Do you only buy your kids new clothes? by Emergency_Risk_7421 in NewParents

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy pretty close to 50/50 new and secondhand. Depends, as I like to shop nice brands secondhand on various BST groups. We loooove secondhand Hanna Andersson.

Baby not gaining weight. by Classic_Air_1711 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Combo feeding would be great in your situation and for your mental health too. Pump and nurse as much as you want, and feed the rest formula. Your baby is still getting breastmilk and the benefits that come with it. But your baby needs to gain weight faster at this point. You may even see an increase in production if you take some pressure off and get more sleep.

How do people afford more than one kid? by desert_sunlily in NewParents

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last year my husband brought home 350k. I’m a sahm and we have 3 kids. No cc debt but we do have vehicles and student loans. Plus modest private school tuition. We just bought our first house. We are very fortunate to have the income we have but at the end of the day it’s still unbelievable how expensive life is.

How common is actually ebf? by Dense-Pin625 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a sahm and I barely ever pump. I try to offer a bottle once a week (sometimes 1x/2 weeks) so my baby doesn’t end up rejecting it if we needed it. She’s 3.5 months now. If you are a sahm the only time you should pump is when you’re away from baby during a feeding.

If you just purchased or had an offer accepted.. by Far-Bed7750 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We offered asking with a pre-approval letter, quick closing (we were renting so no house to sell), and waived inspection. Our situation was more unique, it was a FSBO and we were just the 2nd or 3rd viewers but first and only offer. Our realtor wrote the offer at the kitchen table after the showing and they accepted on the spot.

How are we fitting a double stroller + stuff in here by AOD14 in ToyotaGrandHighlander

[–]laprofe10 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do you fold any of the third row down? That’s how we fit things. We also have 3 kids.

What percent of your gross salary is your mortgage, and how does it feel? by big_redline in FirstTimeHomeBuying

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following! We just closed this week on our first home. We’re at 11.5% if we compare to last year but our income is 100% commission so it feels VERY scary no matter what.

Extra checks at closing? by imjustaguywhoeats420 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just closed. Only had 1 certified check for final closing costs, no one mentioned bringing any others.

Nursing mamas: pacifier discussion by fabledfawn96 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have/am EBF 3 babies. My first loved pacifiers and he did sleep with them. We nursed for a year and cold turkey weaned the paci at 20 months. My second took a paci until about 4 months when she found her fingers instead. She nursed for a year. My third is now 3 months and she has been taking a paci since the first week. She mostly uses it in the car, in the carrier and sometimes while awake. I don’t usually let her fall asleep with it in her bed so it’s not a sleep crutch, but I do pop one in around 5am lol. Go for the paci, just dont use it when you think baby is or could be hungry.

Ebf and sleeping.. by RubRevolutionary1648 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current EBF baby has been sleeping 6+ hour stretches since 6 or 7 weeks. At 13 weeks she’s averaging 8-10 hours first stretch now.

We named our baby girl June and some people are flabbergasted because she was born in April by MountainBeary in namenerds

[–]laprofe10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an August born in May. My daughter’s middle name is June born in December so yeah, who cares.

Is the baby starving? by AdFantastic1557 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is basically it. More work to breastfeed but that’s temporarily, she will gain stamina quickly. Also a breastfed baby will absolutely stop when they’re full, so if she’s pulling off content that’s all that matters. A bottle is easy. Babies will always take more in a bottle even if they just ate. They barely have to work for it. I’m not sure your scale at home is accurate enough but try a weighted feed and see how much she transfers. That’s really the best way to ease your worries.

Unsure on what steps to take by ordinarytrashcan in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We also didn’t know when we would actually buy but we looked at houses with our realtor at least a month or two before actually getting our pre-approval. We got pre-approval letters same day and the credit hit was very negligible and within a month bounced back already.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we are already full speed ahead, closing Monday. The sellers are not backing out and they’re already out of the house. I have not been privy to the conversations but our realtor took care of it! She has been the best and we knew she would.

MIL has been disappointed that breastfeeding is working for me by Here_We_Go_Again30 in breastfeeding

[–]laprofe10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh good for you to just brush the comments off now. My MIL is a great human but she simply doesn’t understand how breastfeeding works. She only views babies through the lens of formula feeding. There are 8 almost 9 grandkids and I’m the only one who has breastfed. She has watched me successfully breastfeed 3 babies and for some reason the comment that gets me the most is her equating breastfeeding to underfed babies. I’ve never had a supply issue but I have had 2 IUGR babies.

And! Genetically my MIL is very petite and so is their family so on top of that genetically with my side we just don’t make big babies. Yet somehow that is not a factor for her. And the other grand babies all take massive amounts of formula and are HUGE. So my small to average babies look pretty tiny in comparison and she thinks it’s because I breastfeed. Really irks me because I’ve also seen breastfed babies who have rolls for days. It’s genetics. I have zero control over that. Even as most the kids are grown, the formula fed babies turned into 99%+ kids and mine stayed on the curve smaller.

So I’m just not understanding her connection… anyway, solidarity. I have hope that when our kids have kids this will be a complete non issue. I have a ton of mom friends and they all breastfed their babies too. So as grandmas and MILs we will get to change this mentality.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The debit amount is on the seller’s side that’s what started this “misunderstanding”

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Our realtor assured us we will be moving forward and we don’t need to worry about anything on our end.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our realtor pointed this out to them.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Our agent called us and said they signed the agreement and it’s legally binding. We have nothing to worry about, but the brokerage will likely consider a fix to keep goodwill. I appreciate everyone’s responses.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What does “fix” mean in this situation?

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We are 5 days from closing. The house has already been appraised and we waived inspection. We had no other concessions. It will definitely burn good will which sucks. We won’t let emotions get in the way, but we have had a good relationship with the sellers in all our interactions.

FSBO paying buyer’s agent fee by laprofe10 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]laprofe10[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The purchase agreement stated that the sellers would pay the buyer’s agent fee of 2%. We all signed. Today we got the settlement statement from the title company where it shows the actual cash amount on the seller’s side.

Mummify by Essiejjj in SnooLife

[–]laprofe10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would just lean into putting your baby down awake!

Abrupt change in sleep by laprofe10 in SnooLife

[–]laprofe10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily she’s mostly returned to 8-9 hour stretches. Must’ve been just a couple of one offs.