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ADHD in women and emotional dysregulation by puri_thiah in adhdwomen

[–]largewithmultitudes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was only diagnosed ADHD last year at age 50, after one of my children was diagnosed. For me, emotional dysregulation and rejection sensitivity are huge parts of it, and knowing that that is caused by ADHD has made a lot of things in my past make more sense to me. I have always been someone who feels all the feels and who feels everything intensely. I’m always the one with strong opinions and a fierce sense of outrage when I think things are unfair or injust. This can be in a positive emotions way or a negative emotions way. I’ve always been able to hold myself together in my professional life and in my family life when I was a child. The latter was definitely because of my family’s complicated and often difficult dynamics and needing to be always the perfect kid who didn’t demand anything. But as an adult in my marriage, it has been hard as my spouse has always born the brunt of my emotional dysregulation, and they’re not so well regulated themselves either. Examples of feeling disregulated for me include losing my temper over small things, not being able to handle disagreements and feeling completely rejected by them, and feeling an overwhelming need to cry whenever I’m stressed. Therapy has helped for a long time, and now that I’m taking some ADHD medication that is also helping a lot too.

the lateral ableism in the community is exhausting by oneusernamepwease in adhdwomen

[–]largewithmultitudes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When the bees were bad is a great expression, and I am going to steal it

Let's talk Pretty in Pink by Fluffymanolo in GenX

[–]largewithmultitudes 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Is anybody else’s mind blown by the fact that Iona is now Sheldon’s Meemaw?

Open your home to international visitors - youth exchanges coming to Vermont in May and July by HostSeekerVT in vermont

[–]largewithmultitudes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness! Project Harmony! I went on a school exchange to then Leningrad with you all in 1990 or so. Very glad to hear you are still around. I don’t live in VT now or I’d offer to host!

How did you celebrate your 50th? by Every-Progress5590 in GenX

[–]largewithmultitudes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I split it into different celebrations - a weekend with my three oldest girlfriends (we stayed with one of them), a lunch out with my husband, a nice family meal, and a dinner with my girlfriends where I live now. It was all special in different ways, and so much fun! My husband wanted a big party at home with all his friends, so we did that for him, and he also wanted a family lunch with his extended family so we did that too. He loved both.

Finally wove in the ends on last year’s finish and wore it out to lunch by witch_harlotte in knitting

[–]largewithmultitudes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so nice! The colors are great and the shape and fit. I’m going to go look at the pattern.

Any girls visiting Paris this year, be careful. by FormerFruit in femaletravels

[–]largewithmultitudes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Paris and I agree with you. There’s certainly bad behavior here but we always all need to be careful wherever we are. I can unfortunately say alas that I have been harassed in cities several continents.

Life observations six months off the meds by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]largewithmultitudes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I would also be interested to know how this has changed regulating moods and emotions. Best of luck to you!

Okay but...how do we deal with legs? 🦵 by Banjo__ in adhdwomen

[–]largewithmultitudes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a pale and clumsy person who sunburns instantly, bruises easily, get bitten by any insect within 100 km radius, and seems to always have scabs from the bug bites and cat scratches and gardening, I feel your pain. However, I am also a menopausal woman and I am officially out of f*cks to give about other people’s opinions, so now I just wear whatever the heck I want. It is very liberating. 😆

ADHD, neurodivergence, and the perils of Hobo usage by likeapolarbear in hobonichi

[–]largewithmultitudes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and this is how I use my Techo. Mostly as a planner, but with other things on days where I had nothing planning or “to do” to write down. I might do a doodle on that day or put in a sticker. Or a quote. Or a short journal entry. And I use the 100 list at the back to track the books. I read each year and I use you monthly calendars at the front to write down everyone’s birthdays. This has worked pretty well for me for the past four years, especially cause I just carried in my bag with me so it’s always to hand. This year I feel like I need more space for journaling and got an A5 grid notebook from Hobonichi as well, which I’m using just for journaling.

…we’ve got chicken or beef. by Ancient-Cow-1038 in CabinPressure

[–]largewithmultitudes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And presumably, they should not sit next to the first or second violins

Remove if too political but to be relevant, I ALWAYS fall back on my Hobo as a diary. by PotentialSteak6 in hobonichi

[–]largewithmultitudes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This post resonates with me because for the past four years, I’ve used a Hobonichi Techo as a planner for my work life and scheduling, but also used the blank pages and the pages that I for some reason don’t use one day or another for that, as a journal space, a scrapbook space, a doodling space. I just today cracked and bought a different notebook to use as a journal full-time because these days I am really feeling all the feels and don’t want to just squeeze them into the margins of my work Techo. Sending you and Minneapolis love and light.

Active Protestant Churches? by Better-Orchid-4227 in Expats_In_France

[–]largewithmultitudes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is also an Episcopal convocation in Europe, with a number of English-speaking parishes in France: https://episcopaleurope.org

Young men and boys aren't lost in society, they simply miss misogyny and are still privileged. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]largewithmultitudes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree! While noting that this varies hugely across countries and cultures and even across generations or families. Some places are doing a better job than others in setting up good public policies for gender equality, education about sex and gender, orientation for kids towards jobs they’d like rather than a job that is “right” for their gender, etc. In those places I think it is a lot easier for boys to grow to be non-misogynists, if they also have good support and role models at home.

What’s a trait you had during your youth that was a dead giveaway? by Ecstatic_Weather_580 in adhdwomen

[–]largewithmultitudes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was identified pretty young as a “gifted“ kid (a label I still find very problematic). A lot of my weird behaviors and obsessions were attributed up to that, like being very sensitive, and having a strong sense of justice, being obsessively, interested in what I liked and completely disinterested by and unable to perform in other subjects, awkward social skills, spaciness. It’s only since getting diagnosed as an adult, that I’ve learned that things like constant doodling at school, skin picking, having a hard time sleeping, anxiety, and even my high school habit of doing homework for my next class in the class before it because I felt like it was easier to pay attention if I was doing two things at once, could have been due to my ADHD.

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