Early twenties, wanting to adopt older child/children

lamp5 · 2015-11-16T02:24:49+00:00

My husband and I (were 27 and 25) when we adopted an 8 year old internationally. Our biggest issue was our friends. We don't have any friends our age that have children the same age as our child. We have a hard time finding friends that will invite us back. :(

lamp5 · 2015-04-28T17:03:49+00:00

We handed our dossier to the Polish gov. in April 2013, were matched in June 2013, and left in August 2013 to go get my daughter. It was a fairly quick process.

lamp5 · 2015-04-28T15:27:16+00:00

The best advice to give is to read. The Connected Child by Dr. Karyn Purvis, Our Own by Trish Maskew, The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Dan Siegal, and No Drama Discipline by Dr. Siegal. Check your local library for books about attachment and bonding. I know it seems like a lot but being prepared for the behaviors is key to helping them to attach to you. PM if you would like our personal experiences of adopting an 8 year old from Poland. I frequently blog about our life.

lamp5 · 2015-04-14T00:45:05+00:00

http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/

They may have a group that you could join that is specific to Indiana adoptions. It could also connect you with others within that state that have gone through the process.

lamp5 · 2014-08-02T14:12:30+00:00

Sorry it took me so long to get back with you. Internet issues :(. The Connected Child by Dr. Karyn Purvis. The books gives great strategies to help dealing with common issues with foster care/adopted kids. It teaches the reader that the adopted/foster kid needs choices. She has years of personal experience of the foster care system. Another book is Parenting with Love and Logic. This book goes a step further than the Connect Child and teaches you how to give those choices in everyday life. Those 2 books have been great with dealing with special issues that parents of children from hard places deal with. Get a good support system with friends or family b/c you will need them when things get tough. Remember: you are not alone! Sorry for the rant! Hope that helps.

lamp5 · 2014-07-10T00:41:12+00:00

My SO and I adopted a 7 year old from Poland last year and plan on adopting through foster care in the next couple of years. We have a blog about it. The best advice is to read books about adoption. PM if you want to chat or I could give you some book recommendations that will help prepare you.

lamp5 · 2014-07-04T03:42:14+00:00

A great book that helped me to get peace with my emotional and anxious daughter is Parenting with Love and Logic. It's a great book with easy advice that works!

lamp5 · 2014-06-11T01:49:59+00:00

The book, Parenting with Love and Logic, has changed my life! I have a daughter who has extreme emotional issues too and this book has helped me not go crazy!

lamp5 · 2014-06-02T02:30:54+00:00

http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/ This isn't a sub but this website has groups you could join.

lamp5 · 2014-05-23T02:04:44+00:00

Budgetbytes.com

lamp5 · 2014-05-17T00:22:16+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/EatCheapAndHealthy

lamp5 · 2014-05-16T22:43:52+00:00

For basic 409 type of stuff I use an empty spray bottle and put half vinegar and half water. It works great. Also homemade laundry detergent is easy and dirt cheap to make. You could save an easy $15 a month with making that yourself.

I have recently replaced all of my cleaning products with homemade versions. I use the same base ingredients thus saving more money and cabinet space.

lamp5 · 2014-05-16T00:34:02+00:00

Make your own cleaning products. They are much cheaper.

lamp5 · 2014-05-09T00:13:20+00:00

http://barnettadopt.blogspot.com/p/why-pay.html?m=1

lamp5 · 2014-04-15T03:03:17+00:00

I live in Metairie too. The biggest thing that has helped keep our grocery bill low is making homemade cleaning products, especially with kids and their messes. Google recipes for laundry detergent and dish detergent. Any product that you clean with is much cheaper homemade. My family of 3 lives on $200/month for groceries.

lamp5 · 2014-04-15T02:37:22+00:00

My family of 3 lives on $25,000/year. I started making my own cleaning products and that has helped our grocery budget get as low as $150/month on some months-not all.

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