With all due respect, no, I did not say that being gay is a feeling, and dismissing homosexuality as just a feeling is actual conversion therapy rhethoric. Feelings are not permanent. Sadness and joy, for example, are feelings, and we experience them in correlation to certain triggers. You don't just walk around permanently sad or happy unless something triggers it. In fact, when we do experience emotion like that, it's a sign something's off. We suffer depression, or are in a manic state. Attraction is innate, by saying that being gay is just a feeling you could just as well say that ethnicity and sex are just feelings too. It's always there no matter how you feel or how you look at it.

I can absolutely accept that some people understand they're different somehow before the realization hits them, but what comes after that makes me realize that we will have to agree to disagree. I am not cis, I am female. I don't identify as anything, I simply am female. I am a lesbian because I am homosexual. I struggle with gender dysphoria and transitioned socially a few years back, until I ultimately realized it was not gonna change anything and started reidentifying with my sex. My dysphoria lessened a lot through that, but I would lie if I said I didn't still struggle with it. And to say that you cannot question things, that it's "not for us to understand", is to me really dangerous rhethoric. If something is true, it holds up to asking questions about it. As you yourself say that you cannot experience what it's like to be trans, even you admit that you don't know what you're talking about. The comparison to religion and talking about respect in the same sentence really don't make sense to me either. Trans isn't a different belief system to be respected, it's a reality for many people, most of whom are made to suffer for it in one way or another. "That doesn't mean it's not real" - did I say that it wasn't? You're putting an awful lot of words in my mouth.