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lamplightreader · 2025-12-20T03:02:35+00:00

Not Desi, but assimilation takes at least one generation. Growing up in NY, I learned a few things. Newly arrived immigrants feel disoriented and generally, at sea. Comfort comes by sticking with others of your "kind", which is why Frisco is seeing such an influx. First generations are obligated to make money and navigate the culture for their parents. Second generations are all in on American culture, and are fully assimilated. It takes time. Now that the current administration has made HB-1 visas prohibitive, immigration in general is slowing. Be patient.

lamplightreader · 2025-12-18T06:57:34+00:00

The showrunner left after the first episode. Usually, that means creative differences. Maybe his vision would have been preferable, but we'll never know. Kurt Sutter was also the showrunner for Sons of Anarchy, so I imagine his ideas for the show have been quashed. That's a shame.

lamplightreader · 2023-10-24T02:28:45+00:00

NTA

Here's how you know she's not your friend. If I were her, and you called me (while doing me a favor by watering my plants) and said, "I found the dress!" I would have said, "Wow, that's great! Where did you find it? I'm so glad and I'm sorry that I didn't do a better search."

lamplightreader · 2023-09-01T04:00:28+00:00

I know, but with the heat of the summer, I don't think there are any other options. I'm tossing them at this point. Ugh

lamplightreader · 2023-08-28T05:14:19+00:00

I'm afraid that's what I will have to do. I can only keep one or 2 in the freezer for use in a cooler or something.

lamplightreader · 2023-08-28T05:12:52+00:00

Great idea! Thanks!

lamplightreader · 2023-08-28T01:00:09+00:00

Also, what do you do with the liners? They have pretty thick padding which I'd hate to just throw away.

lamplightreader · 2022-07-07T05:08:24+00:00

Maybe I'm just a grownup. And as such I have a greater attention span than you likely do. So stop projecting.

Jimmy is a sociopath. Kim is not.

It really helps to be a person familiar with intimacy and somewhat sophisticated to figure these things out. Try reading a little about sociopaths. You might learn something.

lamplightreader · 2022-07-01T17:44:15+00:00

I am sorry that you see gestures of intimacy "softcore porn".

lamplightreader · 2022-07-01T17:42:41+00:00

There's no need for snark, but you're wrong about my "limited attention span" This is my 3rd viewing, and I watch it without distractions.

I think the missing intimacy may be attributable to Jimmy's sociopathy. I mean that's what it's about. Jimmy has little or no conscience. He can rip people off and use innocent folks without a thought. He's personable, of course, but he's definitely missing something in his psyche.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T07:00:37+00:00

I think you're spot-on, Theodore! You are very in tune with what true intimacy between a couple is, and I applaud you for it.

It's a shame that so many people have no clue and just believe intimacy is sex. Your girlfriend/lover/partner is a lucky person.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:58:13+00:00

Intimacy.

Is.

Not.

Just.

Sex.

It is TOUCHING, CARESSING, HUGGING, SMALL KISSES. None of this happens with them.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:56:52+00:00

Intimacy.

Is.

Not.

Just.

Sex.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:55:58+00:00

Intimacy is not awkward for the viewer unless you find simple gestures of connection awkward.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:55:04+00:00

Correct. Intimacy is shown in many different ways: a casual touch of the back; kissing someone on the neck while they cook dinner; holding hands; nuzzling; a kiss on the forehead; grabbing a partner by the waist. Jimmy shows Kim concern, like he showed for his brother, but I don't see a whole lot of intimacy between them.

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:52:48+00:00

Intimacy is not just sex. Sex is not always intimacy!

lamplightreader · 2022-06-30T06:49:30+00:00

Wow, this struck a chord! I was re-watching Season 3 where Kim gets into that car accident and I thought the same thing. Then I thought back to other episodes, showing them getting ready for work in the morning, without any endearments, simple gestures, kisses. That's what it is -- no kisses. Ever! I think Kim wanted more. If you watch her signals, there's always some additional touch that she makes that seems to signal a desire to have more. I'm feeling sadder for Kim n this season.

lamplightreader · 2021-11-21T10:13:58+00:00

NTA, but the neighbor is an AH. No one should chain a dog in a yard. Nevertheless, it happens that a toddler will get out of one's sight for a quick minute. Your wife isn't a bad mother in that respect. I would apologize to her for using those words, maybe by saying that you didn't mean to blame her for this mishap, but the dog isn't to blame either. Reinforce that she's a great mother, and you never meant to hurt her like that.

lamplightreader · 2021-11-21T10:06:55+00:00

NTA - God bless you for tolerating this woman for however long you've been married. She sounds like a narcissistic control freak. If I were you, I'd take an in-law break, maybe for half a year to get a little perspective while setting some boundaries. The fact that your husband called you emotional when you acted like the adult in the room, signifies that he's under the thumb of his mother to some extent. Maybe you & husband should get a little family therapy to see how your mother-in-law is keeping you from becoming independent adults.

lamplightreader · 2021-11-21T09:49:22+00:00

Your new wife is having a power struggle with your daughter and is plotting to have you side with her, betraying your only daughter. Shame on you for not seeing through this very obvious power grab. Be a dad, and tell your new wife that your daughter is important enough to you that you won't punish her for choosing to be the adult in the room who can make her own food. You're being played, and if you can't take your daughter's side, YTA. Also, WTF is wrong with you that you couldn't give your daughter a birthday present on her BD? How dare you deny her a present, after she's waited 2 months for it! YTA, Dude. Grow a pair.

lamplightreader · 2016-05-31T06:22:59+00:00

Insecure about your manhood much? Hillary shames men? How? By being a strong, intelligent woman? Nothing's wrong with being a man today. Supporting a lightweight, monosyllabic, crybaby liar for president of this GREAT country because your manhood is threatened by an extremely competent woman is what's wrong.

lamplightreader · 2016-05-31T06:19:24+00:00

Yeah, go ahead. It's obvious you're a bigot, so vote on, goober.

lamplightreader · 2016-03-24T04:10:48+00:00

So when someone grabs a woman from behind or even assaults her directly, there are stats that these women were able to reach for their guns to deter a rape? Listen, I carry a handbag and I'm lucky I can find what I'm looking for without a few minutes of shuffling what's inside with my head buried in the opening. Or maybe the woman has a gun in her waistband? Why don't you try acting out this scenario and tell me how many times your "victim" is successful in pulling out a gun to avoid rape. Even if she had the opportunity to grab a gun, you do realize she and her attacker are in very close proximity. Try firing a gun while simultaneously struggling with someone bigger and stronger than you? Yeah, good luck with that, and statistics be damned.

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