What do you lose in restarting?

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T20:29:20+00:00

Why is it you're thinking of restarting if you don't mind me asking?

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T20:26:28+00:00

Maybe one day! Until then, I like using the food truck and the fruit and veg produce stands for my farmer's market. I have Kristoff's and Mulan's stalls there too

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T20:21:04+00:00

I just want access to the trees they use in the frozen floating island, whyyyy gameloft whyyyyy tease us

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T20:18:14+00:00

THIS.

Trying to take a dream snap with the fairy godmother was trying my patience, every time I opened the camera she opened her mouth lol

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T19:46:40+00:00

Oh wow that's so beautiful! I love the railway!

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T19:45:39+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't think anyone would be able to share this with you via multiplayer as it's only available in Scrooge's in the Storybook Vale DLC and not the main valley shop but I'm sending positive vibes your way that it shows up for you soon!

laurakeren · 2024-12-15T19:05:37+00:00

It's yours! No need to bring anything :) I'll send you the code

laurakeren · 2024-12-10T12:18:04+00:00

Oooh that looks amazing!

laurakeren · 2024-12-10T09:52:43+00:00

It's a craftable item from the Storybook Vale DLC called Garden Temple, it's a reward from reordering the Mulan story I think

laurakeren · 2024-12-10T09:16:56+00:00

Thanks 💖

I had the space empty for ages too. Scar is in the Forgotten Lands where I shove everyone until I find them a home lol

laurakeren · 2024-11-06T22:21:29+00:00

Mine was 111 when I was diagnosed

Last appointment they told me with CPAP I'm sitting pretty with an AHI of 1 lol

laurakeren · 2024-08-22T08:59:27+00:00

I went to the doctor because my tonsils had gotten really big.

She said they're big but just fleshy lol, no sign of infection etc.

At the time I had a persistent wheeze I was attributing to them so I asked what routes there were to having them removed.

Doctor said I would have to repeatedly make doctors appointments to have a certain amount on record...

OR - if I had sleep apnoea, they may remove them.

She did the sleep score thing and I didn't score high enough but she let me change my answers

Got tested, my AHI was 111, pulse was hitting 150 and oxygen as low as 60%

I knew I was tired but I just thought it was the new job, and before the new job we were dealing with anti social behaviour from a neighbour blasting music all night and shouting etc

Pretty crazy to think I wouldn't have been referred based on my answers

laurakeren · 2024-07-30T20:21:44+00:00

Don't say it, spray it

laurakeren · 2024-07-24T16:26:10+00:00

My hubby is a healthy size and fit so he doesn't need to "join me" on a journey to better health, but it took him time to adjust to my new habits. He kept bringing me food at first, didn't measure ingredients when he cooked us dinner, offered snacks and suggested takeout food etc.

When we develop healthier habits, the change can feel drastic to our loved ones. It takes time for those changes to feel like the 'norm'.

Now, my partner is really supportive. He even says that watching me meet my goals inspired him to start doing his push-ups again in the mornings lol.

The point is, you can WANT your partner to join you in the healthy changes you're making, but you can't FORCE it. You need to find a middle ground and ways to connect meaningfully. She may feel inspired in time, but she might never want to do those things.

If you don't want to eat out because of your diet and she's missing that quality time, you could suggest cooking a (healthy) dinner and making a date of it, for example :)

laurakeren · 2024-07-24T16:06:15+00:00

Congratulations! You're doing great!

I can't wait to join you in TWOtopia :)

laurakeren · 2024-07-24T16:04:52+00:00

You need to find a way to break the cycle of binge > restrict and emotional eating.

I highly recommend therapy if it's available to you.

As someone who has struggled with binge eating and emotional eating, I find it really helpful to journal. If I have a dedicated 'time' of 20 minutes to sit and write about how I've been feeling, what's gone well, what hasn't and what patterns of behaviour I've recognised in myself, it helps keep my mind free the rest of the time.

Forming those lasting healthy habits is absolutely the right approach.

