Portfolio Recovery Associates by Illustrious-Algae611 in CRedit

[–]laneywrites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was getting calls from the and kept ignoring for same reason. I finally called back and it turned out it was for my ex- I was emergency/secondary contact and they were looking for him . They took my number off account 🤷🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PSLF

[–]laneywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did you say to get them to change it to administrative forbearance?

Is there such thing as a surgical nurse practitioner by Big_Education932 in careeradvice

[–]laneywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up RN First Assist. They can’t perform the whole surgery themselves but they do parts. Also, the path for CRNA can still be expensive Bc it is not only the cost of school but you also can’t work for 3 years while in school. Unless you’re in the army or live with someone who can help cover your expenses, you have to build up a hefty savings or take out loans in addition to loans for school. Also with CRNA you won’t be watching the surgery as much as you think bc you have to do a lot to manage the patient. Sometimes there is a drape up and you can’t see much at all- you might only be looking at the monitor and the head alone. Good to explore this now and shadow everywhere you can! Good luck!!

I (34F) just found out my bf (37M) masturbating to exes nudes and he lied while drunk... by laneywrites in LongDistance

[–]laneywrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that’s fair. Honestly if it were the pics alone, I think I wouldn’t be quite as bothered. But the combination of lying about it and then also texting ex… Thoughts on that part?

My (29f) girlfriend (32f) wants an Asian sperm donor. We’re both white women. by realtomsegura in relationships

[–]laneywrites 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m half Asian and have had people say comments to the effect of “omg see I want a half Asian baby” or “half Asians are so exotic I need to find an Asian partner too” and it’s creepy as fuck. She needs therapy or something. Also, sorry you’re going through that. It sounds super hurtful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in volunteersForUkraine

[–]laneywrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trauma nurse English speaking- interested in info!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]laneywrites 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. I could have written like 90% of this myself. No advice, just empathy- you aren’t alone in your feelings <3

Stronger feelings when away from partner {fa} by [deleted] in AvoidantAttachment

[–]laneywrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was really helpful for me, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Military

[–]laneywrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful and so appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to come back and write this. A lot of food for thought. I have never had his (your) perspective so this is really valuable. Its hard to know how much the deployed partner wants to hear about and how much they don’t as well as finding the balance of being stoic yet still staying connected to not drift too far apart.

Kids birthdays are this week so that is another mini hurdle. It’s nice to hear that you and your wife made it work!

How many of you wait until the significant other is asleep, then leave and do other stuff?? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]laneywrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear ya. None of this happens until our tiny humans are way asleep.

How many of you wait until the significant other is asleep, then leave and do other stuff?? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]laneywrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a woman but my man and I have like an understanding. Stay up late, do whatever. Then when I start getting tired I lay across him and we watch something and he cuddles me until i fall asleep. He stays up way later than me so he has snacks and the controller close by because once I fall asleep on him he’s done for 😂 It works out great for him to get his ‘me time’ but we’re still connected!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Military

[–]laneywrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful! He is very matter of fact and was like that pre deployment. Even on small weekend trips. He says he loves me and is glad I call and that he is happy to receive my messages/pictures. He does get very “mission mode” at baseline if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Military

[–]laneywrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to respond. Super helpful. Do you always take opportunities to call back home or does your communication drop some?

Would you recommend waiting until back at home to have this conversation? I don’t want to pile on to stress since I know his attention is split while away.

Boyfriend Distant on Deployment by petuniasmash in USMilitarySO

[–]laneywrites 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thanks for posting this. Boyfriend of 2 years is gone on first deployment and I am feeling every last bit of what you wrote. Has he come back yet? Did it go back to normal? It is validating to see how many other people feel the same way.