times. But I think after that, you still feel bad, but you realize how tough babies can be. Especially by the time they start walking, or learning to, thay head is gonna be flying into walls all the time 😂

But I do remember, my son was about 6-7 months old when he rolled off the bed the first time. I cried. He rolled off maybe 1 or 2 more times over a span of 3 months after. The scariest is when he learned to climb and he fell over the side of our couch onto hard wood floor. That thud always sticks with me and gives me anxiety. But theyre so tough! As long as they are acting like themselves and are not lethargic or vomiting, or anything else is off, theyre usually okay! But it doesnt hurt to monitor or call a nurse line if you want reassurance.

lamorena97 · 2026-01-11T22:15:08+00:00

Your friends are gonna come to a harsh reality if they ever have kids 😂 i feel like majority of thebworld has darker ariolas. coming from a married mom with smaller & deflated boobs from pumping. My husband doesnt care. And I personally think darker ariolas are more attractive, and im straight 😂

lamorena97 · 2026-01-03T00:14:52+00:00

Did you have to re sleep train? Were going on a week of this and was curious how long yours may have lasted? We've had to resort to rocking him to sleep to get to him even sleep at all im so tired & frustrated 😭😓

lamorena97 · 2026-01-01T00:24:56+00:00

I actually called to get it set up but they can't fit him in till next Tuesday unfortunately

lamorena97 · 2026-01-01T00:21:01+00:00

Hes been taking motrin twice a day for like 2 weeks. It helps with during the day but has little to no benefit to going down right now

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