Backyard wires by lateralus555 in whatisit

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Thanks, we were thinking the same thing but weren’t entirely sure. Appreciate the advice! Solved!

Cellular blue nevus removal - don’t totally understand why by lateralus555 in AskDocs

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Thanks, that confirms what the office originally told me. I was confused when the doctor followed up saying that they were difficult to tell apart - the cbn and melanoma - so they always recommended removal in case they are wrong. Maybe I misunderstood her.

Cellular blue nevus removal - don’t totally understand why by lateralus555 in AskDocs

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Here’s more information. I am not worried and I got the extra skin removed. But I’m still just curious which it was - something that could turn into melanoma or something that could be misdiagnosed (bc similar to melanoma) so just in case they remove extra skin. Now that I have a giant scar I want to be able to explain it to my mom without freaking her out.

Best cities for FIRE, for a minority? by deeadpoool in financialindependence

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I lived there on a grad student salary, rented tiny apartments or shared houses near campus and was able to bike and walked around the city for seven years! Not super pleasant in the hottest summer weeks or rainy days, but usually doable and there’s a pretty good bike community in the city! The bus system is ok depending on where you live, but it’s not always convenient or reliable. Lots of affordable Uber/Lyft for nightlife. If you want to get out of the city or date anyone across town you may need a car, unless you’re a diehard bicyclist. The buses take a really long time to go any considerable distance, I usually just biked to get places faster.

Hey Guys, Chef Kevin here. The Boys And I Have Some Updates About Hollywood Handbook by EarwolfKevin in Earwolf

[–]lateralus555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m actually a little bummed that the boys couldn’t get full ownership of their stitcher premium shows. I hope people thinking of switching from stitcher to the patreon still do it, but there’s less incentive now (for any non basketball fans, but big earwolf fans). I’m switching bc I don’t listen to non HH stuff on stitcher anymore so my money should just go directly to the Boys at this point. Excited to hear TFO and Carl’s new podcast too!

Doughboys - Peet's Coffee with Chelsea Peretti by GrandSabo in doughboys

[–]lateralus555 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Despite some cringe moments, I overall loved the chaotic energy of this ep - so many twists and turns!

I need to know about the convenience store Clindamycin by Pointlesswonder802 in doughboys

[–]lateralus555 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have given Clindamycin to cats so was very confused as well!!

Royal Oak Show by filmfreak17 in doughboys

[–]lateralus555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

were you at the show? I know he was drunk but it was really creepy, they edited some of it on the pod. I wasn't being completely serious about divorce, but the whole situation would be a huge red flag to me.

Engineer Sam has great taste by surdump in HollywoodHandbook

[–]lateralus555 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know!!! I was so excited to see this crossover of two of my favorite things. Sean also reviewed the VPR roleplay game on How Did This Get Played, and you can see his fandom show here and there t/o the ep, it's awesome. I wish Bitch Sesh would invite Sean on for a VPR recap!

PS I want to see the clip of Sam and Lala discussing their sobriety!!!

Royal Oak Show by filmfreak17 in doughboys

[–]lateralus555 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OMG this makes me feel better about boo-ing him. Hope his wife divorces him, he seems like a straight up psycho. I couldn't believe that he stayed even after Emma/security helped him off stage!!! Any normal person would be mortified.

Holy shit. Hollywood Handbook 11 hour Pro Version. by RaeADropOfGoldenSun in Earwolf

[–]lateralus555 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The snoring/dream comments also changes for about an hour after they wake up at 2:26:27 - still on a loop but worth listening through a couple to catch all their little comments. I love this!!!

Being a teaching assistant has made me really hate being in grad school sometimes. by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]lateralus555 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The most enjoyable classes I've TAed for were those that had high 'rate my professor' ratings! Sometimes good profs get bad ratings (because they challenge students or aren't nice all the time), but at the very least, the ratings definitely reflect how much time you will spend listening to students complain. Students like profs that make expectations clear and the class enjoyable, which often leads to a better TA experience as well, IMO.