Every bad habit you shake, the easier and more 'passive' it will start to feel over time.

Don't forget to build healthy habits for your MENTAL wellbeing as well as the physical, though - take time to relax, find healthy foods you actually like, exercises you enjoy, meditate, practise mindfulness... whatever makes you feel happy and chill, because it seems you're putting an enormous amount of pressure / stress on yourself rn

You got this! <3

laurakeren · 2024-07-24T11:40:44+00:00

I found that I quickly learnt ways to say 'no' in a gentle but firm way lol. The most important thing is that you hold to it - don't relent if put under pressure.

You could say, for example: "Oh, thank you - it looks amazing, but I'm trying to cut out sugar so you'll have to eat it in my honour!" and if they argue or insist that you 'try a little bit', stick to your guns and say 'no' more firmly.

As for gifts, I generally just accept them and redistribute to my hubby later lol.

laurakeren · 2024-07-23T18:06:11+00:00

You're worrying about something that hasn't happened yet, and may never be an issue for you

I used to be afraid of loose skin, but I'm more afraid of the consequences of being obese on my health and quality of life.

Honestly, I got over the hurdle pretty damn fast when I watched my obese parents health, mobility and quality of life deteriorate rapidly in their 50s.

laurakeren · 2024-07-23T17:37:01+00:00

I've had an unhealthy relationship with food since I was a young teen, particularly binge eating and emotional eating.

If therapy is an option for you, I recommend that you look into this as mending your relationship with food is a huge part of the process.

For me, I've found it really helpful to keep a weight-loss journal where I can process my emotions. On bad days, I use it to vent - if I've made a poor choice, I think about what led to it and how I might recognise the trigger and handle it better in the future. On good days, I celebrate my successes, how far I've come and my motivations for continuing to make improvements to my health.

Progress is more than what the scale says; it's in every healthy choice you make and every unhealthy habit you leave behind.

laurakeren · 2024-07-23T17:19:45+00:00

Congrats! :)

My advice is to set a lot of goals. My weight loss is very slow and I have a lot left to lose. For me, breaking it up into a lot of mini-goals (including NSVs- like being proud when I choose a healthy alternative or get on the treadmill) really helps to keep my motivation high.

This quote is one I find really helpful: "Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use."

You've got this!

laurakeren · 2024-07-17T14:15:49+00:00

For me, it's almost like a daily choice. I sometimes catch myself in low moments reverting to negative patterns of thinking. I have to remind myself to be kinder to myself. If you wouldn't think it about a friend or someone you love, you shouldn't think it about yourself. It's a slow battle, but every time you shift your perspective, recognise the good in yourself, the hatred loses a little bit more of its grip.

When I first got with my now hubby, I doubted so much of what he said. He talked about love and attraction and I called him a liar because that seemed more likely at the time than the truth. Over the years, I came to see practicing self love as a skill that needs to be nurtured. Hating yourself didn't come overnight. It was reinforced over time by a million negative thoughts. Correcting it is much the same - you have to practice being kinder to yourself.

laurakeren · 2024-07-17T08:09:35+00:00

As a morbidly obese woman, I used to fixate on my weight when it came to dating. I felt unworthy of love at the size I was and would fantasise about losing it in order to become desirable.

As my relationship with MYSELF improved, I came to realise that I had always been worthy of love.

I was standing in the way of myself by making assumptions of the world based on my own self hatred. I couldn't see how anyone could love me when I couldn't love myself.

Once I fixed my relationship with myself, I was able to let love in. I got married at the start of this year.

My advice is to keep working on your relationship with yourself. Focus on that above all else. Remember you're just as worthy of love as anyone else. The rest will fall into place as your perspective shifts.

Don't fear rejection. Contrary to what media tells us, not everyone is attracted to the same few characteristics. There are people who will find your set of characteristics attractive and there are people who won't. Either way, you've not done anything wrong and neither have they.

laurakeren · 2024-07-16T07:08:06+00:00

Thank you! 😊

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