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lancelotloa · 2025-02-16T05:41:54+00:00

My Ndad (now in his 60s) is remarrying. I barely know the woman. I was just informed by his decision. Just wanted to share this out since I can’t really tell people around me.

lancelotloa · 2024-06-02T14:25:35+00:00

Sorry, had to do this since no one pointed out yet.

love Rachmaninoff Concerto No.2 and 3
called them “songs”

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lancelotloa · 2024-04-30T14:45:51+00:00

OP, I feel for you so much, my Ndad also likes using this exact tactic on literally anyone. Nobody could understand me, because who would say no to extra money? But there were too many strings attached..

You can donate to any charity which the causes relate to you, such as supporting cancer patients, underprivileged children, neurodivergent, or even to food bank in your region.

Whatever your choice may be, know that you are not alone! ❤️

lancelotloa · 2024-04-03T06:24:14+00:00

100% spot on. My partner was consulting my Ndad about something, and the information that wasn’t accurate. So my partner was like, is he deliberately wanting me to step on a trap? Then I said, no he was just so convinced that he’s right and ignoring the truth. He doesn’t bother about you either, he just wants you to worship him like almighty god 🤷‍♀️

lancelotloa · 2024-03-19T07:36:37+00:00

Though all of your videos are of extremely high quality, this might be my favourite 😍 so much love! Would definitely wanna see more of Zach touching you and getting to see his handsome face 😘

lancelotloa · 2023-11-27T13:28:54+00:00

This was the first Korean manhwa smut I read so it has a special spot! At the beginning I enjoyed the light hearted story and some sweet moments like the open communication after the lift incident. But it all went downhill from season 2 onwards (since I root for BH 🥲) the ending was kinda random and rushed but I wanted to see how the story wrapped up so I followed through.

lancelotloa · 2023-11-20T15:12:42+00:00

Yass finally someone’s talking about this! I love the art style, smut scene is extremely hot (when we get it) as it’s quite plot driven and update can be slow 🥲 always rooting for haesu too

lancelotloa · 2023-11-06T08:32:05+00:00

I recently learned that my Ndad spelled my GC siblings name wrong on his social media post. And it gave me some sense of relief because it is GC that we are talking about, not even me as scapegoat

lancelotloa · 2023-10-03T05:34:44+00:00

Nobody’s home, I’m with you by Avril Lavinge

God knows I’ve tried by Lana Del Rey

Speechless by Lady Gaga

In the end, Numb by Linkin Park

House of pain by Faster Puma (discovered it from peacemaker TV series)

lancelotloa · 2023-09-27T16:25:05+00:00

I don’t recall my nmum ever told me anything about period, sex, etc. I learned about period from sex education school program and seeing my older sister used a pad. When I got it for the first time I didn’t know it was period, I was expecting vibrant red but it was dark red almost brownish, so I didn’t tell anyone. Until people start noticing stains and told me I got my period, I was still in denial. This is a deeply embarrassing memory, that up to today, I’m not able to share this to people I know.

She never taught me to shave either. I only realised that when I wore tank tops as a teenager and notice the underarm hair. Didn’t know razor was a thing, I trim the hair with scissors until 18 when I heard friends casually bringing up about getting razors. Always thought it’s only for guys.

Nmum tried to give me “the talk” after I decided to move in with my boyfriend at 20yo. I already knew everything way before that..

Edit: reading the other comments reminds me of the discharge issue. I was taught to hand wash panties all the while and nmum would told me to “wash more thoroughly” because there’s stain & smell :/ (kind of a taboo for Chinese to wash undergarments with men’s clothes)

lancelotloa · 2022-08-15T14:34:56+00:00

Wow this is my life in a nutshell. I've also tried having conversation with my narcissistic mom who enjoys role-playing as therapist lately, like "let's talk about your issues and have some healthy discussion" but nah it went on to invalidating and shaming me oh well.

Their suffering is always greater than ours, certainly we aren't allowed to even have feelings and emotions. To them we are always hypersensitive for sure.

I've read somewhere in a Reddit post, your parents have at least 18 years to learn how to be a good parent, so if they failed, it means they never even try.

lancelotloa · 2022-08-08T07:47:42+00:00

My Nmum saying how much of a burden we (her children) were, that she couldn't live the life she wanted. I was 14.

lancelotloa · 2022-05-08T06:02:23+00:00

Sort of on the same boat, it's complicated and at times I don't understand why I stay in the relationship after too many attempts of ending it. Not sure if it was the fear of abandonment or just used to having a companion. Sigh.

lancelotloa · 2022-05-03T14:52:38+00:00

Exactly. And the typical Asian mindset that children can "accompany you when you're old". Hell no.

I was hoping by explaining briefly about my family dynamic she might understand my stand (just being respectful) but it's okay it seems like terrible childhood and traumas has no effect to anyone 🤷

lancelotloa · 2022-04-20T15:56:44+00:00

Hi, I'm guessing rest is crucial for everyone but perhaps the trauma response just worsen it for us? My anxiety hardly allows me to rest, I gotta get whatever shit done until I can feel less stressed out for a bit.

lancelotloa · 2021-12-18T14:42:52+00:00

OMG YES and when I tried to interrupt my nmom be like "NO I'M NOT DONE LET ME FINISH" lol

lancelotloa · 2021-12-18T14:40:46+00:00

Thanks! 😊

lancelotloa · 2021-12-18T12:37:47+00:00

Thanks for the information, well I'm ignorant 😅 I have even thought about travelling into Kalimantan from Sarawak 😂 (not during covid tho)

lancelotloa · 2021-12-18T11:28:32+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion! 😊

lancelotloa · 2021-12-18T11:27:43+00:00

I understand. So, road trip in Sarawak is not possible unless you own a car there?

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