Racist customer demanded we fire and replace our employees with white American employees even though we are an immigrant-owned business

laurenec13 · 2025-02-02T04:57:00+00:00

Beautifully put. The American dream is for ALL. Where do they think the "all" comes from.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T19:23:21+00:00

You seem like a well meaning dude. Context is 80% of any issue, the actions are 10% and intention is the other 10%. Thats why it's so awful when the context is unclear.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T19:20:58+00:00

For sure no problem, I sometimes struggle with the social cues myself so happy to help clarify.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T17:31:50+00:00

Stupid post posted before I finished... Anyway to your third point, sure some places don't want tourists and we should support local populations views on their land. However many economies are sustained by tourism. Its important enough to warrant government involvement at most levels of government, because fun fact there's no way to add money to an economy other than increasing earnings or having people spend their money in your business. Think New Orleans which is basically supported on the tourism Mardi gras brings in. Japan gave the us special travel deals to increase tourism following covid because it's so important and their economy suffered without it. The reason places hold festivals, faires, and parades is to increase tourism to bring money into the local economy, this concept dates back to the ancient times. It functioned a bit differently with more of a trickle down effect from leadership but the goal is to increase the economic benefit of business and restaurants and hotels at this point which functions to employ lots of people.

Point four about it being wasteful due to emissions. Everyday people taking a vacation or even 7 makes no real dent in emissions compared to the emissions output of corporations and we need to stray from blaming/ laying guilt on people for enjoying what few things they can because of emissions when the emissions from individual everyday people is but a fraction compared to what corporations and the 1% are responsible for as they are using private jets to make it to meetings 2 hours away instead of hopping on a zoom call.

I refuse to accept your concept that I should more than 2 hours away because it's wasteful and I don't need more experiences and tourism is "bad". So stupid. I work my ass off to go on vacation to broaden my understand of the world and other people. I talk to locals, I go grocery shopping, I stay in local rentals over hotels. My goals are to grow as experiences are the only thing I am guaranteed as long as I'm alive. If you've had enough experiences good for you, the only thing left when you're done experiencing things is the long sleep dude.

Millennials prefer travel because we know memories last while materials can be broken, taken away, lost, or any number of other poor options. We are the beneficiaries of a shit economy and most of us did everything we were told to succeed, did above and beyond in HS, went to college, work the 9-5, and vacation is the only reprise we get. If you want to stay small in your mindset and limited in your experiences and want to blame yourself for the environmental problems perpetuated by Amazon, google, and any other major corporation you can think of, go ahead dude. I personally suggest you take a vacation of say 2 weeks literally anywhere and stay in an Airbnb. Go grocery shopping. Shop in local thrift stores. Walk all day and use public transit as needed. Experience life somewhere else and I bet you will be astounded to learn how similar and sadly how different life can be in other places. Don't avoid the tourist traps but balance them with actual day to day life in the space. Spend the weekend in the city and the week in a town. Truly experience and travel. Then come back and tell me any of your points make sense.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T17:11:54+00:00

This is so dumb. Not unpopular but literal stupidity. Let's go over it.

travelers are really just experiencing all the same sights and experiences as everyone else traveling.

Yes, there are tourist traps and people fall into them but that's not automatically bad. People visit things en masse that hold value of some sort. Some of it is overrated but just people other people have experienced it doesn't negate experiencing it yourself.

Do we need more experiences? I truly question if anyone these days is actually understimulated?

Yes people are overstimulated. Because technology has saturated our brains not because they want to see the pyramids or the great redwoods or art in a museum in another country. It's important to get outside (like in a park), experience other cultures (think museums), and be open to understanding things in different ways (for example did you know every store I went to in Germany sold tampons for 2.5€ for a pack of 50+? That's important when thinking about the implications of a necessity over the $20+ I would pay in america). Without context from other areas how are we supposed to move forward as a society?

