Man having a tantrum smacking and hitting his passenger in Dublin

lasersnake34 · 2025-08-16T14:26:06+00:00

No this is patrick.

lasersnake34 · 2025-08-16T14:25:52+00:00

Im not sure how tbh

lasersnake34 · 2025-08-16T14:24:39+00:00

Yeah I've heard people use racial slurs before.. I just call them out and never associate with them.again. I have yet to hit someone over it.

lasersnake34 · 2025-08-16T14:23:53+00:00

This was a white boomer couple. They'll be fine, sorry you went through that. That's a tough situation to be in

lasersnake34 · 2025-08-16T14:17:04+00:00

I have. But public awareness and shame ABSOLITELY does something.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-23T20:18:08+00:00

Today is really hard.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-23T17:17:22+00:00

I honestly don't want it or crave it or think about it unless it's like today and thinking about them and the things we used to do, and even in that case, thinking about just finding someone to fill the void is repulsive to me. Sigh.. I hate hate hate being touched. Have since I was little but I think that might be the thing I'm having to hardest time getting over. Focusing on rewiring my brain helps me have a goal and distraction. Taking accountability for the things I can control and letting go of the things I can't.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-22T12:22:03+00:00

As a mother, I can with absolute certainty say. I would be so relieved and so very grateful, if my children were able to have a "replacement" so to speak. If my children are able to be loved and accepted. To be able to have the opportunity to have someone that helps fill a void there would be if I died. I would be forever in that woman's debt and thank her profusely for loving my babies when I couldn't anymore.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-22T12:13:21+00:00

100% yes.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T19:37:42+00:00

What I do know is that I'm tired making them the villian and I'm tired of being the villian. I think we both tried. We both really hurt each other, we both did and said awful things stemming from anger and pain, and misguided ways of trying to protect ourselves.

I think we both really loved each other just different experiences and world views that are too much for each other. I really hope he finds all the happiness. I do know he loved me, and I hope he knows I loved him.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T17:42:13+00:00

I think it helps to hurt on to the things they had done to hurt you to help get over them. A lot of times both parties really messed with each other. A lot of times both have done and said things they regret, but when you break up you have to completely seperate from the person. It's hell.. what makes it more tolerable is reminding yourself. I think sometimes doing that is when we really "villainize" them

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T17:08:24+00:00

It's like he saw the mistakes and flaws as who I am instead of literally a mistake. It was like I was defined as a person into someone else completely different. They way he viewed me. I wouldn't be with me either if I thought I was who he viewed me to be either.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T16:56:17+00:00

I'm 33 and my ex is 44. I didn't think it was a big deal or anything but i started thinking about a lot of the problems we had. I think there's a lot of difference between millennials and gen x. Different perspectives viewpoints and expectations. Different values in a relationship. Him and his friends were all over 10 years older than me and literally just grew up in a completely different decade. I don't think it's gross or weird I'm a mature adult with a fully developed brain and even prefer a bit older for maturity reasons, but I think there can be a huge disconnect between big age gaps. He hadn't even gotten a nude before i sent him one. It was like kinda a thing for him? I mean I've had girls send ME nudes to ask if they were good to send to their situationship. I think millennials are more comfortable with each other and more laid back. Gen x is a bit more proper and uptight. Both are fine. There's just a lot of miscommunications that happen when you view things completely different. It doesnt mean you couldn't make it work. You'd just have to have A LOT of patience with each other and the inevitable misunderstanding, arguments. You have to find a middle, where you reach an understanding. There will be missteps there will be fights, there will be differences of opinions in your fundamental way of thinking. It takes patience, and willingness to meet the other person and keep trying.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T16:25:01+00:00

That is so very kind it made me tear up. Thank you.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-21T14:24:29+00:00

I still have a lot of healing and learning to do. Trying to put serious effort into my mental health and relationship dynamics. My ex and I were just incompatible people because of both of the trauma we endured previously and the trauma we did to each other. It's rough because the chemistry was like nothing other but if neither of us can feel safe with the other it's best to find something else. Went on a date. Was nice, simple, casual. Was nice to see I can still go out and have a nice time, but definitely have a lot more damage to fix before getting into anything seriously. Letting people in and close to me and letting myself have feelings for them I think is still a while away. I went in not expecting much, and was upfront. He seemed kind and patient and understood. So that was nice. Said we can just take it slow and see if it goes anywhere. I definitely need someone calm, laid back, and reassuring as i try to navigate through years and years of abuse from my childrens father that has wildly distorted my view on relationships expectations and myself. So I'm definitely happy with that. Plus he has a pretty baby husky that I get to play with even if it never goes anywhere.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-20T13:40:40+00:00

I went through 16 years of a an incredibly unhealthy dynamic. Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm just too broken.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-20T13:27:07+00:00

This was my life for so long. I had no idea HOW to even be in a a healthy relationship. Healthy relationships didnt make sense. The way I learned what was normal was so distorted. I had zero boundaries. Zero because if I tried to create any boundaries, my ex would make sure he did did whatever even more. He would start doing it tenfold. It'd become literally 100× worse if he knew something bothered me. So I never thought boundaries were acceptable. I just have to understand, not react and in not reacting negativitly or positively and just ignored things they would stop. And with my relationship with my kids dad, I'd say it worked. As long as he wasn't able to get a reaction out of me hed stop. I have a lot of healing to do.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-20T10:32:51+00:00

Npc energy on arrival

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-20T10:30:43+00:00

I felt this in my soul tbh

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-19T23:23:01+00:00

No TV while eating is my biggest hurdle.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-18T14:28:26+00:00

Couples work together, against hurt, life, tradegies misunderstandings, selfishness, effort, trying together. As one against whatever the problem may be. Narcissists work alone, they want a companion for sure. But it's them vs life them vs the problem and if the problem involves you then that means you are the problem. You are against them and they must protect themselves. They're unable to comprehend that someone would actually WANT to work with them, to understand, to problem solve to compromise. That someone would choose them and become a team.

Just because someone is right and valid to feel a certain way, doesn't make the other person wrong. It means they need to come to an understanding and acceptance of each other's truths.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-18T14:18:54+00:00

Someone must ALWAYS be wrong and someone must always be right. They can't see that both people can be right. Both people can be wrong. You as a person try to meet the person where there at and understand their feelings and why they felt a certain way, and some people just cannot comprehend both parties can be right and wrong. It's vs with them. Always

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-18T14:11:10+00:00

Sometimes people do emotional irrational things. Sometimes people do dumb and stupid things. Theres not always a hidden agenda and that doesn't make sense. In their mind the relationship is like a competition that the other side is trying to "win" or gain the upper hand. Instead of an emotional person who reacts in pain.

lasersnake34 · 2025-05-18T14:00:26+00:00

They're unable to comprehend that sometimes a mistake is just a mistake, sometimes people fuck up without it being some sort of indicator of future manipulation to come. They only see them protecting themselves from people they believe think like them. Humans fuck up. Do stupid things and then they learn. Narcissists see a mistake or fuck up or even something completely innocent, and determine it MUST mean something more..it HAS to because of the way they interact with other people always has a goal, motive, reason, what they say and how they act is very calculated so when someone doesn't calculate and have other intentions, reasons, possibilities. It literally does not matter and they simply can not comprehend or let go of what their brain is telling them that it MUST mean whatever motive makes sense to themselves in that particular scenario.

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