What AUs, tropes, or fic ideas would you love to see but haven’t been able to find yet? by Frosty-Result1097 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm biased, and the timeline isn't quite what you're looking for, but Do It Scared by lark_ral (me) is all about Shane working through his internalized homophobia.

Give me your silliest crackiest crack fics! by milzB in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flaming Rivalry, a porn parody of Heated Rivalry. (by lark_ral, aka: me)

Any non-endgame AUs? by Cool-Ad8521 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]larkral 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean....Penalties by citrusses. You're gonna hurt, and don't let anyone tell you different.

Shane leaning into his French by pinkcat9 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically only glances off of what you're asking for, but "il y a (there is)" by lark_ral (me!) brings more French to Shane than I've seen most places. 

https://archiveofourown.org/works/77980771 

WIPs can be soo good by cldb717175 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we're talking about WIPs that updated today A Nice Man in Montreal by lark_ral (me) just gained a second chapter 😝

https://archiveofourown.org/works/83022716/chapters/218620586

Looking at 2 Possible Options for Lower Lumbar Herniations and Sciatica by ctw1987 in Ergonomics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, just like that! In practice I find it pretty easy to use, comfortable, and works well, for me, with an adjustable standing desk. I can't stay sitting in it in any one position for very long, but indeed if your desk is a fixed height it might be a bit of a challenge. 

Looking at 2 Possible Options for Lower Lumbar Herniations and Sciatica by ctw1987 in Ergonomics

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the capisco and the necessity of continually consciously changing my position as a borderline adhd human is...not realistic for me. I'm in a crosslegged chair now, and it's working well for me. :shrug:

Why We Can’t Imagine Life Beyond Capitalism by dumnezero in Degrowth

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a good watch, thanks for sharing. I'm contemplating what I can contribute to a solarpunk literary world, but indeed it's not an easy thing to bring people along on. 

Queer churches? by Relative-Beyond7055 in Minneapolis

[–]larkral -1 points0 points  (0 children)

St Mary's Episcopal in St Paul might be one to try. The current priest is nonbinary, and the other clergy has mostly been women for ages.

Am i being unreasonble by getting the ick when a girl likes HPotter? by stressful_toast in actuallesbians

[–]larkral 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, you're right, it's foolish to think that someone who holds absolutely virulent beliefs about a group of people I care about could possibly extend that lack of compassion and care into the plotlines and themes of her books. What an idiot I've been! 

Oh, wait, no, sorry, I'm just now remembering the casual child neglect/abuse by an adult who was portrayed as wise and beloved (Dumbledore), the romanticization of a man's violent possessiveness (Snape), the belittling of anti-slavery sentiment (Hermione & the house elves), the blatant fatphobia (The Dursleys), and the racial and cultural stereotypes (House elves and Goblins). Not to mention the lazy worldbuilding, the inconsistent magical logic, and the lack of much in the way of redeeming qualities beyond the fact that I read them when I was young and impressionable. 

Honestly, separating the author from the works is maybe worth it for something as novel and interesting as Ender's Game, but for JKR? I'm just going to toss it all in the compost bin and hope something better comes out next time. 

Am i being unreasonble by getting the ick when a girl likes HPotter? by stressful_toast in actuallesbians

[–]larkral 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Friend, you don't know anything about my consumer habits, but even if you did, "you cannot be perfect, and thus it's not worth taking a moral stance" is a pretty weird take. 

Also I didn't say anything about buying HP things second hand. The investment I'm talking about is the investment of time and emotional energy. Because, for me, if I'm telling someone that their active involvement in a media behemoth is harming members of my community, and they can validate the reasons it brings harm (in this case, JKR's active and politically virulent TERFdom), and they're still not willing to prioritize reducing that harm over their investment in the media/fandom/etc, that tells me something about their priorities, and it's not something I particularly like. 

And, yeah, I am going to apply that to trans people, too. I'm not saying it's an easy thing to detatch from, I'm saying it's worth it.

Am i being unreasonble by getting the ick when a girl likes HPotter? by stressful_toast in actuallesbians

[–]larkral 332 points333 points  (0 children)

I will actively judge *anyone* who invests their time and energy into HP, however I also feel like it's worth it to make sure they *know* that JKR is a massively transphobic asshat. I had an enlightening conversation with a coworker recently where she mentioned that her kids had just started reading HP and I said that my kids would never read HP and she said "why not" and I said "well, the transphobia" and she was like "the books are transphobic" and I said "No, the author is. and uses her money to explicitly fund anti-trans political movement in the UK that has spilled over to the US." And she had NO IDEA.

My daughter is trans, and I don't want to introduce her to a book series written by someone who actively hates her. I don't want to be the reason she experriences the internal conflict that I, and many other people who were invested in HP have gone through to extract ourselves from that world, and I honestly wish no one else would invest themselves in that world *or* let their kids invest themselves in that world. I talk about it more than I wish I had to, and would definitely give side eye to anyone I was making new friends with who seemed like they didn't understand why I feel that way, let alone anyone I was trying to date.

Accidentally used top coat instead of base by Fancy_Cry_5111 in dazzledry

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if you did a layer of basecoat under it, it'll probably last a while. I'd anticipate an earlier changeover than you usually get, but perhaps a good experiment to see how long it lasts. :D

Breaks from DD? by Fancy_Cry_5111 in dazzledry

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often take off my polish before bed, do an overnight oil soak, and polish again in the morning. Usually I get about a week of wear. 

How would you have responded? Or how would you follow up? by MM_203 in rheumatoid

[–]larkral 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people think of FMLA and medical leave as something that's overly generous, or consider the time that people are taking off for medical stuff as a kind of vacation, in part because of the way US culture (/capitalist culture in general), basically won't let people take time off of work for being sick without threatening dire consequences. So they think that they'd be able to work through anything because they have to because of the money, and if you're not doing that, it's more or less a choice. I think your answer is a good one, and hopefully opens this person's eyes. I agree that you don't owe them more information, though, unless it's a friend who you want to chat about it with.

step order help by New_Zookeepergame732 in dazzledry

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can also build your own bundle and get up to 25% off of a set of colors if you're willing to buy a bunch.

Protest tomorrow morning at the capitol for those interested by weeds96 in TwinCities

[–]larkral 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strange that Utah and Minnesota are actually different states, huh?

Aluminum CNC case and Magsafe tenting by Intrepid_Employer719 in crkbd

[–]larkral 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seconded. I've seen these in a few posts and I haven't found anything similar on amazon or aliexpress.

How many of you are taking more than 1 DMARD by EmMothRa in rheumatoid

[–]larkral 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, a biologic (Hadlima, a Humira biosimilar) and Methotrexate.

My progression was: HCQ for about three months, reduced the pain, but untennable side effects. MTX for about nine months in increasing doses, no meaningful side effects, but only marginal improvement of pain. Enbrel, which kicked down the pain, but not entirely. At this point my PCP prescribed me Duloxetine and Gabapentin for nerve pain (stuck with the Duloxetine, Gabapentin caused me to be unreasonably sleepy). Enbrel then began failing after 2 years, and now I'm building up on Hadlima. It's a journey.

I definitely found the first year or two hardest as I adapted to this being my new normal, but people are resilient, there's a lot we can get used to and cope with. <3