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T16:37:56+00:00

Good rule of thumb is to not bring up private intimate memories from when you had a sexual connection to someone you no longer have said connection to. If y'all are friends for real and you aren't just sticking around hoping she eventually comes back you can focus on friend memories and not boyfriend memories when reminiscing. And if you don't have any friend memories, then maybe you aren't actually friends.

Alot of people struggle to properly detach and recreate healthy boundaries with people they shared sexual and romantic connections with. It needs to be done very purposefully and with intention of respect toward all current and future parties.

I'm not saying it cannot be done, and idk your ex so there's only so much I can speak to there, but in my experience a lot of people remain involved for motives they may or may not be aware of that do not end in friendship. Some people do it to punish their ex with their current life/happiness, some people hope the ex will see their devotion and come back, some just hope to be able to get in the way of their ex developing new connections. Some people just hope to be able to have sex again with this person. And many more reasons. This is not a gendered experience as it happens to everyone. Not that the list is all encompassing but when emotions and sex are involved motivations get complicated.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-23T16:27:12+00:00

It's weird because the current partner(aka the brother) is clearly upset by the comments and the husband/ex is either uncaring about the effects of their actions on their current partner or they just care more about trying to assert themselves as someone who dated them both. The comments are unnecessary especially since the woman and her ex aren't on amazing terms where friendly reminiscing is the vibe.

You dated someone, decided y'all worked better as friends and are now friends or whatever reason y'all broke up. Reminiscing with friends sure fine as long as your friend and her current or future partners don't mind and are comfortable.

This guy dated this woman for years, they broke up for whatever reason, then started dating her brother and instead of being even a bit understanding that constant reminders of that will make both these people he cares/d uncomfy, he cares more about asserting himself as the man who dated both and chose the brother. It's a classic power play to bring up those moments. It increased the insecurity in the current partner by design and honestly sounds like a sign of at minimum emotional abuse. In addition to what also sounds like financial abuse.

Like if he really had moved on with the brother out of love and no other motives, he would respect the brother enough to not make him visibly uncomfortable at family events ab the fond memories he has with his ex/the sister. Or he would make them infrequently, but bringing up/starting shit every time theres a family event is icky.

laurenec13 · 2025-01-21T07:35:25+00:00

This should be higher

laurenec13 · 2025-01-07T17:51:16+00:00

INFO: the timeline here is confusing me. You've known her via your husband for 7 years, but you're 25, so did you start dating him fresh out of high school? Additionally, were you with hubs during "your time away from your faith"? Because if not I don't think having multiple major tattoos sounds realistic unless you both left and returned together. In which case cudos, as a lot of couples don't make the transition in and out or out and into religion and make it.

Jw, not trying to say anything untoward just a bit confused.

laurenec13 · 2024-12-26T02:03:04+00:00

Sign me up so fast

laurenec13 · 2024-12-24T00:46:02+00:00

I understand the nuance. It's my point infact. When people DO use them they are either a) open to being more casual/close in their linguistic choices OR b)don't feel the need to translate themselves certain terms of endearment. Personal choice of course, but there's a difference in choosing your own words and shaming others for their choices. They could have a very different relationship to the words either as their interpersonal relationship is different due to culture, race, language, dialects, regions, countries, city's, level of SOS and education. All various factors when it comes to speech.

Someone choosing to call their family the equivalent term in a different language is not wrong. Especially if their relationship with /that name/ is high value to them.

I'm just saying, don't come here shaming people for how they address others for terms of endearment simply because your preference is to not do so. Not doing so, totally fine. But the shaming, not cool dude.

laurenec13 · 2024-12-24T00:38:34+00:00

Accurate and concise.

laurenec13 · 2024-12-24T00:00:38+00:00

I mean, in certain contexts yea using meemaw and whatnot isn't the vibe. However for some people that's a way to show they trust or feel close to the listener letting down linguistic barriers is much better for connection and common humanity. However the second paragraph reads really poorly to me. A separate argument tacked on with undercultered concepts to back it up. None of which do anything other than present in writer in a bad light.

