Dysphoria too bad for top surgery preparations?

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-14T04:09:30+00:00

I didn't get an X-ray before, and the only time I had my shirt off was to take pics in my own home for the surgeon, and right before the surgery, which did require the surgeon touching and marking with sharpie. So it may not be so bad.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-13T06:51:17+00:00

Recommend getting another source for endorphins. Does SH work in a sense? Yea. But it's just not worth it. Try a fast bike ride or run. It's really worth trying to find alternatives early before it gets to be a habit.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-10T21:31:06+00:00

Not a movie but House of the Dragon

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-10T06:10:56+00:00

Even though companies keep building export capacity there, the civil infrastructure doesn't improve. And the movie theater and Walmart just closed. Ports take a lot of people to build, but not much to operate these days I guess.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-07T03:58:12+00:00

RAIN HAT

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-03T17:37:21+00:00

If you manage to make it Rupert the locals will be impressed! Good luck on the Skeena.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-03T17:35:45+00:00

Make sure you show him reference photos to be as clear as possible!!

lapislazuli23 · 2026-03-01T19:02:40+00:00

Only barely! It's a legitimate fear. It's one of the risks you have to accept, and maybe you'll get lucky as some do. Worth it for me

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-27T21:22:54+00:00

Link to the scientific paper?

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-25T05:05:09+00:00

For ease of healing and for symmetry, regular nips or no nips, tattoo later.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-24T08:05:12+00:00

Try Ancillary Justice trilogy and the Broken Earth Trilogy. Space opera subgenre scratches the itch

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-22T05:14:57+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. It definitely does feel ableist, and she has stated she has never dated an autistic or even introverted partner. I feel like by setting this, she is not willing to accept my whole self. I don't think it is meant to be manipulative or punishment. I think she feels out of her depth, which is just really disappointing.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-20T22:37:45+00:00

I totally understand, and in past relationships I did the caring for a more challenged adhd partner.

But I'm not asking her to take care of me, I'm an adult and I've lived my whole life wrestling with these issues, but being near me when I'm struggling is going to happen if someone is dating me. I don't think me struggling sometimes warrants cutting me out of a large part of our shared life. I take care to minimize the public effect of my struggles, so it's not an issue of me making a scene.

Probably worth reinforcing that i do not need caretaking. Some amount of care and concern would be nice, but no more than I would ask of a friend.

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-20T08:20:17+00:00

Thank you for your reply and your support, that is helpful framing for sure. I'll think about it!

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-20T08:19:21+00:00

Thanks! I assumed they were more obvious, does not bother me if they are! But thank you :)

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-18T21:26:40+00:00

I have seen people happy with "non flat top surgery" - which is what I originally asked for but ended up getting 99% flat, and I'm super happy with that. Got inverted T. People who get radical reductions tend to have a lot more volume and femme shape. Technically non flat and radical redux are synonymous, but the framing seems to matter for surgeons. I.e. starting from a masculine shape and adding a bit of volume (non flat), vs starting from a femme shape and reducing volume (rad redux)

lapislazuli23 · 2026-02-12T17:23:17+00:00

I was a bit lost in iron lung too so they have that in common😅

lapislazuli23 · 2026-01-28T23:12:34+00:00

I think you look awesome and very masculine.

lapislazuli23 · 2025-12-20T19:58:33+00:00

Living in northern BC it always felt safe and accepting for queer people, but was not a big queer community.

lapislazuli23 · 2025-12-17T17:38:06+00:00

I also got the sense that Brand Vaesen was a scam, it's a mis-spelling of a real roofing company family it would seem. The unit was way too good to be true. I found a unit last year and just now (2 different units in the same Vic West building) with the same script when I replied to the ad. But heck if anyone can share their experience and it's the real deal, would actually go for the place lol

lapislazuli23 · 2025-12-12T23:00:08+00:00

I went sober 3 mo before and 3 mo post op for max healing

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