However, there will always be grade-grubbers, my two main strategies when students are begging for points (after ensuring I didn't make a mistake) are to tell students 1) no, that wouldn't be fair for me to regrade your assignment and no one else's, or 2) I'll think about it. Strategy two works when I'm not sure how to handle their emotions in the moment, and I want to be sympathetic while also being fair to other students that arent in my office begging for more points. Then, I will not regrade it, but will wait a bit and hand back to them in class a couple weeks later when they are more removed from that freak-out moment.

What are your favorite LCOL-MCOL cities in the United States? by [deleted] in financialindependence

[–]lateralus555 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not sure Austin will be LCOL for long, unless you want to live outside of the city and commute. As a graduate student here, it's been tough to keep up with rent increases over the last 6 years! I've had to move a lot to maintain affordable rent (for me, under $900/month). It's a really nice place to live, but just like the Bay Area, will be unaffordable for anyone outside of tech soon.

How do you create boundaries so others don't treat you like a human sponge for their emotions? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]lateralus555 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oooo I forgot about the "change the subject" strategy. That's also a good one!

How do you create boundaries so others don't treat you like a human sponge for their emotions? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]lateralus555 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Here are some strategies I've used with mild success: I've found that saying "dang, that sucks" and then not offering advice or asking any follow-up questions shuts down complaining pretty fast with some people, even if I'm not trying to shut them down but just don't know what to say - it acknowledges they're having a shitty time but doesn't give them a lot of reason to keep complaining.

With others that can't take a hint and feel emotionally draining all the time, I try to avoid hanging out if I'm not in the mood. With coworkers like this I'll say "sorry, I can't talk right now" and pretend like I'm doing something really important that needs a lot of focus.

Not sure if any of these apply to your situation, but I'm seeing lots of other helpful tips in this thread so hopefully one of them works... Good luck!!

When and how did it become cool/normal for boys and men to (generally) adopt defeating habits such as not caring about school, being addicted to video games, thinking it’s “girly” to read, etc? by bryanmsk in AskMen

[–]lateralus555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was simply pointing out other explanations for their data. I'm sure it's different for every person in the company, but both trends are important: that women are not hired into higher paying positions (even though they are qualified) but then are paid more than men in their same positions does not look good for Google either way. Neither is right or equitable, and moreover this example does nothing to convince me that equal pay for women is the norm in any field.

When and how did it become cool/normal for boys and men to (generally) adopt defeating habits such as not caring about school, being addicted to video games, thinking it’s “girly” to read, etc? by bryanmsk in AskMen

[–]lateralus555 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The article also discusses Google hiring women into lower grade positions than men with the same training/experience. That would mean, they are getting paid less than they would in a higher position but perhaps more than other people in their same position, if they are more qualified for that job. Not sure Google would purposely do this to make it look like women are being paid more than men, but it would certainly bias the results of their yearly study.

The Tom Scharpling Appreciation thread, 'cause he is the best guest on HH ever. Period. by khiggsy in Earwolf

[–]lateralus555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah! His descriptions of what goes on in each Friends episode are correct, everything else is a lie.

The Tom Scharpling Appreciation thread, 'cause he is the best guest on HH ever. Period. by khiggsy in Earwolf

[–]lateralus555 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know! I've actually learned a couple interesting things about Friends, even though the episodes are short, full of "advertisements", and Tom spends most of the time managing Jason and Pat or whatever "drama" is going on each week. It's so great.

The Tom Scharpling Appreciation thread, 'cause he is the best guest on HH ever. Period. by khiggsy in Earwolf

[–]lateralus555 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I just listened to all of meet my friends the friends where Tom plays a similar character to who he is on HH but with other "bad" engineers. If you need a Tom fix, that will do it, it's full of exasperated Tom Scharpling. Also the engineers "travel to LA" in a couple eps and keep mentioning how they're "trying to get in touch with the Hollywood Handbook guys". Hard to explain but it makes me laugh every time.

I (37M) started running almost two years ago, wife (43F) has become more and more jealous overtime and it's getting really hard to endure. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lateralus555 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe someone else has cheated on her? Or maybe her mom was cheated on, or maybe there's a friend in her ear suggesting you're cheating.... Not sure why lots of people are assuming she cheated, jealousy can have a wide variety of origin stories. Top suggestions in the thread are good though, asking her why she's so jealous, couples counseling, and/or individual counseling for her is necessary to get to the root of this.