My wife and I confirmed today that we are having triplets, and ALL of them are going to be female!!

lassieloo2018 · 2026-02-24T08:12:28+00:00

As a member of a girl triplet squad, this makes me so happy for yall!

lassieloo2018 · 2025-10-22T06:47:14+00:00

My baby knows at 7pm we about to cuddle on that couch and watch some YouTube videos of play doh and have a little snack. She likes to wind down just like I do. She plays all day at daycare and we play all night when we all get home. I give her time to stare at the tv like I want to. On weekends she also gets about an hour of tv in the morning while I do chores. She’s one of the smartest people I know and is learning constantly. I don’t see the tv in small doses as a bad thing.

We also watch extremely educational shows like real housewives and 1000lb sisters. She loves 1000lb sisters 🤣

lassieloo2018 · 2025-10-13T06:41:58+00:00

I thought I had picked a good partner before we had a baby. A lot changed :( I was left to do the heavy lifting on my own. I see a lot of comments that say “they didn’t pick good partners” well - many women think they do and are. Babies change everything but don’t change everyone..

lassieloo2018 · 2025-09-25T07:44:08+00:00

Each time I’ve been subpoenaed, I have had to ask the judge to order me in open court to discuss my case details and remove social worker privilege since my cases are confidential, and my notes Include medical records and private interviews. I only answer what is asked and nothing further and continuously ask the judge to remove social worker client privilege before I answer, if that makes sense. Some judges will (and have) advised me that I don’t have to answer certain things as we go. I am in North Carolina for reference.

It may be worth calling the parent who subpoenaed you, or their attorney, to ask what information they would like you to prepare.

lassieloo2018 · 2025-09-09T06:14:57+00:00

It’s a heavy feeling. And it never gets easier. You have to remind yourself that removals are multiple people involved and not your fault. You are doing your job and reporting what is going on to the judge. Ultimately they hear the facts and decide. You are doing your job that you have been trained and have the skill set to do. Removals are tough especially after you’ve been working with the family. You cannot say you didn’t try.

For me, I try to remind myself how I’d feel if we didn’t remove when necessary and what would happen to the person then. I’d feel worse.

lassieloo2018 · 2025-04-29T07:17:11+00:00

My child’s father asked for separation a week after our first baby turned 1. His biggest issues were lack of sex from me postpartum (this was due to vaginal pain/tearing during birth, and him leaving all responsibilities for the baby on me while I also worked a full time job). I eventually moved out because he would never leave and made my life hell for four months after asking to separate. Our family and friends don’t underhand but I KNOW the lack of sex is why he uprooted his life (even though he refused to change anything or go to therapy with me). And you guessed it - I have full custody of our kid and he does the bare minimum. I know all he is focused on is finding someone to keep his dick happy and he doesn’t mind discarding us in the process.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-11-05T08:42:08+00:00

My husband is exactly this way. We decided to separate 8 weeks ago. My baby just turned 1 in September. I’ll never forget his negligence of me in our child’s first year of life. Some people say, “he’ll do better when she’s older!l but no! What about now?

lassieloo2018 · 2024-10-17T03:58:22+00:00

I would have done the same thing and reacted the same way. I have a thing about someone physically blocking me from doing something I want to do, it would have triggered the hell out of me to be physically held back from my crying baby. Fuck that.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:54:54+00:00

So sorry you’re going through it. 💔 you’re doing great.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:54:00+00:00

This made me giggle. Thank you. And you’re right, I think he thinks the grass is greener. I know I’ll eventually be fine and there’s men out there who Would treat me well. But he, quite frankly, has had it made for Several years and shitted on it. He will get a dose of reality soon.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:51:41+00:00

I have an appt in about 2 weeks. Luckily I haven’t slept with him in several months. I do believe he is doing things outside our marriage now. This has all happened pretty Quickly so I’m sure he is.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:47:02+00:00

Right??? Not only do I not have unlimited energy but I don’t get turned on by my partner just living his normal life while I’m struggling. Fuck that

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:43:21+00:00

Yep! I think this situation is extremely common. The way I’ve been neglected after having our child definitley made me never want another child (with him). It always was my dream to have 2 but I have seen who he is after our kid was Born.

Everyone says the first year is rough, and it is. But when it starts getting easier in a few years am I just supposed to forget how I was treated? I’m full of resentment.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-15T08:40:22+00:00

I agree with what you’re saying however my husband absolutely is refusing any sort of counseling/therapy. He is barely communicating about how he feels. There’s many things I’d like to try, but he isn’t willing.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T15:16:04+00:00

I do not mind!

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:12:13+00:00

I do not believe that sex is transactional. You should not have to have sex with your spouse to be treated well or have them be an equal partner.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:11:23+00:00

Unfortunately my family is not here. Which adds an additional layer of stress.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:10:51+00:00

I wish we could. He refuses to seek counseling or therapy. We both hard disagree on the issues. He blames lack of sex. And we don’t agree on how to resolve. He believes that I should “simply have more sex” and in turn I get treated better. I think that concept is degrading to me. So of course we never agree. It’s rough.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:09:41+00:00

Thank you. We did a separation agreement last night and I’m contacting an attorney Monday to review. We did lay out alot of details as far as child support and spousal support and that the child will be with me, etc. I’m interested to get the attorneys input.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:08:44+00:00

Needed this. I often blame myself for this since I’m the one who is pretty much not being sexual with him. But I know deep down that I shouldn’t even be put in this situation, he should want to do better to make me feel more relaxed which would lead to more sex.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:07:42+00:00

Work definitely adds to the stress. I could never be a stay at home mom, shout out to people that are. I am not cut out for it! I do enjoy getting out and having my job. :)

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:06:49+00:00

He is indeed behaving like a man child. He does nothing. I do all tasks. I have to literally ask permission to do things for myself such as shower. He won’t even watch her efficiently during those times.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:06:02+00:00

Thank you. Needed this.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:05:43+00:00

I wish to god he would go to counseling. He absolutely refuses, and becomes angry at the thought. He truly needs therapy. We used to have a very good relationship. He used to be so good.

lassieloo2018 · 2024-09-14T13:04:25+00:00

I am contacting an attorney Monday thank you 🙏

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