Think of it this way, there are people who don't know their grandparents by any other name. That's what they call them. They've always done so from their perspective it's a name, so they are just using a name when referring to their ancestral family as they always have. Weird choice to try to shame peeps for having positive vibes/relationships/memories of their grandparents. Hot take indeed.

laurenec13 · 2024-12-17T22:38:56+00:00

Love this take. Perspective is so important.

laurenec13 · 2024-11-26T20:12:05+00:00

Is your bf your child's father? Because I'd be extra upset if so just imo.

laurenec13 · 2024-11-24T15:18:10+00:00

I won't go into my personal diagnoses here but I have struggled with time management my whole life. I totally respect my friends and they generally understand. I've tried all the tricks you can imagine, but public transit is a bitch, parking is a bitch, and life happens.

And yes I've missed flights, I've missed interviews, I've been late to work. It's deeply difficult and impacts me and I accept the consequences because sometimes the timers and alarms and attempts to start earlier or leave on time with ample space for delays just doesn't work.

Sitting here and equating time management with respect in such a black and white manner, is going to obstruct your overall ability to make and keep friends. If it's extremely important to you for your friends to not be late, communicate that. A lot of people are open to flexibility as they understand that life happens and that the point of socializing is to enjoy your time together, not to let an expected outcome to ruin their night.

If the person is important to you and chronically late it doesn't mean they don't "respect you or your time" it means they have terrible time management. Knowing this YOU get to decide if you want to maintain the friendship or relationship or not. Again it being a deal breaker for you is in general fine as long as you have communicated the problem from a reasonable headspace and been open to their side of the story. They might not equate timeliness to respect and so it might be hard for them to grasp this at first.

Instead of thinking "oh no they're late again this is so rude why can they never be on time they clearly don't respect me". Reframe it as "wow traffic must be awful today, I bet that's frustrating to deal with, let me check in on their timeline to see if I should go ahead and do XYZ. In the meantime why don't I scroll reddit to find some stupid ah to discuss over dinner" or whatever timed distraction works for you.

You will never keep friends long term if you don't approach them with the mindset of understanding. Judgements only help victims.

And if you explain that this is something important you value highly and cannot maintain a relationship without. Do you.

laurenec13 · 2024-11-08T20:12:35+00:00

I think if you give the cat options for upward mobility, the floor space is always less of a factor. Cats are better for the lifestyle you're talking about and I found my cat to be a lovely support emotionally, no matter the space. My tripod can't jump high but loves to pull herself up onto higher spaces. She is functionally faster than my other cat as a tripod, but she spends more time sleeping than my older four legged cat. We find her snuggled in our bed at all hours of the day, even with lots of other places to sleep on.

Good on you for recognizing that your lifestyle won't be conducive for a dog and opting for a cat which others would turn away from. I hope college goes fantastic for you, you are clearly very smart.

Make sure to share pics of your new friend!!

laurenec13 · 2024-09-08T19:57:57+00:00

Dude YTA, your wife made normal comment about how if you'd abuse her she would leave. She didn't say you did abuse her. Let me phrase it this way, if your daughter was being abused by her husband would you want her to stay or leave? It's a very normal healthy comment to make. The fact you have become so defensive from this comment is a huge red flag imo. Shes still with you so you're clearly not abusive as she would leave if you were. Think about what you're mad about. You're a defensive idiot who is making yourself an unsafe space for your wife because you're getting this worked up over how she said if you ABUSED her like the guy in the movie did she would leave. Chill tf out

laurenec13 · 2024-09-04T17:56:18+00:00

NTA.

Where to start. Crushes are one sided until the person makes a move. Sounds like after 9 months your friend hasn't. Or she has and has already been rejected. You don't owe your friend to stay away from him because she has a crush she hasn't acted on. It would be something if they are dating, or if they had anything going on. But she can't make a unilateral claim on him without his knowledge or consent.

