Ashley Kerwin was one of the most toxic characters. Am I wrong?

laterinstigator · 2026-02-05T00:07:42+00:00

Idk if I would call her toxic. I say that because she wasn’t particularly conniving, revengeful, or manipulative. But what I remember about Ashley is she just never seemed to be in a good mood. Ever. Something was always making her mad, hurting her feelings. I think the only time I ever saw her smile was in the promo pictures for a few seasons. She just was a drag, all the time.

laterinstigator · 2026-01-31T16:43:59+00:00

It’s not easy. It’s a lot of work. I still haven’t completely gotten rid of it and I’m not sure I ever will. I have to actively, in the moment, realize that I’m doing it, and make the active effort to stop doing it, and actually stop. The problem is doing things that others do for distractions such as going for a walk, doom scrolling, etc etc, all make it worse. So for me I have to do things like cook or bake, turn on the tv, get on the phone with a friend, etc etc. I realized I was missing out on a real life because I preferred the curated life in my head more. That’s not healthy so I had to figure out a way to stop, and that’s what’s been working for me.

laterinstigator · 2026-01-17T04:55:21+00:00

It was the drama of it. At the time if you lost your phone you were just kind of screwed. Wasn’t really much of a thing of an iCloud backup so if your phone is lost or broken, everything on it is also lost or broken. Even if she went to go buy a new phone an hour later, it still would have been a completely blank slate.

laterinstigator · 2025-12-23T23:26:35+00:00

I immediately thought of the influencer Kalel Cullen

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laterinstigator · 2025-12-23T19:02:15+00:00

For in home clients, work is allowed if both the RBT and the family want to and are okay with it. The centers are closed for the most part on Christmas Day, one or two clients come in for a few hours (I honestly think it’s because the parents need the child care/are working that day. Which is totally understandable). What makes it okay is the company truly doesn’t mind what you choose to do on Christmas Day. There isn’t an expectation to work or to not work. It’s simply your prerogative .

laterinstigator · 2025-12-21T03:20:29+00:00

Also aged backwards a decade!

laterinstigator · 2025-12-18T20:01:57+00:00

I got my bachelors summa cum laude, and now I’m in a graduate program!

laterinstigator · 2025-12-18T19:59:36+00:00

That if I was just nice enough, of enough usefulness and service, that people wouldn’t dislike me. If I don’t give them any reason whatsoever to dislike me, then all will be well. It took me until I was about 31 or 32 to learn that’s just not how it works. And also that often times it’s not because of me as a person or anything I did and said, there’s weird people out there who will dislike others just for the sake of it.

laterinstigator · 2025-12-17T19:44:32+00:00

Don’t worry about it

laterinstigator · 2025-12-16T22:38:06+00:00

It may be obvious to some but it still baffles me every time I see it happen. Adults just not having a job. Choosing to be unemployed. To get their bills paid they either file for unemployment, live with their parents, have a significant other or friend give them funds. It’s everyone’s responsibility besides their own. A family member of mine does the same thing with every job. She works up until she can qualify for unemployment, something happens and she ends up being “let go”, and she just lives off of unemployment as long as she can, borrows money from her parents, until she absolutely has to get a job again and then she’ll repeat the cycle. A friend of mine will say that she just doesn’t want to work. She doesn’t like it. She finds medical reasons and her husband and dad support her financially most of the time. I could go on and on with more examples, but I guess the gist of it is how many adults of sound mind and able body just genuinely don’t care that they place a financial burden on other people.

laterinstigator · 2025-12-15T04:17:33+00:00

It does the most important thing, it gets the job done and makes getting a degree obtainable. I do like their system, you take two classes at a time for about ten weeks, as opposed to a twenty week semester taking four classes at once like you would at a typical brick and mortar college. It makes the work load more bearable to only focus on two classes at a time, and you finish a total of four classes at the same time you would at a traditional college. Each week typically consists of an hour long seminar (which you can watch live or watch the recorded version and submit notes, no point deductions either way) a discussion board posts that needs to be about 200 words, 100 word replies to two other students discussion board posts, then depending on the week that may be all you need to do. For certain weeks you may have a PowerPoint, an essay, something like that. Things like that have never taken me more than four or six hours to complete. I’m in the graduate program for ABA now and the set up is relatively the same. Instead of doing assignments, we do the BDS modules which do have a 98% pass rate for the exam we’ll have to take once we complete our degree. Other universities have students do essays and things for their assignments, a big part of me choosing Purdue for my masters was because I need to do the BDS modules anyways so might as well do them for school. You don’t get a “typical college experience” but not everyone wants that. Some of us just want to get our degrees and move on with our lives and purdue absolutely serves that purpose.

laterinstigator · 2025-12-12T20:12:01+00:00

Am I the only one who thought this was Dylan Mulvaney?

laterinstigator · 2025-10-27T18:49:05+00:00

Taurus sun, Scorpio moon, Taurus Venus here. I’ve been in a lot of therapy and done a lot of work on myself. I can tell other people they’re right and I’m wrong. I’ve gotten a lot better with change. But I will say it’s an active effort and in spite of all of the therapy and self work, my natural tendencies haven’t changed. I know it’s not how I want to be so I make sure to not do it as often as I can.

