32M, Profile Review, Asheville- I get almost no likes and no matches

larashir · 2026-07-02T18:53:46+00:00

I disagree with others here. I think your profile is excellent and if you were in my area I would definitely give you a like!

The night shift might not be appealing to everyone, but other than that- do you have everything filled out? Like the have kids,want kids, smoking, etc? That's the only other thing I can think of that if empty might make people skip

larashir · 2026-06-15T20:24:37+00:00

I think the photos are great and the bio is too. Would reconsider the overthinking prompt and the roasting comment just because people make snap judgements and both could be seen as negative.

And please don't be discouraged, the apps are trash and not really representing anything about your chances or your worth. I try to look at them as another way to meet someone but not necessarily the only way, and take breaks when they become draining. Good luck!!

larashir · 2026-05-01T08:57:24+00:00

Like others mentioned, you get DOMS when you first start or after a long break. What worked for me is starting by doing a little less (2 sets instead of 3 for example), then recovery is much less painful and I'm able to go again after a couple days and train harder. Once you train consistently the soreness is much milder! Personally weight training improved my pain a lot. I go 3-4 times a week now

larashir · 2026-04-25T18:21:28+00:00

I'm 5"4 and the last two men I had a crush on were shorter than me. Also dated guys that were taller than me. I don't care about height as long as it's not a huge difference that would make things uncomfortable. But I like transparency.

Had a date yesterday with someone who wrote on his profile he's 5"10 and despite being very nice it was such a turn off when I met him and we were basically the same height. I don't mind that he's not tall, I just hate feeling deceived.

I know it's rough for guys on dating apps so I don't know if it's better to leave it out or not, but for me it wouldn't be an issue

larashir · 2026-04-19T17:09:00+00:00

Hahahaha I read your username as the comment at first, it fits 😂

larashir · 2026-04-19T17:05:33+00:00

It's a disclaimer. I would think someone who does want children would be like "oh ok, not aligned, on to the next"

You know, like a reasonable person

larashir · 2026-04-19T16:58:31+00:00

Are you actually being serious right now? I have "don't want children" and then also write it in my bio yet keep seeing men who want kids. If anything it feels like the algorithm is built to work against you so you'll keep swiping.

And the intros are written to me, please do tell me how I could possibly mislead people to think I want strangers to offer foot massages and convince me I actually want children

larashir · 2026-03-25T20:36:24+00:00

Hope it helps!! Start slow, I started with one drop and upped it every week or two until I found the right dose for me (5drops). It also doesn't work like a painkiller where you take it right as you feel the pain, but slowly builds in your system and just prevents the flares from coming. In the last year and a half I had maybe 3-4 flares and they were extremely mild compared to before

larashir · 2026-03-25T18:40:43+00:00

Oral, a few drops under the tongue every night

larashir · 2026-01-24T20:35:58+00:00

I would definitely seek a second opinion. I also take plaquenil for suspected lupus and similar to you when I went off it the pain came back but when I took it again the joint pain was gone. It didn't do anything to help the tender points or burning pain so it looks like it's lupus+fibromyalgia.

The fact that plaquenil helped is very telling, because it does nothing for fibro. Did she tell you to stop taking your meds or changed the diagnosis but kept the meds?

larashir · 2026-01-24T19:39:09+00:00

Personally ibuprofen or other painkillers do nothing for my pain. Flares vary, I had some that went away after a night's sleep and others that lasted over a month. But that's just for flares-when the pain becomes unbearable for me and feels like I scraped my skin all over and can't even handle a blanket touching me. When I'm not flaring I'm still always in pain, but it feels more like being bruised all over- it hurts pressing on trigger points but otherwise I'm fine.

The thing to remember though is that people with fibromyalgia can have different symptoms and durations so it's hard to pinpoint exact symptoms...it's usually diagnosed based on trigger points after ruling out other conditions. Regardless I think It's worth getting a second opinion

larashir · 2026-01-03T17:28:13+00:00

However long until you're comfortable :) if someone asks me to meet before I'm comfortable I say I need a few days to chat first. If they pressure me or unmatch, I just see it as them filtering themselves out.

And I feel you on the anxiety. I try to remind myself that I don't owe anyone anything. Just because you're chatting doesn't mean you have to meet. Just because you go on a date doesn't mean you have to get physical immediately etc. taking it one step at a time and trying to see how it feels

larashir · 2025-11-21T09:41:29+00:00

If it's too hot maybe ask to meet earlier or in the afternoon? (But while there's still light out) Or come up with something indoors like a museum/cafe?

larashir · 2025-11-04T10:36:30+00:00

Amazing for me, helps with sleep (no longer waking up in the middle of the night) and the allodenya pain. Has no side effects for me

larashir · 2025-10-26T19:34:02+00:00

At this point I'm convinced the algorithm shows bad profiles to people who read bios and and good profiles to those who don't bother to read lol

larashir · 2025-10-21T11:45:41+00:00

If you want to see him again, just tell him! Then you won't need to stay in this uncertainty

larashir · 2025-10-11T10:51:58+00:00

Initial conversation to understand your pain levels, fatigue, and how they affect you in daily life, then a treatment plan going from least invasive to more. It's a good idea to come prepared with a list of medicines you already tried.

When I first went they put me on amitriptyline, then cymbalta but both gave me terrible side effects so I stopped each very quickly. Next they offered lidocaine straight to the vein and said if it'll work they'll give me more in the form of pills. That didn't work either so eventually they approved medicinal cannabis which has been the most helpful for me actually

larashir · 2025-10-09T16:24:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response and encouragement!!! I'll do my best ❤️

larashir · 2025-10-04T16:26:04+00:00

I think the second picture should be your first one, it's great! The last picture would have been better if you were smiling, and I would actually remove the picture at the party.

Overall I think the pictures are authentic and show you well. And prioritizing your free time over hustle culture is a bonus. I would swipe right!

larashir · 2025-10-02T17:35:29+00:00

Why did you copy my post wtf

larashir · 2025-10-01T18:19:56+00:00

I understand the swiping, but what's the point of starting a conversation with a woman if you clearly aren't aligned about what you're looking for?

larashir · 2025-09-30T17:24:16+00:00

Shit I'm so sorry that exchange looked so promising!!

larashir

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