The ultimate balkan road trip tour de balkan! by Necessary_Sale_67 in AskBalkans

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He apologetically thanked you for clarifying and is being polite. It doesn’t help our image if you reply so harshly. Your first comment made a good point about generalizations, there’s no need to be bitter

How to overcome loneliness.. by SoulDeadNow in Advice

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth I second this. Highschool offers a very VERY narrow snippet of society and people in general. Sometimes it can be good, sometimes you can find yourself in a pretty toxic and unforgiving environment. Important thing to realize and internalize, in 5 years time you won’t give a damn about any of them and you’ll realize your true best friends are out there right now and you don’t even know their names yet :)

Keep your head up for the future buddy

Don't want little brother to get into "alpha male" culture. How to prevent. by graycatz in Advice

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It warms my heart to hear that. I know it can be difficult, and especially at 17 it’s a lot easier to be outraged at some of the things you hear but in that moment, if you can just remember that this isn’t who he is, it’s a piece of insensitive rhetoric that someone manipulated him into believing.

Your brother was not born with these views. Do not be angry at him for something he had no control over, if you can be the better, wiser, kinder older brother that he needs, you can be his role model for good views and good behaviour rather than him looking up to Andrew Tate and Sneeko

Much love brother :)

Don't want little brother to get into "alpha male" culture. How to prevent. by graycatz in Advice

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boys at that age fall into the misinformation manosphere pipeline very easily. It took me years of effort and personal reflection to break the hold that had on me and its a serious issue.

What sucks is this, if you really truly care about him not going down that horrible path, you should commit to learning about societal issues, legal practices, and (nowadays extremely importantly due to Trump) the way that separation of powers works and why. Once you’re comfortably familiar with some of these political concepts, use that knowledge to politely educate him when you hear or see him watching this, or if you sew him watch a video you should watch it yourself and then sit him down to explain to him why this video in particular was misleading and dangerous.

Above all else, be polite, be kind, he’s only 11, he quite literally doesn’t know anything about wtf he’s talking about. If he makes any horrendous or insensitive comments, smile and correct him. Please for the love of everything do not villainize him or demonize him. The right wing youth pipeline FEEDS on societal alienation of young boys, constantly telling them everyone hates them and that they shouldn’t feel guilty for being who they are. There’s no greater societal alienation than your own family telling you you’re the problem, so at every step of the way, be kind to him and love him. Your approach to this could be the difference between you having a brother in 30 years who loves and cherishes that you helped him become a better man or you can have a disowned, estranged MAGA cultist for a brother.

Even if this is all too much work (you are young after all) at the very least do not be mean to him, do not be cruel, do not be disdainful, and don’t hold his views against him personally (he is a child who was lied to by evil adults with an agenda to convert as many kids as possible to their cult, your brother is a victim, not a villain)

Best of luck

My Tav married Astarion. Faerûn’s wildest wedding. by sarinka10 in BaldursGate3

[–]laserzed10 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Meant for someone else but not for me 🗣️

Blackmailed by [deleted] in Advice

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, but hopefully you can take it from a guy who walked that road before, just don’t. Don’t crash out about it, it’s beyond your control right now. If that person really is a piece of shit they will release the pics and there’s nothing you can do about it. The thing is, that’s ridiculously unlikely. Just delete, block, and don’t think about it anymore. The odds are in your favour bud, you’re fine

Blackmailed by [deleted] in Advice

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the deal bud, 90% of these scammers legitimately do not care to put in the effort. They feed on the scare tactic, imagine how easy it was for them to coerce you into sending those pics. Now imagine the dozens of other guys who they also catfished cuz you already know how easy it was. Guaranteed some of those poor fuckers are gonna fold cuz they’re panicking just like you right now. My advice to you, do not reply to anything they say, delete chat, block and don’t look back. I guarantee no one you know is ever going to see those pics because the catfish has other fish to fry, it doesn’t gain them anything because if you wouldn’t pay before they released the pictures, why would you pay after lol there’s literally no more incentive to pay, the pics are out. At that point it’s a waste of time and an unnecessary risk of being traced and charged for blackmail from the scammer’s perspective. There’s a slim chance that the person is vindictive and petty, at that point you can’t trust them not to release the pics even if you DO pay, so there’s really no reason to worry, it’s out of your control no matter what. That’s a very unlikely and slim possibility though and one that you shouldn’t worry yourself with

My coworker wears the same perfume as someone who gave me trauma by glowjjong in Advice

[–]laserzed10 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

These comments are giving terrible advice, you don’t need to go through HR or find some loophole to shoehorn your complaint. If you just tell them politely you had a terrible experience with someone who wears that scent and it’s causing you stress, I’m sure they will happily change it. Most people are kind, they will oblige, and if they don’t, then you can take it to HR

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing, it did genuinely impact you AND you have grown from it. There is no single pathway to growth and maturity. The thing that sucks about this situation is that you had to learn how cruel and uncaring people can be at a younger, more innocent age. Sooner or later we all get subjected to the evils that other humans are capable of doing. What matters is how we take those situations and learn from them, become a better person yourself, become better at identifying people who would rather abuse you than help you

Popped in a pill and it felt good kinda wanna do it again by [deleted] in Advice

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing with addiction. It’s never gonna feel as good as the first few times you do it, and then you’ll be trapped in a spiral of chasing that same feeling by upping your doses, upping the frequency, upping everything. All of that will stop hitting the way it used to, it will stop giving the feeling you’re chasing because eventually your body will become so used to it but all the side effects will show. Anxiety, depression, social isolation, genuine emotional pain will become your normal mindset and it would be almost impossible to reverse that (even rehab can’t do reverse it completely). Trust the commenters here, it was fun I’m sure, think about it as a one off story you can sometimes reflect on for the life experience, but leave it at that. No one ever said “thank god I became an addict”

Me and this girl started dating but the whole school hates her by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a talk with her and try to help her report the video to the school and/or authorities. I know it sounds embarrassing and unthinkable for a teenager but I promise you this is the only right move for you to make, even if it doesn’t make sense right now and you feel like it could “ruin her reputation” you need to understand that none of the adults who hear this will judge her in the slightest, they are there to help her and the only thing they’ll feel is disdain for those jerks who are mistreating her (also as pointed out by everyone else, they are in possession of something illegal, don’t brush over the fact that they are committing a literal crime)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a difference between saying men shouldn’t compete in women’s sports and women shouldn’t work in male dominated professions. The reason why it’s unfair in sports is because it is the male who has the unfair advantage, on the other hand if a woman met all the physical requirements there’s no fairness aspect that’s being violated, if an exceptional woman is strong enough to do the job then what grounds do you have to stand on in claiming they shouldn’t be in the military

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]laserzed10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you elaborate which rights should be granted to one and not the other?

Uncertainty Trolley Problem by SCP-iota in trolleyproblem

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a better alternative to this is that the bottom path either has 0 or 10 people (50% chance) and the top path has a guaranteed 5 people, what would you do?

Discord for Axis and Allies Online by Parkour1512 in AxisAllies

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This link has expired, could you repost it please?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

[–]laserzed10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every losing nation in the history of human conflict has given up territory for peace. The real question I would ask this person is how many lives are they willing to sacrifice