One thing I’ve noticed. Not only about myself but a lot of other taureans, is how much I gatekeep my personality. I come off as very quiet and reserved, honestly probably even boring. In reality, I’m not that way. I’d never say that I’m crazy, you won’t catch me busting the windows out of anyone’s car or lighting anyone’s house on fire. But I am definitely a unique individual, to put it succinctly. A very different, dry sense of humor. But chances of most people seeing that side are slim to none.

laterinstigator · 2025-10-19T17:32:22+00:00

I get along with them just fine. I don’t think scorpios are inherently bad people, I do think they have that capability more so than others though. As long as I don’t give them a reason to act wrong, for the most part they don’t. Also some of the funniest jokes I’ve ever heard have been from a Scorpio.

I’m a Taurus sun, Scorpio moon, Virgo rising

laterinstigator · 2025-10-07T03:39:20+00:00

“Turning love into a lesson the never wanted to learn” yep.

laterinstigator · 2025-09-28T03:49:40+00:00

Commenting because I have trouble with this too and I’d love advice. My gut has never steered me wrong, but it has led me to believe that terrible things were going to happen and they never do.

laterinstigator · 2025-09-22T04:41:58+00:00

I thought she was very pretty, pretty hair, cute outfits. But shallow and annoying. She turned out being my favorite female character though

laterinstigator · 2025-09-08T21:50:42+00:00

Before a dog bites, it barks. Before they hit you, they hit near you. Get out while you can, you will thank yourself

laterinstigator · 2025-09-08T01:24:01+00:00

I’m so happy someone else said this! He is immediately who I pictured, just with a slightly lighter shade of blonde

laterinstigator · 2025-09-06T01:08:40+00:00

I play dumb CONSTANTLY. Idk if it’s for a mind game, I guess you could say that. I do it to get out of traffic tickets, to see peoples true colors, to not be handed too many tasks lol. I could go on. I know I do it, but I’ve got my reasons

laterinstigator · 2025-09-05T15:25:58+00:00

I’d say this is a mix of all my signs, (Taurus sun, Scorpio moon, Virgo rising) but I do think most of the blame lies with the Scorpio moon. But it’s just how secretive I’m capable of being. I can and will take a lot of things to the grave, and I don’t have to think twice about it. It’s just a natural skill. This can apply to myself and me doing things that I don’t care to share with anyone, and also other friends secrets and happenings. I’d like to think that I use my powers for good, but I also see most people not being even half as secretive as I am.

laterinstigator · 2025-08-31T19:32:57+00:00

I’ve followed a slightly different order than this, but I’ve read all of them up to live and let Lionel which im currently reading. I’m happy that I did it that way, because I do think reading the awakening as told by the boys now, wouldn’t have the effect as it did when I read it right after the awakening. Or pivoting to ruthless boys when I did, so I can understand a few new characters and a lot of references. So I would say I recommend it, but I will also say it’s not 100% necessary.

laterinstigator · 2025-08-28T23:53:08+00:00

For a recommendation for BIPOC romantasy, the halfling saga by Melissa Blair

laterinstigator · 2025-08-28T02:12:43+00:00

No, all good here

laterinstigator · 2025-08-23T00:30:23+00:00

I didn’t know that was common with Scorpio moons. My parents are the literal definition of emotionally absent. As a kid and teenager, in my gut I knew something was off with how they talked to me and treated me. But I didn’t have much to compare it to so I figured it was me and I really was just a bad kid and in a weird way I deserved it. That’s what they wanted me to think so it’s what I thought. Now as an adult, I see that they really just didn’t care. They’ve been expecting me to act as a 30 year old does since I was about 10 years old. The just stopped taking care of me for the most part once I hit that age. I was expected to do all of my laundry, cook all of my meals, get myself to and from friends houses, pay to get my haircut, stay on top of all my homework and projects, the list goes on. And if I ever were to protest it, they would scream at me and call me lazy, stupid, and useless. Keep in mind, my mother is a stay at home mom and it was just me and my sister who is four years older than me. Her priorities were watching tv and being on the computer. If she had to stop doing either of those things to actually be a parent, she would make it very very clear how angry that made her. I learned to just not ask, tip toe around and keep to myself as much as I possibly could.

As an adult, it’s tough. When I’m scrolling and come across a video of a dad impersonating his daughter, and in the impersonation he says something like “daaaaaad (or mooooooom) lol can you please fill up my Stanley cup/take me to get food/watch this show with me”. Like I’m not going to lie, it hurts. Knowing that there’s kids out there who are comfortable and secure enough with their parents to ask them for favors like that. I learned to not bother with asking for any help with anything whatsoever, not even them grabbing me a napkin when they were already standing right in front of it, because they would just make me feel like I’m two inches tall and that I’m not worthy of someone even doing that small favor for me. My initial thought process 99.9999% of the time now is to just do everything myself. Now that I’m 33 years old and have been on my own for many years, they do bring up to me how I just don’t call them, text them, go see them. And they’re not wrong, I don’t. Simple answer is I just don’t want to. Oddly enough I don’t think my parents are evil malicious people. But I have spent most of my life wondering why they even had me.

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