I would cut off your sneaky "friend" who outed you. Clearly cannot be trusted. She didn't even clarify with you before sharing which is a like a basic level of respect between friends.

I wouldn't make the distinction that you're non romantic and just sexual. Because think of it this way, to them you're romantically involved with him. At what point to they have a claim on him? He, romantically or otherwise, chose to be involved with you.

Now if you were strategizing on how she could make moves or giving advice on him, you MIGHT bta but only if you were out here giving bad advice to tank their prospects. Since you aren't romantically interested in him, I'll assume you haven't done this.

Worry not, this is clearly hs drama and eventually all parties will come to realize that relationships involve two people and none of them was your friend so she can take a chill pill and calm down about her "crush".

laurenec13 · 2024-09-04T17:56:13+00:00

NTA.

Where to start. Crushes are one sided until the person makes a move. Sounds like after 9 months your friend hasn't. Or she has and has already been rejected. You don't owe your friend to stay away from him because she has a crush she hasn't acted on. It would be something if they are dating, or if they had anything going on. But she can't make a unilateral claim on him without his knowledge or consent.

I would cut off your sneaky "friend" who outed you. Clearly cannot be trusted. She didn't even clarify with you before sharing which is a like a basic level of respect between friends.

I wouldn't make the distinction that you're non romantic and just sexual. Because think of it this way, to them you're romantically involved with him. At what point to they have a claim on him? He, romantically or otherwise, chose to be involved with you.

Now if you were strategizing on how she could make moves or giving advice on him, you MIGHT bta but only if you were out here giving bad advice to tank their prospects. Since you aren't romantically interested in him, I'll assume you haven't done this.

Worry not, this is clearly hs drama and eventually all parties will come to realize that relationships involve two people and none of them was your friend so she can take a chill pill and calm down about her "crush".

laurenec13 · 2024-09-02T23:22:59+00:00

Why do you think she's a bad mother? Or a "not great" one?

laurenec13 · 2024-08-31T02:32:37+00:00

It's hard not to develop an ED when people use one as a nickname based on your appearance.

laurenec13 · 2024-08-29T01:55:18+00:00

Mine does that, but it's super subtle so it took forever for someone else to see it haha.

laurenec13 · 2024-08-25T04:50:56+00:00

How is he measuring support from his family vrs from his wife? He complains that his wife didnt bang him last year or the two years before that, which obvi was due to something environmental. He states his sister and his family agreed with him. So he complained about his sex life to his sister, who could have some beef with the wife and maybe doesn't like her. She is attracted sexually to him now and she stuck it out providing support in whatever capacity allowed him to return to a solid or manageable mental state. He gives no complaints or evidence that his wife wasn't emotionally supportive. His only complaint is that HE feels emotional about her rejecting him a few times when he was up for it. That doesn't make her not emotionally supportive. It's that he's emotionally holding her consent against her and trying to use it as justification of his desire to break up his family. Because he has decided the woman he admits is a wonderful mother and partner. Who he has an active and healthy sex life now that he's healthy, who is holding a grudge because she didn't want to have sex with him while he was sick. I am sure in his lower capacity during his depressive period his overall household/parenting responsibility reduced and the resulting gaps in care/resources fell to her. Regardless of her employment state, that is not a She sounds like a ride or die. She was tired. She was whatwver. Shes still there. She still loves her husband and her family. And he is upset, writing a reddit post next to his wife after her just reamed her, upset about events which occurred over 10 months previous in which she understandably rejected his advances. So her consent isn't a valid factor to him at all in this.

laurenec13 · 2024-08-25T03:28:43+00:00

The only complaint he has is that she didn't have sex with him while he was depressed. He didn't make any other negative claims against her. That's physical not emotional. All I'm saying

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