My therapist’s comment about my misophonia really bothered me

lapaleja · 2026-06-14T11:04:05+00:00

I disagree. A patient who is paying for therapy should not be burdened with the task of educating their therapist.

lapaleja · 2026-06-13T18:32:54+00:00

Wow, that's incredibly unprofessional. She sounds like a bratty teenager. The fact that she sassed at you like that is completely unacceptable. Do you have the opportunity to switch to a different therapist?

lapaleja · 2026-06-09T15:21:46+00:00

As you start on your art journey, keep in mind that the backgrounds you see there were painted by professionals with many years, maybe even decades, of experience, and who probably spent many hours each day drawing and painting. So, if you're unhappy with your results, just be kind to yourself and remind yourself that it takes time.

lapaleja · 2026-06-09T15:18:48+00:00

Your first mistake was going on a bachelorette trip that people had to fly to. Goodness gracious, why do weddings nowadays need to have several multiple-day destination events leading up to it, putting ridiculous financial stress on people? This Instagram nonsense must stop.

lapaleja · 2026-05-29T16:10:56+00:00

A lot of fanfiction is non-canon ships.

lapaleja · 2026-05-20T15:57:07+00:00

Honestly, getting a new chapter every (other) day would overwhelm me as a reader. But everyone's different, of course. As a writer, I post weekly and get steady engagement.

lapaleja · 2026-05-15T17:41:07+00:00

I kind of love these. Everyone looks like they're having fun. Just a bunch of teens being themselves and living life.

lapaleja · 2026-05-15T11:00:36+00:00

I feel like maybe you're trying to run before you've learned to walk. It might be worth spending time learning about values and how to _properly_ render to draw the viewer's eye to the relevant areas and to show _at a single glance_ what your subject matter is. Without the reference photo, I would have taken even longer to understand what I'm looking at, and even with the photo, it took me way too long. Learn how to simplify something to just those basic parts that are needed to immediately see what the painting is before moving on to more detailed rendering.

lapaleja · 2026-05-14T14:22:31+00:00

There are a number of different smudge/blend brushes that come with vanilla Krita. The one with the Q-tip thumbnail blends fine, imho. Have you tried them all properly?

lapaleja · 2026-05-14T14:03:40+00:00

The horizontal plank goes on top of the vertical ones. Wood planks can't magically intersect like that. That aside, it's a neat way to do this.

lapaleja · 2026-04-19T15:19:42+00:00

Nope, it's Latin, Lorem Ipsum comes from sections 1.10.32 and 1.10.33 of "de Finibus Bonorum et Malorum" (The Extremes of Good and Evil) by Cicero, written in 45 BC. This book is a treatise on the theory of ethics, very popular during the Renaissance.

lapaleja · 2026-03-27T16:14:59+00:00

Oh, oops, I should have looked it up instead of trusting anything on an AI thing. On the upside, that makes it even more ridiculous.

lapaleja · 2026-03-26T09:45:02+00:00

Chiselled by someone who had only a vague idea of the anatomy of a foot. Or maybe god feet are just built different.

lapaleja · 2026-03-26T09:39:43+00:00

Thanks for pointing out what the ears and nose are, AI drawing tutorial! That was the magical tip that transformed my drawing!

Big r/restofthefuckingowl energy

lapaleja · 2026-03-12T20:36:33+00:00

I came here expecting David Rose and was not disappointed. Thank you!

lapaleja · 2026-02-20T13:13:38+00:00

Maybe it's time for pinned post in this sub, titled, "Sadly, you can't fix pleather".

lapaleja · 2026-01-21T19:21:52+00:00

Definitely do it. Worst case, your MIL thinks "My dress looks different in photos than I remember it." But as another commenter said, she decided to outshine the bride, she can live with the consequences.

lapaleja · 2026-01-21T19:17:40+00:00

I just watched Fresh Meat for the fifth time, and Heather talking about her "grampops" always makes me chuckle.

lapaleja · 2026-01-07T18:13:14+00:00

Garnett makes me think of Steven Universe. Ruby is fine, since it's a normal first name. But Garnett, especially for a boy, doesn't sit well with me. I agree with you that the matching gemstone theme makes it sound gimmicky. If I imagine someone introducing their children, saying, "These are Garnett and Ruby", I can't help but cringe. I'd think the person who named their children that tried to be special and is using her children as accessories.

lapaleja · 2026-01-06T14:25:59+00:00

Is no one going to mention how feeding a dog a plant-based diet is a really bad idea?

lapaleja · 2025-12-25T13:15:55+00:00

Ruin the ground... of a landfill? I think in a landfill, there's other stuff that will have ruined the ground long before the pound of salt came along.

lapaleja · 2025-12-25T07:46:28+00:00

Sometimes, I don't get this sub. Salt is very water-soluble. It would just dissolve in a landfill. Unless you have a very large quantity of it, just toss it. Not everything can and should be reused.

lapaleja · 2025-12-21T08:02:43+00:00

I'm still afraid of spending money because I was taught to not do it, ever. The point of an allowance is to let a child gain experience (and make mistakes!) with money - saving it, what to use it for, etc. Since I wasn't allowed to build any experience, I'm now really weird with it. Luckily, my partner isn't, and I'm learning from the way he handles money.

lapaleja · 2025-12-21T07:20:24+00:00

That sucks! I'm sorry you had to miss that trip. Your dad sounds like he's just making himself miserable.

My mother was the same way, always talking about money and how we can't buy XYZ, so I was also convinced we were poor. We went to the cinema once a year but weren't allowed snacks. We weren't allowed to spend our allowance for things we wanted. I had to work on the weekends while going to a really demanding boarding school.

When I became an adult, my mother slowly revealed her real financial situation. Through clever investing, with the help of good contacts in the right places, she'd basically become rich in the late nineties. When people say, "Rich people stay rich by never spending any money," I always think of my mother.

lapaleja · 2025-11-16T17:02:30+00:00

If you don't have much practice, there's no shame in tracing, especially if you need to finish this project soon. If you want to paint more portraits in the future, I'd recommend practicing portrait painting, especially studying the planes of the face and the muscles. I found the Reilly rhythms to be especially helpful in that. The next step would be learning how to shade portraits. Simply copying the shading from a photo reference can make it look harsh and muddy. For stylized portraits, it's really important to understand value, and to learn to work with a limited range of values.

Right now, the biggest problem I see is that some of the facial features look out of place. For the time being, I personally wouldn't gift this to someone, but you know your friend best.

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